Age Appropriate Punishments

[Freckles]

Yesterday at homeschool Coop we were discussing how and why our parents discipline us. The kids in my group are 12, 13, and 14. When I get in trouble I get to choose between getting grounded or getting a spanking. Which one I choose depends on how long the grounding will be. There were several kids though that still have to stand in the corner or get spanked bare butt. I think that isn't appropriate for kids our age. Those are punishments for little kids.

I was wondering if any of you get punished in a way you think you're too old for. Have you ever tried to talk to your parents about it?

[Vermilion]

from what you put I think being bare butt is part of the punishment to make you feel embarrassed

[thegreatgatz]

Spanking is an inneffective and overly merciful punishment for poor behavior because it ends quickly and doesn't really force a teenaged child to think about what they've done wrong.

[Freckles]

from what you put I think being bare butt is part of the punishment to make you feel embarrassed

I don't get it bare butt myself but it is to embarrass them and I think that's wrong.

[Vermilion]

I don't get it bare butt myself but it is to embarrass them and I think that's wrong.

I don't disagree with you that it's wrong but it's done to make you think before acting up

[Riley2015]

I'm 13 and my dad favours groundings, usually alongside chores and lose of privileges. He likes to go for really long groundings. 1 month, 2 months, 3 months, i've been threatened with being grounded for 6 months a few times and knowing him there will come a time when i'm gonna get a 6 month grounding :eek: . I'm grounded right now for the entire summer as most of you probably already knew

He used to and still does spank me sometimes but he worked out i prefer it to grounded so doesn't use it as much anymore

I do get sent to stand facing the wall sometimes, usually for an hour but sometimes longer, he tells me i must use the time to have a think and cool off if i have been argumentative with him

Do i think its appropriate at my age? Well yeah, i might not like it but what other punishments can he give? Maybe he too harsh with the lengths but i really hate them and so i get the punishment he thinks i deserved.

I get no say in what punishment i get

[Babs]

Depends on the kid, I guess.
Way I see it, if they act like a child, they should be punished like you would a child. I see teenagers throwing fits all the time over petty bullshit, so fuck it, spank them.

As for myself, my parents rarely punish me; I don't remember the last time I had a proper punishment. I don't do a lot of stupid shit, and the stupid shit I do, I don't get caught doing.
If I do get punished, it's with chores or something.

[pconnor2001]

I still get spanked and mom says they have to be bare bottom.

[Pat the Bunny]

I just realized my parents never punished my in my whole life. Don't know if I should be proud of that. Anyway, I'm against physical punishment except if it's like a slap on the back of your head for small kids or something. I feel like it's more just "You are being punished because you did something bad" instead of "You are being punished and you should think of why you did it and why you shouldn't do it again".

[Unlucky]

I got spanked up until age twelve and then my dad started hitting me at the side of the head instead.
I did get spanked bare on occasion, but usually I didn't.

I'm not a bad kid though, he's just strict, so as much as a bad grade or interrupting him can set him off.
Especially if he's drunk.

Needless to say, I don't agree with physical forms of discipline. There are better ways to get your point across without slapping somebody.

[Melodic]

I don't agree with spanking at a young age, much less an older age. I don't think violence is an answer for anything. There are way better, and safer disciplinary techniques.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

I don't think spanking (or violence period) is acceptable, and there's so many better ways. I don't have an opinion on grounding, maybe because I've literally never been grounded, but I guess depending on the circumstances, it can be good. If you abuse a privilege, you should get it taken away.

[Hannah98]

I don't remember ever being spanked. Been sent to my room and made to stand in the corner when I was little. As I got older I got grounded or had to write an essay about what I did wrong. Now I think I would be too old to punish but wouldn't tell my parents that just yet LoL

[bbwolf26]

I agree that it depends on the person and what they did. The punishment should fit the crime and maturity of the person. There are a lot of differences in mental maturity amongst kids aged 11 to 14. I have had both types of punishments. Just depends on what rule I broke.

[Freckles]

I don't remember ever being spanked. Been sent to my room and made to stand in the corner when I was little. As I got older I got grounded or had to write an essay about what I did wrong. Now I think I would be too old to punish but wouldn't tell my parents that just yet LoL

I have too write reports too sometimes. Not always about what I did wrong but to show I can do other things to take my mind of of the temptation to do something bad.

[Daniella98]

I dont believe physical punishment is good for anything.
I think reasoning is the best way. If parents cant explain and talk to their children and understand them, its just a sad story.
If there is no trying to understand the children, they can end up being punished just for having another oppinion on a simple topic.

[seoulsuho]

When I was a lot younger, I used to get sent to "the naughty step" for ten minutes if I did so much as drop a chocolate button. That stopped when I was about 6 because my parents realised it was ineffective. I have never been spanked because my parents are against physical punishments, however I get my phone, laptop etc. taken off me if I step out of line (although that isn't often- I dropped a plate last time /: ). I don't really have any views on grounding, apart from the fact that it wouldn't work on me because I do what I want when I want. I think it would just be easier to talk to a kid than punish them in such ways though- sometimes, kids just need to vent and don't have anyone to vent to, which leads to their behaviour.

[Riley2015]

I get my phone, laptop etc. taken off me if I step out of line (although that isn't often- I dropped a plate last time /: )..

Your parents regard dropping a plate as ''stepping out of line?'' I am assuming you dropped it by accident and not on purpose? We all have accidents from time to time, its hardly a reason to punish for :what:

[seoulsuho]

Your parents regard dropping a plate as ''stepping out of line?'' I am assuming you dropped it by accident and not on purpose? We all have accidents from time to time, its hardly a reason to punish for :what:

Yeah, I'm the older child so they're a lot harder on me than my little brother /: And yes, it was a complete accident :hmm:

[Riley2015]

Yeah, I'm the older child so they're a lot harder on me than my little brother /: And yes, it was a complete accident :hmm:

I have a strict father who overreacts and punishes me hard for stuff. But even he wouldn't punish me for dropping a plate, its a bit extreme :(

[Freckles]

I agree that no kid should be punished for accidents.

[Just JT]

If I had a choice, that would of been pretty cool, I would simply get beat, no questions asked.
Now I'm in a foster home, there is no physical punishment at all
Now if I act up, which isn't very often, I get ground or restrictions
But if I had my choice looking back, I'd take the spanking any way they wanted to give it....it's easier

[AutumnWinds]

Depends on the kid, I guess.
Way I see it, if they act like a child, they should be punished like you would a child. I see teenagers throwing fits all the time over petty bullshit, so fuck it, spank them.

As for myself, my parents rarely punish me; I don't remember the last time I had a proper punishment. I don't do a lot of stupid shit, and the stupid shit I do, I don't get caught doing.
If I do get punished, it's with chores or something.

yeah i fit into this category too.

[Uniquemind]

If your a teenager...having the car keys taken away is pretty rough.

[phuckphace]

that's kind of...weird (referring to getting spanked on your bare rear) and not something I've ever heard of in any homeschool club/co-op/whatever. I know several homeschoolers and my impression is that their behavior is never bad enough to warrant physical punishment anyway, or if it is it seems to be dealt with privately and not discussed

[Andre 99]

I used to get spanked, and up till I was 10 or 11, it was always bare-bottom spanking.
I rarely got spanked, but now if I'm naughty I either get grounded, or loose privileges.

My sister still gets spanked by our mum (still bare-bottom). If our faf punishes her, it is grounding she gets

[michaelb]

I still get spanked as well. Not as often as it used to be but my dad still does it sometimes. Now i get grounded much more often or my mobile taken away.
it's definetly NOT age appropriate!!! it's so stupid! while getting grounded sucks but i guess it's normal...

[pjones]

getting grounded, loss of privileges is my punishment.

[KeeganW]

getting grounded, loss of privileges is my punishment.

same for me, never get hit

[CuteGuy889]

Until 14 or so my mom would take my pants off spank me twice and wont give my pants back ...letting me be in my briefs only..Then I'm automatically limited to my room and insides...Creative isnt it..but embarrassing.

[jennyem]

Depends on the kid, I guess.
Way I see it, if they act like a child, they should be punished like you would a child. I see teenagers throwing fits all the time over petty bullshit, so fuck it, spank them.


couldn't agree more with this!

[clairey]

Spanking seems like a very simplistic punishment for older kids and teenagers who are capable of more complex discussion about actions and consequences.

[Zachary G]

I have only been spanked once that I can remember, and I was really young then. Since then all of my punishments have been the loss of privileges, finances, and or material things. We do have discussions about my punishments and kind of negotiate what would be the best punishment for the inappropriate behavior.

[drunkbanana17]

I usually get striped of my phone and the router when my mother is angry and she finds something wrong with me ( but its a little thing and its 100% she takes her nerves on me ) . I'm 16 . When I was younger she would hit me .

[ryanjones]

I get sent to my room or when I was little, sent to the naughty step, I think it's all about the physiological factor

[Cangirl]

I will admit that I've been spanked before and bare butt. More when I was younger but it's happened this summer. I think I'd take a spanking versus losing priveleges and extra chores and week long groundings maybe haha idk. Spankings are over and done with and then time to move on.

[Brieftime]

If I close the door too hard my stepdad punishes me!

[pascaldesla]

How? What kind of punishment ?

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I don't get spankings, so far all I've ever had to do is go to my room, which is fine with me, I practically live in there anyways.
It's hard to get punished when you hardly ever go out. I'm always stuck at home babysitting my brother!

[LanaPole]

i do get spanked bare butt a lot, but im still glad my parents never ground me. id rather get spankings honestly.

[City Kid]

I disagree with the whole idea of physical punishment, no matter what age the child is. The fact that so many of you said they'd prefer getting spanked over getting grounded proves how inefficient and retarded it is. A punishment that is effective over a longer period of time might be more annoying, but that's exactly what it's supposed to be! Being grounded forces you to at least think a little about the things you've done wrong, while getting spanked is just something you get over with and forget about afterwards. It's also simply inhumane. People think it's wrong to hit a pet but when it comes to their own children it's totally fine?! None of it makes sense to me.

[angelique15]

i still get spanked and i feel embarrassed about it..

[Chapperz16]

I'm 13 and my dad favours groundings, usually alongside chores and lose of privileges. He likes to go for really long groundings. 1 month, 2 months, 3 months, i've been threatened with being grounded for 6 months a few times and knowing him there will come a time when i'm gonna get a 6 month grounding :eek: . I'm grounded right now for the entire summer as most of you probably already knew

He used to and still does spank me sometimes but he worked out i prefer it to grounded so doesn't use it as much anymore

I do get sent to stand facing the wall sometimes, usually for an hour but sometimes longer, he tells me i must use the time to have a think and cool off if i have been argumentative with him

Do i think its appropriate at my age? Well yeah, i might not like it but what other punishments can he give? Maybe he too harsh with the lengths but i really hate them and so i get the punishment he thinks i deserved.

I get no say in what punishment i get

Not gunna lie but your dad is strict as hell, grounded for the entire summer??what the hell did you do wrong???

[Emerald Dream]

i still get spanked and i feel embarrassed about it..

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