What is my sexuality?

[Ratman1234]

So I've been pondering over this question for a bit less than two years and I still haven't come up with a positive answer. So I'm really confused about my sexuality. I like girls but I also like looking at guys. When I watch porn I watch gay porn every night whilst I hardly ever watch straight porn. But I've never imagined having a relationship with a guy whilst I have with a girl. Not because of what other people would think I just can't imagine loving a guy. So can anyone help me out? And has anyone had the same experience?

[thegreatgatz]

Sounds like you are bisexual and heteromantic!

[Ratman1234]

Sounds like you are bisexual and heteromantic!
Um...what is here romantic?

[thegreatgatz]

Um...what is here romantic?

Heteromantic= hetero+romantic. It means your romantic attraction, or inclination to seek relationships, is only with the opposite sex. Your sexuality is bisexuality, however, or at least I think

[Ratman1234]

Heteromantic= hetero+romantic. It means your romantic attraction, or inclination to seek relationships, is only with the opposite sex. Your sexuality is bisexuality, however, or at least I think

Ok Thx. I'm still open to replies

[ashdaniel]

Well, it doesnt surprise me that you are confuse. Sexuality is pretty complicated sometimes. I have the same question since I enter my teenage year. Not until recent year, I find out that I am bisexual. It is okay to confuse or question. It doesnt matter what sexuality you are. You are still you. Just live your life and be happy. Anything else shouldnt matter much and one day you will eventually figure out.

[Ratman1234]

Well, it doesnt surprise me that you are confuse. Sexuality is pretty complicated sometimes. I have the same question since I enter my teenage year. Not until recent year, I find out that I am bisexual. It is okay to confuse or question. It doesnt matter what sexuality you are. You are still you. Just live your life and be happy. Anything else shouldnt matter much and one day you will eventually figure out.

I get what u are saying but I would rather know what my sexuality is than me confused.

[ashdaniel]

I get what u are saying but I would rather know what my sexuality is than me confused.

I know what you mean but figure it out is hard. Especially you are so young. There are so many influence may change your mind through out your teenage years. It is too early to seek out for answer. If you are urging to get a date, I see your point but if not just relax. You never know until you try it.

[Desuetude]

You're only 13 and I can bet that even in a couple years you might find yourself attracted to different people than you are now. Sexuality is pretty fluid and you shouldnt have to shove yourself in a box to have something to tell people to explain yourself. Romantic and sexual attraction can be measured separately but telling people you're this-romantic and that-sexual can be tedious.

If it makes you feel better have the separate bisexual heteromantic labels (which is what I'd say you were from your OP, agreeing with thegreatgatz, but only you know how you feel to decide if this suits you) - but if that was how I felt I'd just use the label bisexual because its recognised and includes both sex's so people know that you could be inclined to go either way. It's also a pretty big umbrella term so you can basically like anyone under the term 'bisexual' and its not that constricting which is good.

[Abhorrence]

As much as it is entirely frustrating, I doubt there is a way to truly know your sexuality at age 13. Everything may stay the same for you in a few years but with the mix of hormones and all the things going on during puberty, there is a big chance that your sexual identity will change a lot over the next few years. Labels are all well and good but since they can change so much at your current age, I really see no point in attempting to put a sticker on it. I think you should just go with the flow for a while and if you're certain that things aren't changing then try and find out what you believe you are. The answers above are a good indication of a label you are currently fitting under but I highly doubt that it is going to stay the same.

[PaleBoy]

I think you are a heteroromantic bisexual, as said above. But at your age it´s still early to say, it might evolve further.

[impan1019]

probably heteroromantic and bisexual. im panromantic and bisexual

[Just JT]

Keep in mind, like anything else in life, you never know what or if you will like something, until you try it.
Think of icecream, any particular flavor you never tried?
Well, sex/sexuality is kinda like icecream, we all know we like it, just don't know if we wana try a new flavor unles we know we're going to like it or not before we risk the $5 it's guna cost.
The money thing is just a medafore (sp)

[PaleBoy]

Keep in mind, like anything else in life, you never know what or if you will like something, until you try it.
Think of icecream, any particular flavor you never tried?
Well, sex/sexuality is kinda like icecream, we all know we like it, just don't know if we wana try a new flavor unles we know we're going to like it or not before we risk the $5 it's guna cost.
The money thing is just a medafore (sp)

I respectfully disagree.
Heterosexuals know they are heterosexuals even when they are virgin, and i think it´s exactly the same for LGB people....Sexuality is about attraction (romantic and/or sexual), not experience.

While it is true that a certain romantic/sexual experience may trigger a deeper introspection in one, discovering previously hidden feelings, i definitely don´t think that sexuality is triggered by experience; if anything, quite the contrary.

[Just JT]

That's fine, no problem, all I am trying to say is that while we are going through puberty, we are going to feel all kinds of different feeling, many very confusing, causing us to question our sexuality. Does not mean everyone will have the same feeling or experiences though. So with that, just saying to try something if you think you may like it because you'll never know unles you try a new flavor

[everlong]

It sounds like you're bisexual

[Zachary G]

discovering ones sexuality is a long and drawn out process that doesnt happen over night, its something that takes time, patience, experimentation, deep soul searching, and acceptance. I am sure we all wish we could just give you the answer, but its something that we all experience and have to go through - some earlier than others - but its nothing you cant handle and know you can always come here for input. Good luck.

[JavierDolan]

From your description it sounds like you're a bisexual a-homo-romantic, meaning that you desire sex with both genders, but only desire a relationship with the opposite sex.

Don't be held down by a bunch of words though. You don't have to stick to this to please anyone but yourself.