Experimenting

[Drewboyy]

It's over with

[ClaireM]

It sounds like you are being mean to him. You initiated sex in the first place. Just tell him politely you don't want a physical relationship with him. You are out of order hitting and swearing at him.

[Abhorrence]

Well rather than expressing violence and hatred to someone you blatantly used, maybe you ought to let him down in a more subtle, kind way. Just tell him that you appreciate that you two did whatever together but you have decided that you are not into that sort of thing.

Anyways, you don't exactly sound like you're still willing to experiment so the experimentation is out of the window. Unless the feelings you're experiencing are just extreme guilt for the homosexual acts you have performed? Some people get a lot like that because they still have it subconsciously embedded into their heads that it is wrong. I don't know, I just think you should treat this dude a little better.

[Drewboyy]

It sounds like you are being mean to him. You initiated sex in the first place. Just tell him politely you don't want a physical relationship with him. You are out of order hitting and swearing at him.

Well rather than expressing violence and hatred to someone you blatantly used, maybe you ought to let him down in a more subtle, kind way. Just tell him that you appreciate that you two did whatever together but you have decided that you are not into that sort of thing.

Anyways, you don't exactly sound like you're still willing to experiment so the experimentation is out of the window. Unless the feelings you're experiencing are just extreme guilt for the homosexual acts you have performed? Some people get a lot like that because they still have it subconsciously embedded into their heads that it is wrong. I don't know, I just think you should treat this dude a little better.

Before I even thought of doing anything with him specifically I still depised him for other reasons. So if he ever touched me I'd hit him (but lighter), like every other straight person I know would. Plus, after we experimented I said I never want to do that again to him.

[Abhorrence]

Before I even thought of doing anything with him specifically I still depised him for other reasons. So if he ever touched me I'd hit him (but lighter), like every other straight person I know would. Plus, after we experimented I said I never want to do that again to him.
Sounds like an idiotic idea to experiment with someone you hate in the first place, you must've just confused him now. It was an unfair thing to do, in my opinion. I don't know your reasons for hating them but they can't be that immense if you still found yourself experimenting with him. I don't think you should resort to any aggression or violence with him but if he doesn't get the picture then consider staying away from him completely.

[AutumnWinds]

i think whether you love him or hate him you did use him and that means you owe him an apology.

you should tell him you were experimenting and that you thought it would be something you might like but turned out not to be. apologize if anything you did may have made him feel like it would end u being more but also ask that he respect your decision.

[Zachary G]

IF you have ill feelings towards someone, why would you choose that person to experiment with knowing how you feel? By doing that, you totally exploited him and lead him on to thinking something that wasnt true in the first place, that is why he is probably acting the way he is towards you.

I think you need to set the record straight with him by apologizing for taking advantage of him and for leading him on, then explain to him that you were only curious and wanted to experiment, but that you discovered it was not your kind of thing and you dont want to do it again. Ask that he respect your decision, then you go your way and let him go his. All of this hitting and kicking is totally out of line and cruel. Be the bigger man about it and let him know where you stand.

[Canadian Dream]

Well for the first question it sounds to me like you tried experimenting and didn't like it, so I would say no that the phase is over. About the other guy to me it sounds like either you haven't made your point in an assertive enough way or he is just extremely persistent. If he keeps going after you like that I would remind him one more time that you aren't interested and that there are laws if he were to ever force you to experiment again.

*One more thing: it sounds like you are thinking about it not because you enjoy it but rather that it disturbs you, so that strengthens the point against the experimenting phase I mentioned earlier.

[Andre 99]

That is a very bad thing, because even as I'm typing, whenever I think about it, I cringe.
If it is so cringeworthy, maybe you should not have done it in the first place.

I knew he was gay so I took advantage of that just to experiment **I know, I'm a horrible person**
Yes, I think you are. You knew he was gay, yet led him on just so YOU could experiment and get pleasure.

Otherwise I hate him with all my guts, even before I did anything with him. So he keeps trying to invite me over to his house (you can understand why) and I obviously say no. Before I experimented, if he grabbed or touched me in any type of sexual way I'd punch or kick him (barely) and say something to the effect of "fuck off". Now if he grabs or touches me I'd hit him much harder and tell him to stop. He's still not getting it that I don't want to do anything to him.
You started it, by using him and experimenting, so if anything you should be nicer to him now, and instead of being nasty and violent, let him down gently. And actually tell him what a douchey thing you did.

Do you think I am still going through the experimenting phase?
No, I don't think you are.

What do you think I should do about him? By the way, he isn't getting the jist that I want to snap his neck every time I see or hear his face. I all ready told him I don't want to do anything else with him.
I think you should apologise to him for using him, and then tell him you don't want a relationship. Use proper words, not violence and swearing, he may actaully get the message!