Series: Discuss the Origins...

[Uniquemind]

So I'm beginning a new post series here called "Discuss the Origins..."

Both scientific answers or generic casual answers to the topic question are welcome, provided no personal attacks on what people post occurs (which is also forum rules).

But I'm posting this here because it is a topic of this thread regarding attraction, flirting, dating, and where this view comes from.

The other goal for this topic is to have both genders discuss and give their views about certain beliefs about society and where they started and if they hold up under stricter scrutiny.


TOPIC: Girls like and only ever feel attraction to the bad boys or rebel types.


Goal: To discuss if you think this is true or false. If it is true, what have you witnessed about the dynamic that makes it true, if it is false explain why you think it is false and explain, critically, why you think this myth got popularized among guys, and explain the missing piece of logic or observation that guys are missing to reach the proper conclusion of the result they see. (i.e. all stereotypes are based on some observational fact).

[Gwen]

I think that this comes from the generic view of the rebellious stage. This is where people view teenagers as being in a period where they will try anything to antagonize or disrespect/go against authority and parents. Parents wouldn't like if you came home with a real 'bad boy' who follows his own rules instead of getting a job or doing well in school. This is just where I think this kind of saying stems from but honestly I think that the majority of people would like someone who is nice or successful. It would make sense to prefer a relationship with someone who can give some guarantees or make you happy rather than live life fun and short. If we are just talking about 'Girls' though as opposed to women I guess it would make sense that being young we all like to party and have plenty of fun before adulthood strikes and we will actually have to work and get through plenty of hardships. I don't think is permanent because as you get older the party scene changes heavily and the type of people who still party hard at 30 probably have enough money and job security not to care or they're barely getting by int he first place. It also reminds me of that 'Nice guys finish last' which is mainly an excuse of why supposedly 'nice guys' cannot get girls while they completely ignore the charismatic comparison between them and those 'bad boys'. It is also a broad generalization trying to group 50% of the world's population under an opinion so I don't think it holds any true ground with it. Different girls will have different opinions so these kinds of myths are almost always false.

[Hannah98]

TOPIC: Girls like and only ever feel attraction to the bad boys or rebel types.

Not true for every girl just like it's not true that every guy is a macho sports freak. There may be some common threads or generalities in what girls find attractive, but we are all unique...just like you are. Now, having said that, you are right that there are some girls who are attracted to the "bad boy" type but IMO they still want their guys to be nice and sweet to them. And, I think as girls get older they eventually want to meet a guy they have things in common with, who respects them, cares for them, gets along well with her family, and whom she respects and mostly who she loves. I'm probably not the best person to speak to this because I have only been with one boy and I love him, but, I think as girls and boys/men and women get older, who they are attracted to and what traits they find important in a potential mate probably goes through some changes or adjustments.

[Horatio Nelson]

R&D :arrow: ROTW

I'm aware this discussion relates to relationships, but that forum is not for discussions/debates.

[Babs]

Obviously not all girls like the same thing. Some girls like rebels, some don't.
Admittedly, I don't mind a rebellious streak in a guy, as long as they're not just plain fuckheads. There's no rhyme or reason to it. People just like what they like, I guess.

[Uniquemind]

R&D :arrow: ROTW

I'm aware this discussion relates to relationships, but that forum is not for discussions/debates.

Oh okay.

Well part of my reasoning for making this discussion there was to help future posters who start complaining about flirting problems or social angst problems in regards to how they approach dating and attraction.

Usually guys ask this, so I figured they were most likely to see my thread as a resource to answer their woes.


I'm fine with you moving it, but would you mind redirecting all new posts regarding the topic of "why won't she give me a chance, but she's with that other jerk" type posts a redirect to this thread in ROTW.


Thanks.