Sex, Sexuality, Self-Esteem

[MeliWelli]

After losing my virginity, and developing a bit more, I feel a little bit torn between embracing my sexuality publicly and still being a "good girl". A few guys and former friends have called me a slut and worse (a lot of it based unfairly on my older sister's "reputation") but other friends/family/people I know seem to think it's all a part of growing up and becoming a woman...I think about these questions once in a while and wonder what others might think as well:

1) Was losing a virginity a positive experience for you?

2) Do you find more people/teens judge you negatively when they know you have sex?

3) Did you feel better about your body/self-esteem when you lost your virginity?

4) After losing your virginity did you find guys in particular treat you differently when they know?

5) Are you still uncomfortable telling people you have sex/masturbate?

6) Do you think guys can genuinely appreciate a girls looks without looking at you like a "piece of meat" if they find you attractive?

7) On the opposite side of 6), does knowing guys are that turned on by you, make you feel good/empowered?

8) Since having sex, are you more or less worried about looking good?

9) When you share what you do sexually with your friends, does it ever feel like a competition?

10) Are there things you want to do sexually that you simply don't out of fear of judgement?

11) Do you think its possible to have no strings attached sex and still be respected by that person/others?

12) Who/what influences your views on sex/sexuality the most?

13) What sex acts/things are "degrading"/disrespectful in your opinion?

14) If your bf/partner wanted those things, would you do them anyway?

15) Would morals/beliefs stop you from doing something physically enjoyable?

16) Would you stop being friends with a girl if she did "those" things?

17) Even if you liked someone, would you stop hanging out with them if other people thought they were a "slut/whore"?

18) Outside of an orgasm, what's the best /most enjoyable thing about sex for you?

19) What's been the worst/least enjoyable thing about sex for you?

20) Do you eve feel any pressure to live up to the standards of beauty/sex put out by the media/porn?

21) What are your major turn ons?

22) What are your major turn offs?

23) What qualities (physical/emotional/mental) would your ideal boyfriend/partner have?

24) What things do you want most/look forward to in a relationship?

25) Can you be just as happy when you're single compared to when you're in a relationship

That was a mouthful lol.

[Daniella98]

1) Was losing a virginity a positive experience for you? Yes

2) Do you find more people/teens judge you negatively when they know you have sex? No

3) Did you feel better about your body/self-esteem when you lost your virginity? Yes

4) After losing your virginity did you find guys in particular treat you differently when they know? Yes I think so, but not in a negative way

5) Are you still uncomfortable telling people you have sex/masturbate? No

6) Do you think guys can genuinely appreciate a girls looks without looking at you like a "piece of meat" if they find you attractive? Yes some guys can

7) On the opposite side of 6), does knowing guys are that turned on by you, make you feel good/empowered? Maybe a little bit

8) Since having sex, are you more or less worried about looking good? No difference

9) When you share what you do sexually with your friends, does it ever feel like a competition? No

10) Are there things you want to do sexually that you simply don't out of fear of judgement? No Im pretty forward

11) Do you think its possible to have no strings attached sex and still be respected by that person/others? Of course

12) Who/what influences your views on sex/sexuality the most? Friends and society

13) What sex acts/things are "degrading"/disrespectful in your opinion? Sex you do in spite of not wanting it

14) If your bf/partner wanted those things, would you do them anyway? No

15) Would morals/beliefs stop you from doing something physically enjoyable? No

16) Would you stop being friends with a girl if she did "those" things? Of course not

17) Even if you liked someone, would you stop hanging out with them if other people thought they were a "slut/whore"? No

18) Outside of an orgasm, what's the best /most enjoyable thing about sex for you? Im not sure

19) What's been the worst/least enjoyable thing about sex for you? Not sure

20) Do you eve feel any pressure to live up to the standards of beauty/sex put out by the media/porn? No

21) What are your major turn ons? Too many to say

22) What are your major turn offs? Hmmm

23) What qualities (physical/emotional/mental) would your ideal boyfriend/partner have? To be open and daring and sweet

24) What things do you want most/look forward to in a relationship? Love

25) Can you be just as happy when you're single compared to when you're in a relationship? Love in a relationship must be the best

That was a mouthful. Yes and sorry for the short answers

[Laibachd]

1) Was losing a virginity a positive experience for you? Yes

2) Do you find more people/teens judge you negatively when they know you have sex? Not at all!

3) Did you feel better about your body/self-esteem when you lost your virginity? Yes

4) After losing your virginity did you find guys in particular treat you differently when they know? Mmhh i´m not sure...

5) Are you still uncomfortable telling people you have sex/masturbate? No

6) Do you think guys can genuinely appreciate a girls looks without looking at you like a "piece of meat" if they find you attractive? Yes

7) On the opposite side of 6), does knowing guys are that turned on by you, make you feel good/empowered? Kind of haha

8) Since having sex, are you more or less worried about looking good? A bit more ^^

9) When you share what you do sexually with your friends, does it ever feel like a competition? Rarely so

10) Are there things you want to do sexually that you simply don't out of fear of judgement? A few haha

11) Do you think its possible to have no strings attached sex and still be respected by that person/others? Of course!!

12) Who/what influences your views on sex/sexuality the most? My personal beliefs and some philosophical doctrines

13) What sex acts/things are "degrading"/disrespectful in your opinion? If there is consent, it´s not degrading

14) If your bf/partner wanted those things, would you do them anyway? Depends

15) Would morals/beliefs stop you from doing something physically enjoyable? My beliefs are very hedonistic ^^

16) Would you stop being friends with a girl if she did "those" things? Not at all!

17) Even if you liked someone, would you stop hanging out with them if other people thought they were a "slut/whore"? Nope!

18) Outside of an orgasm, what's the best /most enjoyable thing about sex for you? Being naked, the intimacy, and the fun!

19) What's been the worst/least enjoyable thing about sex for you? Maybe breaking the ice the first time...?

20) Do you eve feel any pressure to live up to the standards of beauty/sex put out by the media/porn? No

21) What are your major turn ons? Fitness, confidence, intelligence ^^

22) What are your major turn offs? Laziness, anything unattractive

23) What qualities (physical/emotional/mental) would your ideal boyfriend/partner have? To be a fun person, have a fit body, and to be insightful and original!

24) What things do you want most/look forward to in a relationship? Intimacy and fun

25) Can you be just as happy when you're single compared to when you're in a relationship? I think so

[MeliWelli]

1) Was losing a virginity a positive experience for you? Yes - it was with my first boyfriend that I'm still with

2) Do you find more people/teens judge you negatively when they know you have sex? Some girls I know but the majority of people are fine

3) Did you feel better about your body/self-esteem when you lost your virginity? My boyfriend always made me feel good about myself, but I did feel more positive about myself/my body

4) After losing your virginity did you find guys in particular treat you differently when they know? The guys that don't know me well try to get into my pants a lot more

5) Are you still uncomfortable telling people you have sex/masturbate? Some people - especially adults and girls I just met

6) Do you think guys can genuinely appreciate a girls looks without looking at you like a "piece of meat" if they find you attractive? Outside of family and a few other guys I do feel like the majority of guys look at me like a piece of meat

7) On the opposite side of 6), does knowing guys are that turned on by you, make you feel good/empowered? Hate to admit it but yes, it gives me a certain satisfaction/sense of power

8) Since having sex, are you more or less worried about looking good? I am more conscious about my body/looking good but not in a crazy/obsessive way

9) When you share what you do sexually with your friends, does it ever feel like a competition? Sometimes, a few girls I know make me feel that way

10) Are there things you want to do sexually that you simply don't out of fear of judgement? Definitely

11) Do you think its possible to have no strings attached sex and still be respected by that person/others? A few guys yes, the majority no

12) Who/what influences your views on sex/sexuality the most? My older sister, and my boyfriend

13) What sex acts/things are "degrading"/disrespectful in your opinion? I still think things like anal and blowjobs are looked upon by some people as degrading by others but I don't feel degraded/disrespected when I do them personally

14) If your bf/partner wanted those things, would you do them anyway? I would do nearly anything for my boyfriend as long as he continues to respect me, and doesn't do anything that would make me feel unsafe

15) Would morals/beliefs stop you from doing something physically enjoyable? Generally no

16) Would you stop being friends with a girl if she did "those" things? I never judge other girls for what they do in the bedroom

17) Even if you liked someone, would you stop hanging out with them if other people thought they were a "slut/whore"? I wouldn't

18) Outside of an orgasm, what's the best /most enjoyable thing about sex for you? The laughs/intimacy/being close/feeling loved

19) What's been the worst/least enjoyable thing about sex for you? Sometimes the emotional complications that happen when you bring in someone else

20) Do you eve feel any pressure to live up to the standards of beauty/sex put out by the media/porn? Not always, but more on the looks side, than the sex side

21) What are your major turn ons? Guys and girls that take care of themselves, are happy, and are open minded

22) What are your major turn offs? People who are rude/inconsiderate, judgemental, or overly aggressive

23) What qualities (physical/emotional/mental) would your ideal boyfriend/partner have? To be my best friend, someone who always wants to grow and learn, is kind and thoughtful, and passionate!

24) What things do you want most/look forward to in a relationship? Having someone to share all my secrets and thoughts with, and enjoying all the special and little moments together

25) Can you be just as happy when you're single compared to when you're in a relationship? I'm not sure, really hard for me to imagine being without my boyfriend now

[MeliWelli]

Thanks Daniella and Laibachd!

[Daniella98]

Thanks Daniella and Laibachd!

Youre welcome. Anytime :-)

[Laibachd]

Thanks Daniella and Laibachd!

It was fun, thanks to you ^^

[BlackParadePixie]

1) Was losing a virginity a positive experience for you? Eventually, yes.

2) Do you find more people/teens judge you negatively when they know you have sex? no

3) Did you feel better about your body/self-esteem when you lost your virginity? Not for a while.

4) After losing your virginity did you find guys in particular treat you differently when they know? Not really

5) Are you still uncomfortable telling people you have sex/masturbate? not at all. I don't go around blurting it out...but if someone asks about it, I don't have a problem being honest.

6) Do you think guys can genuinely appreciate a girls looks without looking at you like a "piece of meat" if they find you attractive? Yes, some guys.

7) On the opposite side of 6), does knowing guys are that turned on by you, make you feel good/empowered?Sometimes

8) Since having sex, are you more or less worried about looking good? I don't really worry about it

9) When you share what you do sexually with your friends, does it ever feel like a competition? no

10) Are there things you want to do sexually that you simply don't out of fear of judgement? yes

11) Do you think its possible to have no strings attached sex and still be respected by that person/others? possibly

12) Who/what influences your views on sex/sexuality the most? Well the things my mom told me when I was younger were eye opening. Today its just mostly about learning and discovering what I want/like.

13) What sex acts/things are "degrading"/disrespectful in your opinion? Forced sex, treating the woman like shit.

14) If your bf/partner wanted those things, would you do them anyway? no

15) Would morals/beliefs stop you from doing something physically enjoyable? none

16) Would you stop being friends with a girl if she did "those" things? no

17) Even if you liked someone, would you stop hanging out with them if other people thought they were a "slut/whore"? no

18) Outside of an orgasm, what's the best /most enjoyable thing about sex for you? Feeling of closeness/togetherness with another person

19) What's been the worst/least enjoyable thing about sex for you? sometimes its a bit messy :p

20) Do you ever feel any pressure to live up to the standards of beauty/sex put out by the media/porn? no

21) What are your major turn ons? whispering dirty things in my ear, softly caressing my legs/inner thighs, watching a guy get a hard on

22) What are your major turn offs? bad attitudes, smelly boys/girls, being too cocky

23) What qualities (physical/emotional/mental) would your ideal boyfriend/partner have? intelligent, friendly, caring, strong arms, family oriented

24) What things do you want most/look forward to in a relationship? being able to talk/communicate, spending time with each other, sharing inside jokes

25) Can you be just as happy when you're single compared to when you're in a relationship Yeah I think I can

[Elysium]

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[SkyClad33605]

1) Was losing a virginity a positive experience for you? So far I've only had sex with women, but yes my first time was positive

2) Do you find more people/teens judge you negatively when they know you have sex? I am only judged negatively by self righteous types

3) Did you feel better about your body/self-esteem when you lost your virginity? I felt desired and generally better, but I also didn't treat my virginity as anything sacred

4) After losing your virginity did you find guys in particular treat you differently when they know? The women who know do

5) Are you still uncomfortable telling people you have sex/masturbate? Depends on the person, but if I'm interested in them then no

6) Do you think guys can genuinely appreciate a girls looks without looking at you like a "piece of meat" if they find you attractive? You'd have to ask them

7) On the opposite side of 6), does knowing guys are that turned on by you, make you feel good/empowered? In a way

8) Since having sex, are you more or less worried about looking good? About the same

9) When you share what you do sexually with your friends, does it ever feel like a competition? It can, but that's only with a few friends

10) Are there things you want to do sexually that you simply don't out of fear of judgement? No, sex should be a safe place free of judgments

11) Do you think its possible to have no strings attached sex and still be respected by that person/others? Yes, I have had a couple fwb

12) Who/what influences your views on sex/sexuality the most? No one person influences me the most, but I guess my mom, she is always telling me to be free

13) What sex acts/things are "degrading"/disrespectful in your opinion? Any sex act that the person receiving isn't into, after that everything is perspective

14) If your bf/partner wanted those things, would you do them anyway? Depends on the act and how much they wanted them

15) Would morals/beliefs stop you from doing something physically enjoyable? I don't think so

16) Would you stop being friends with a girl if she did "those" things? Nope, that's her choice

17) Even if you liked someone, would you stop hanging out with them if other people thought they were a "slut/whore"? No, other people don;t influence me

18) Outside of an orgasm, what's the best /most enjoyable thing about sex for you? Being with the other person

19) What's been the worst/least enjoyable thing about sex for you? All the bull that society slobs onto it

20) Do you eve feel any pressure to live up to the standards of beauty/sex put out by the media/porn? Probably

21) What are your major turn ons? Personal

22) What are your major turn offs? Personal

23) What qualities (physical/emotional/mental) would your ideal boyfriend/partner have? Someone attractive, empathetic, intelligent, and open minded

24) What things do you want most/look forward to in a relationship? Discovering each other and growing together

25) Can you be just as happy when you're single compared to when you're in a relationship Of course, I am not defined by other people

[shamrockgirl02]

1) Was losing a virginity a positive experience for you? Yes

2) Do you find more people/teens judge you negatively when they know you have sex? No

3) Did you feel better about your body/self-esteem when you lost your virginity? Yes

4) After losing your virginity did you find guys in particular treat you differently when they know? A few guys were a bit more aggressive when they learned I "put out" but it wasn't too bad

5) Are you still uncomfortable telling people you have sex/masturbate? No way, I never was

6) Do you think guys can genuinely appreciate a girls looks without looking at you like a "piece of meat" if they find you attractive? Sure

7) On the opposite side of 6), does knowing guys are that turned on by you, make you feel good/empowered? Yes

8) Since having sex, are you more or less worried about looking good? Maybe a little less worried, like now I know I'm legitimately hot

9) When you share what you do sexually with your friends, does it ever feel like a competition? With some friends it does, but with most of my friends it's like we're congratulating each other

10) Are there things you want to do sexually that you simply don't out of fear of judgement? Maybe

11) Do you think its possible to have no strings attached sex and still be respected by that person/others? Hell yes, I've done it more than once

12) Who/what influences your views on sex/sexuality the most? I guess friends, family, my own libido, and society in general

13) What sex acts/things are "degrading"/disrespectful in your opinion? Forcing a significant other to have sex when they don't want to, guys who refuse to wear condoms if a girl asks, and guys that lie about putting a condom on and then go in bareback

14) If your bf/partner wanted those things, would you do them anyway? I don't think those things are even negotiable

15) Would morals/beliefs stop you from doing something physically enjoyable? My beliefs don't restrict me from physical pleasure, so no

16) Would you stop being friends with a girl if she did "those" things? No

17) Even if you liked someone, would you stop hanging out with them if other people thought they were a "slut/whore"? No, I would stand up for her

18) Outside of an orgasm, what's the best /most enjoyable thing about sex for you? This is gonna sound weird, but the smells... I like the other sensory things that go along with indulging in a carnal pleasure

19) What's been the worst/least enjoyable thing about sex for you? Having sex with someone and then learning you're not on the same page about what the sex means; not clicking with a partner physically or emotionally

20) Do you eve feel any pressure to live up to the standards of beauty/sex put out by the media/porn? Sometimes yes, but I try my best to ignore those things

21) What are your major turn ons? Fitness, an ability to be both rough and gentle, a willingness to get crazy from time to time

22) What are your major turn offs? Entitlement, rudeness, poor hygiene

23) What qualities (physical/emotional/mental) would your ideal boyfriend/partner have? Smart, sensitive, open minded, passionate, and maybe not the most emotionally stable person in the world. Now physical traits: in a girl I like fitness but I also don't mind a meatier girl, plenty of piercings, a butt that's curvy and on the larger side, and either big boobs or small but very perky boobs. In a guy I really like fitness or a skinny guy, nice abs and arms, long hair, maybe a tattoo or two, and if we're talking my dream guy, a cock that's bigger than average.

24) What things do you want most/look forward to in a relationship? Emotional intimacy and having a specific regular sexual partner who knows how you tick

25) Can you be just as happy when you're single compared to when you're in a relationship? Yes

[LanaPole]

1) Was losing a virginity a positive experience for you? yes definately

2) Do you find more people/teens judge you negatively when they know you have sex? no, at least not teens

3) Did you feel better about your body/self-esteem when you lost your virginity? yes

4) After losing your virginity did you find guys in particular treat you differently when they know? yes i think so. theyre more straightforward when they want sex. it's ok for me. i enjoy it

5) Are you still uncomfortable telling people you have sex/masturbate? no but talking about the details might be a bit embarassing

6) Do you think guys can genuinely appreciate a girls looks without looking at you like a "piece of meat" if they find you attractive? i dont know. i doubt it

7) On the opposite side of 6), does knowing guys are that turned on by you, make you feel good/empowered? oh yes definately.

8) Since having sex, are you more or less worried about looking good? less. i know i could attract boys

9) When you share what you do sexually with your friends, does it ever feel like a competition? no i dont feel that way. it's completely up to themselves what they want to do. i respect that but i am kind of proud of what ive done. got a sense of accomplishment

10) Are there things you want to do sexually that you simply don't out of fear of judgement? no i dont care what others say

11) Do you think its possible to have no strings attached sex and still be respected by that person/others? yes of course

12) Who/what influences your views on sex/sexuality the most? family, siblings

13) What sex acts/things are "degrading"/disrespectful in your opinion? some extreme stuff could be degrading but i think it's ok as long as it's consensual

14) If your bf/partner wanted those things, would you do them anyway? oh yes. i would do almost anything for my boy crush

15) Would morals/beliefs stop you from doing something physically enjoyable? no. if it's enjoyable then it's morally ok for me

16) Would you stop being friends with a girl if she did "those" things? no.

17) Even if you liked someone, would you stop hanging out with them if other people thought they were a "slut/whore"? no. i wouldn't do that

18) Outside of an orgasm, what's the best /most enjoyable thing about sex for you? ??? cant think of anything

19) What's been the worst/least enjoyable thing about sex for you? it's not enjoyable if my sex partner is too new and cant satisfy me. but i forgive them. it's ok

20) Do you eve feel any pressure to live up to the standards of beauty/sex put out by the media/porn? sometimes

21) What are your major turn ons? handsome, have a nice cock, easy to get along with

22) What are your major turn offs? poor hygien, weird, unsociable

23) What qualities (physical/emotional/mental) would your ideal boyfriend/partner have? emotionally kind, gentle, have a lot in common. physically handsome, fit, with a nice and big cock. mentally brilliant. sexually a dominant male. i hope he could be rich. i like boys who could get crazy and adventurous. well these are just my dream features for a bf.

24) What things do you want most/look forward to in a relationship? emotional and sexual partner who can always make me happy

25) Can you be just as happy when you're single compared to when you're in a relationship probably, i think it depends

[Emerald Dream]

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