Opening Pandoras Box

[Just JT]

Last January my dad died suddenly. Long story short, I was put into foster care, and all his stuff was sold off and put into trust. I was recently given a shoebox with stuff in it that im told that is for me, I might want this stuff.

I want to open it and see what's inside, but it's scaring the shit out of me. I want to know if there is some answer to some question I have, but don't know how or what to ask. But I'm also afraid of the answer is, or what's inside.

Should I open it or wait? Should I have someone with me, or be alone? I have all these feelings, and I'm not even sure I want the box or to even know it was ever there in the first place.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Well, I believe you should only open it when you feel ready for it. When my mum passed away, about 2 years later I found a birthday letter she wrote for me for when I turned 18 and I didn't really feel like opening it (and also I'm not 18 yet, lol).

You shouldn't be afraid of anything, because you were given it for a reason, so just open it when you're ready, don't feel like you need to open it now or later or ever. :)

[Just JT]

Did you open yours?

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Did you open yours?

Well, eventually I did, and it made me really upset but it was really reliving and I'm happy I did so.

[Tyson S]

I know the feeling. You are scared to open it because it's the last thing of his to open.

It's all up to you when you do open it, but when you do it will make you sad but that sadness can turn into strength just think of all the happy times together :)

[Just JT]

I am scared to open it, and I feel like a wimp for being scared to open a freakin shoe box to. I mean yeah I get I'll probably be sad and cry and stuff, just feels like wtf!!
But your right, I don't need to open it now, I can just leave it there on top of my dresser until I'm ready

[SkyClad33605]

If you are still grieving his loss it may be best to wait.

There's no shame in waiting. When you feel ready then rip off the bandage.

You will probably have a strong emotional reaction no matter what and that is to be expected and normal.

You are on your own time table.

[Just JT]

Hmm, your right, now I feel like a spoiled little 8 year old because I feel like I want to know what's inside
So if I'm indecisive like how I'm feeling, I don't think I'm ready yet.

[Kirina]

The shoe box is yours to keep so no rush.

I think that if you open it now, you will rage. I'd suggest to put it away and let it dust.

If you wait, opening it may hurt even more because nostalgia will get tied to the shoebox itself, but at least you be calm and in a better state of mind, it's easier to smile and remember the happy memories.

[SethfromMI]

your not a wimp man. only open it when and if you are ready too

[Just JT]

Thanks everyone. In going to put it in my closet on the shelf and forget about it for a while
I think when I don't feel anxiety about it, I'll probably be ready to look i side
I'm not ready, I know that, thanks

[phuckphace]

when you do decide to do it, bring a friend (a good one). having someone there to support you can make all the difference.

[Just JT]

I was thinking that also, it's a good idea. Thanks for suggesting that.
Just in case.