Staying with my crush

[Coldfire]

I have a crush on my dads girlfriends daughter, and next week, we will be staying in a hotel for the week, as we are away on holiday, Im staying with her and her friend for a week. She doesn't know i love her and im scared that i wont be able to hide my feelings, im very worried about how its gonna go.

Im 14, my crush is 16, and her friend is 16

[SethfromMI]

well since she is your the daughter of your dad's girlfriend, I would not try anything with her. think if she possibly became your step-sister. just resist your feelings on this one

[wolf g]

well since she is your the daughter of your dad's girlfriend, I would not try anything with her. think if she possibly became your step-sister. just resist your feelings on this one

i think you help him because if i was have any idea i will help him

[SethfromMI]

i think you help him because if i was have any idea i will help him

in that type of situation so many things could go wrong. it is just best if the OP does not act on those romantic/sexually attracted feelings towards her

[Vermilion]

I would say don't act on your feelings.

[Coldfire]

SethfromMI twin Wolf_g

I really like her though, and im still getting over my kinda true love who now lives in denmark, we didnt go out, just very good friends, and now she lives 4000+ miles away.

What should i do as im in a hotel room with them?

[wolf g]

in that type of situation so many things could go wrong. it is just best if the OP does not act on those romantic/sexually attracted feelings towards her

yes wright actually i really don't care about relationshipes or something like that

[Vermilion]

SethfromMI twin Wolf_g

I really like her though, and im still getting over my kinda true love who now lives in denmark, we didnt go out, just very good friends, and now she lives 4000+ miles away.

What should i do as im in a hotel room with them?

You can tell her how you feel. It sounds like your on the rebound this isn't the best time to act on feelings

[Interstellar]

Like everyone else said above, you really need to think about what you're saying here. What if you're dad marries his girlfriend? Now you're dating your step-sister. What if your dad breaks up with her? He probably wouldn't like the fact that you're dating his ex's daughter.

As far as staying in the hotel room goes, don't do anything you'll regret. You don't want things to be awkward every time you're together, which could end up being a lot if your dad marries her mom.

[impan1019]

i dont recommend acting on these feelings as you seem to be rebounding.

[SethfromMI]

SethfromMI twin Wolf_g

I really like her though, and im still getting over my kinda true love who now lives in denmark, we didnt go out, just very good friends, and now she lives 4000+ miles away.

What should i do as im in a hotel room with them?

why ask if you are not going to even listen to the advice being given to you? if you do this, you could ruin your father's relationship. or if oyu end up having sex, you could be fucking your future step-sister. I don't care how good she looks, DON'T DO IT !!!!!

[Abhorrence]

Well for a start, most sixteen year olds don't really date 14 year olds because of the maturity and development difference. Secondly, this could have some negative repercussions for your father's relationship if he and his girlfriend do not approve which you don't really want to be the cause of. I'd suggest you try to get away from these feelings, meet new people, etc. If you did end up in a relationship with her, it would be really awkward if your dad ends up marrying her mother and also if you break up it could be even more awkward.

[Uniquemind]

4 things:


1. Your 14, focus on school for straight A's and intelligence, because girls like smarts. Then get a job and start saving up for a cool modern car which is gonna cost upwards of 29K-45K. Because independence is cool and a car is it's own romantic environment if used correctly.

2. Acknowledge your feelings as normal, stop shaming yourself for them. Fantasize as your heart desires to get the edge off, but don't be a pervert or creepy stalker about it.

3. Become a legal adult at 18 and if she'll still single THEN go for it and ask her. You'll be 18, she'll be 20, and you guys aren't blood related so the law is cool with you.

4. You can make things awkward between you, and everyone else in your family. If you do anything like reveal this to your step sister. If you had too you could trust your dad about this provided he keep confidentiality.

[Coldfire]

4 things:


1. Your 14, focus on school for straight A's and intelligence, because girls like smarts. Then get a job and start saving up for a cool modern car which is gonna cost upwards of 29K-45K. Because independence is cool and a car is it's own romantic environment if used correctly.

2. Acknowledge your feelings as normal, stop shaming yourself for them. Fantasize as your heart desires to get the edge off, but don't be a pervert or creepy stalker about it.

3. Become a legal adult at 18 and if she'll still single THEN go for it and ask her. You'll be 18, she'll be 20, and you guys aren't blood related so the law is cool with you.

4. You can make things awkward between you, and everyone else in your family. If you do anything like reveal this to your step sister. If you had too you could trust your dad about this provided he keep confidentiality.
I ended up messaging that i liked her, and she hasnt replied :/

I dont know why i messaged her but i guess i wasnt thinking straight.

[Uniquemind]

I ended up messaging that i liked her, and she hasnt replied :/

I dont know why i messaged her but i guess i wasnt thinking straight.

The ball is in her court now as they say.

Of course your not thinking straight, your emotional and are wound up like a spring.

I've rarely seen anybody use their emotions in a controlled calculated fashion in tandem with their rational mind.

Of those I've read about who can do this, they're extremely manipulative and meet the criteria of a psychopath.


So don't beat yourself up about this. Take a deep breathe and chill and whatever answer she gives just be cool about it.

And be non-apologetic about your feelings, just don't be a lecherous boy.

[SkyClad33605]

If she says no, or rejects you please please please respect that and don't try to force something.