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AutumnWinds
August 21st, 2015, 09:42 AM
i have a guy friend/sorta more that's a fair bit older than i am. i've known him close to two years. for the first year or so he was so lively and loving and just everything i wanted to be. he wasn't just someone i was attracted to but someone i admired as well.

about 8 months ago he and his best friend stopped speaking. they had knew each other for almost 15 years. he doesn't talk much about it unless i push him to but from what he says she broke some promises to him about keeping herself safe and healthy and started treating him poorly and finally he stopped talking to her. before anyone says anything i don't think anything was going on between them. there just wasn't that vibe.

anyhow he just makes me sad now. not because he does anything wrong to me or anything like that but because that life and fire i saw in him is just gone. its like he's just given up. when we see each other he's still very good to me but he never talks about himself or anything and when i ask he just says he's not doing well or unhappy or one time that he felt dead inside then he tries to stear the conversation back to me. he still likes to talk about me and my life and stuff. in fact the only time i see any of that fire he used to have is when someone upsets me, which is guess i kinda sweet. i just wish he could be happy again. does anyone have any advice on what i could do to help even if its just a little?

Abhorrence
August 21st, 2015, 12:43 PM
Someone having a massive personality change like that and feeling unhappy all the time is a pretty clear sign of developing depression. I think maybe you should talk to him about seeing a doctor or a therapist or something. If he refuses to do that then I guess you can attempt to talk to him about his issues but this might be difficult if he doesn't open up to you. I'm told all the time that "talking helps", although I don't personally believe it maybe it will help him. Just try to make sure that he knows you're there for him and definitely tell him that you want him to be happy again, just show support and show willing to put up with him. The last thing he needs is to feel like a burden if he already feels low.