Long distance

[matt_tgr]

Ok, so any long distance relationship experts on here? :D
Gonna start out with a short (ok, rather long) story. So I met this guy on Omegle (ikr, how pathetic of me), and we just sort of clicked. The very first day I met him, we talked for 8-10 hours straight without running out of things to talk about. It was absolutely amazing. He told me he was bi, but in a rather weird way. "He'd like to date a girl, but much rather be sexually intimate with a guy".
Anyway, two days later, we got together again, started talking, spent good 5 hours again. I told him about my concerns, that I'm kinda falling for him, but I don't want to continue doing this, if he wouldn't even want to be with a guy. Then he said something in the lines of "Idk man, I feel like we have this connection, and I'd rather be with you over any girl. I'm just going with the flow :D I never thought I could like a guy in that way, but you've proven me wrong" and stuff like that. So then we made a deal, that if he wanted to break things off, he'd tell me, not just disappear out of the blue. He was all good about that, and said he didn't even think about stopping. Then his friends called, but instead of going to hang out with them, he continued talking to me, and was pretty much 2 hours late :D He said he'd much rather be with me than go out with his friends. So yeah, then he had to go eventually and that was the end of that.

SO, he's in Cali, I'm in this stupid Europe, 10 hour difference. He has work and stuff, I guess he's gonna start school next week (He's 17 as well), Don''t know exactly, haven't asked him yet. So I guess he's busy some times, but now it's been 4 days (well it's gonna be 4 days in 12 hrs) without any contact. I've never done this LDR thing, and i don't know if this is normal? 'Cause right now i'm freaking out here, thinking about him non-stop, and would definitely make time for him if he wanted to talk. But he doesn't seem to bother, and doesn't really try to talk to me for almost 4 days straight. Should I just wait, because he might be just busy, or should I just take this whole thing with a pinch of salt, and just try taking my mind off him and not bother anymore? He told me not to text or snapchat him, because his friends might find out (which I completely understand, because I'm not out either). But I still did, and he said he was shopping. When I asked if he was gonna be free any time, he just said "nahhh. Well, gotta go now though, talk to you later" So I asked him if he really will and he said "Of course!"... AAANND that was 2 days ago. So many questions I have, and no answers. LDR veterans, how did your relationship start? did you talk every day, or was just like what I'm experiencing right now?

P.S. All my thoughts are scattered around here, hopefully it's gonna make some sense to you guys haha

[Vermilion]

Don't give up yet. But stop thinking about him to much. if he wants you he'll come back

[StoppingTom]

You need to understand the likelihood that this won't become an actual thing in which you are together. It's fine to like someone far away, just.. don't get your hopes up.

[Abhorrence]

Honestly, I'm not experienced in it all but I would find it way too exhausting. There's too many possibilities and as an extremely jealous person, it wouldn't work out for me. I'm not the type of person that needs contact every second but I like to talk once every two days at least. Maybe you should give it a few weeks at max and if it continues like this then just try to stop caring.

[lliam]

I am certainly not an expert. But my first "relationship" with 13 ^^ also went quickly to an end when we've moved away. This took lasts less ... hmm, about 4 weeks.

Therefore, I believe you can be good friends with someone, e.g. over the Internet, but closer relations seems hardly possible.

[mikielikesit]

To me long distance just puts to much stress. Just let things happen if it works it works but if not be ready to move forward.

[Hudor]

So it's been 5 days since your post. If he hasn't talked to you yet I suppose you should wait for a few more days but be prepared he might not return. If he cares he will definitely message you but I don't think you should text him again now. Hope things work out but I've got a hunch he might not return.

[Melodic]

Give him his space. If he hasn't made much time for you in a few days, talk to him. If he still doesn't make much time for you, then end things. You shouldn't be in a relationship where only one makes the effort.

[impan1019]

honestly ldr are hard. ive been in several myself. my advice is dont get your hopes up that it will last

[iDynamicx91]

I am currently in an LDR (my 2nd one; 1st only lasted about a month) and have been in this one since 3/29/2014 \(^-^)/ We are still going very strong and love each other very much. Sure we have arguments at times but what is a couple that never disagrees... She is amazing and I trust her so much and she trusts me as well. The age difference is a tad bit weird, I guess you could say. I am going to be 17 in about 2 months and she just turned 14 this month. Not too bad I guess. I honestly have no clue how we have lasted so long. I guess sometimes its pure luck who the other person is.

[SethfromMI]

well my friend I know they are very hard. I know I would not want to do one, but when two people love each other, they can make it work