Rant:any friend problems

[bleh.]

My best friend is amazing and I love her to death but she makes me feel bad about myself sometimes. She always talks about who called her pretty and what boys think she's hot. She says she's insecure and so am I. The only difference between us is that she calls me ugly and always says she weighs less than me. I absolutely hate it. I feel bad about myself because I don't get called pretty or hot and to make it worse I get called ugly (mostly by her.) I told her what I was thinking and she said she didn't understand and then I explained again she said she sort of got it that time and yet, she keeps doing the same thing. I just don't know what I should do.

[StoppingTom]

Just from that, it doesn't sound like she is a very amazing friend??? What does she do for your friendship that makes you like her?

[bleh.]

Just from that, it doesn't sound like she is a very amazing friend??? What does she do for your friendship that makes you like her?

I honestly don't really know. Any advice?

[StoppingTom]

I honestly don't really know. Any advice?

From this (pretty limited) information, it seems like she IS insecure, but puts you down in order to make herself feel better about her perceived shortcomings. Now, it's up to you decide whether you want to try to help her see past her insecurity and realize she is treating you badly because of it, or you don't want to deal with her comments and you drop her.

[Babs]

Sounds like a real bitch. Just because she's insecure, doesn't mean it's okay to act like that. We all got shit, but if you take it out on others that makes you an asshole. You deserve friends who treat you right.

[Croconaw]

She doesn't sound like a friend to me. I would just not talk to her anymore. She relieves herself of her problems by putting you down, which is not okay. You need to find another friend. She is making you depressed, so why would you help her? Just forget about her, move on, and find a friend who won't use you to make themselves feel better.

[Hannah98]

She's not a friend, sweetheart. She is however very obviously insecure which is why she needs to make you feel inferior to her in order to make herself feel better. Surround yourself with friends who affirm you and love you for who you are and not with someone who uses you to make her feel better about herself. You can do better.

[PaleBoy]

This is not a healthy friendship: either talk to her or get her out of your life.

[Abhorrence]

I wouldn't even bother being a friend to her. Friendship is meant to be a nice addition to your life, you aren't meant to be tormented by a person you consider your friend. I don't see a way to fix this without a serious talk and there is a big chance that she will end up turning it on you anyway. People that are inherently nasty often turn every criticism back onto the critic. Get rid of her, find someone who will treat you with respect. Never keep unnecessary negativity in your life when you can easily be rid of it.

[wolf g]

of curs you don't deserve her she is not your perfect friend for you

[Uniquemind]

Purge HER!


^sry I should clarify.

That's catchphrase advise for getting rid of junk within your social network virtual and in real life.

Junk friends (aka: false friends):

1. Do they provide you with emotional support: Y/N

2. Have they ever back stabbed you? Y/N

3. Do you always initiate conversations or do they? You / Them

4. What have they added of real value, sentimental value, to your life?

5. Is fear the reason you keep them around?


Ask these questions and if the answer for 1. Is No, 2. Is Yes and 5. Is "it's due to fear".


They're a junk friend.

Purge it.

They might threaten suicide too to guilt trip you. Purge anyway but tell em to see a doctor.

[drunkbanana17]

Maybe she does so in a humorous way . Talk with her and find out .

[Seahawks15]

Have a very good talk with her and advise her to see a doctor.If all goes well,you can retain the friendship.If not,you can politely end it.That behavior is blatantly rude and uncalled for and needs to be corrected.