Can't cum during sex?

[ashdaniel]

I only have one relationship so far is with my ex bf. When I have I have sex with him I am not able to cum. I am able to make him cum but no matter how hard I try I can't cum. I want to ask what do you think is the problem? Is it normal and does it ever happen to you either gf or bf?

[Bluebyrd]

I've seen a few threads on here like this and it seems that it's just the pressure of proving that you can cum to the other person. I'm not entirely sure though.

[Apassionato]

Is it just the physical act of sex, the in and out, that won't allow you to cum? Or are you COMPLETELY unable to cum when you are naked with him?

I sometimes sleep with guys and have anal sex with them (as top) and won't be able to cum from the sex itself, I end up jerking off on them or cumming as they give me oral. It depends on the guy, how his ass feels, how good of a bottom he is, if the position is awkward...

[Zerg]

Maybe just nervous. I've heard of people who couldn't in the moment. I would say relax and focus on your feelings other than the physical part of it.

[Zachary G]

it could just be psychological - maybe the two of you are really nervous about what you are doing and it interferes with your ability to perform. Are you able to cum when you jo? Is he?

[PaleBoy]

Try new types of stimulation when masturbating, perhaps it´s that.

[nklarke]

If you can't cum at all you could ask the doctor. (but depend you age).

[Sam-9876]

Can you cum through other means like masturbating?

[GoGoDiego]

Maybe you are thinking of something else. Maybe you are nervous, as what others said. Or maybe you do not enjoy at all.

[ashdaniel]

Maybe you are thinking of something else. Maybe you are nervous, as what others said. Or maybe you do not enjoy at all.

That what I am thinking all the time, I have feeling toward guys and check out guys but the experience I have with my first bf make me questioning about my sexuality. I havent date a girl yet so I wonder am I going to be the same with the girl.

[Andre 99]

It has happened to me before.
I hada girlfriend who would jerk me off, but I could never seem to cum when she did it :(

[bswain98]

It could be due to an over exposure to porn and jacking off. Sometimes not having the stimulation of porn or the same strokes that you may have while maturbating can cause you to not be able to cum during sex. I have the same issue, so I just don't do it that much if I know sex is a possibility.

[will0c]

If you can cum other ways than sex with him, maybe sex with him isn't right. Nothing wrong with letting him suck or jerk you until you cum. Maybe sex until he cums and then have him do something to get you to shoot on him.

[JavierDolan]

Well, from your photo I'm assuming that you're a male. Which begs the question if you're a top or a bottom. If you're a bottom, I'd say it's pretty normal for you not to be able to cum, most can't, without some kind of extra simulation like jacking off. If you're a top, it's unusual, but not very weird, maybe it's just not your thing??

[Slashman1]

I have the same issue it takes forever for a guy to get me off and I think its just being nervous or scared a little bit but just because you can't cum doesn't mean you don't like him or other guys its not the sex part that tells you if you like guys its the way you feel towards them

[Dat Derpy Horse]

I was the same had to jerk off to cum

[Emerald Dream]

I was the same had to jerk off to cum

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