I don't like+not attracted to+will never ever do=Anal Sex

[James Dean]

Just not something I'm into or I like. It sucks because now I'm probably never ever going to be happy. :(

[Quahog]

I don't like it that much either TBH, it might be tough to find someone who agrees with that. It's a big part of young gay culture, but idk. Anal sex isn't everything.

[SethfromMI]

Well...it doesn't mean you will never be happy. there are other gay/bi guys out there who don't like anal either. you will just have to find one or be with someone who understands anal is just not your thing

[james smith]

i agree with the above comment

[Abhorrence]

Like others have said, it isn't a necessity at all. This doesn't mean you're abstaining from everything. Even if you were, you don't need sex to lead a fulfilling life there are many other things that will make you happy. Also, surely if you believe you need to have anal to be happy then you want to do it? That bit didn't really make sense to me, I don't understand why you not wanting to have anal sex means you'll never be happy.

[Hudor]

Well I don't like it much either. Granted it's considered now a big part of gay sex. But as the other users said I'm sure you'll find other people who respect your likes and dislikes.

[Dalcourt]

Ah, don't worry...you can surely be happy and have a happy relationship without it. There's always made a big deal about it but truth is you are not alone with your feelings concerning anal sex.
I'm sure you are able to find someone who feels the same and you can have a happy relationship.
So no need to worry.

[DriveAlive]

Im the same way

[lliam]

Just not something I'm into or I like.

so, what's the deal? You like it, you don't do it.


It sucks because now I'm probably never ever going to be happy. :(


If you're serious, let us cry. But hopefully it's ironic, so we can laugh together.

[DoodleSnap]

It's true that there is a lot of hubub around anal sex in the gay community, most commonly suggesting that it is "real" sex, and that non-penetrative sex is somehow less fulfilling or not meaningful.
Bullshit, the lot of it.
Some people like certain kinds of sex, some people don't. You don't have to give in to this expectation, for there are plenty of other great aspects to sex. Heck, sex full stop isn't even necessary for a healthy relationship. When you love someone, what matters is making them happy, and if they love you, they won't mind that you don't like one tiny little aspect of sex.

[lliam]

When you love someone, what matters is making them happy, and if they love you, they won't mind that you don't like one tiny little aspect of sex.


Precisely. In our neighborhood lives an elderly couple. Both are married for 40 years. They've no kids and have never had sex, as the husband once shockingly mentioned. But they love each other.

but 40 years no sex ... ^^

[AutumnWinds]

Just not something I'm into or I like. It sucks because now I'm probably never ever going to be happy. :(

i don't think that's true. you may end up wanting to try it and find you like it, or you may never do so and find someone who feels the same way. there are too many possibilities to just up and declare you will be unhappy forever.

[Hermes]

You do raise a very interesting question. Among heterosexual sex acts penis in vagina intercourse is seem as the ultimate act, the one that someone might just reserve for someone special, perpahs someone where there is a long term commitment even if the others acts (blow jobs, hand jobs etc.) are freely indugled in. The reason, of course, dates back before contraception when girls, in particular, would be wary of engaging in the one form of sex that could get them pregnant if there weren't with the man they wanted to be with when raising the resulting chidren.

There are no gay sex acts that result in children. Therefore does gay sex need a parallel act to penis in vagina sex? Obviously some people see anal sex as fullfilling that role but it seems you could equally not worry about equivalents and do whatever you enjoy.

[Zachary G]

having anal sex is not a requirement of being gay, so therefore you shouldnt feel that you will be unhappy because its something that you are not interested in, thats okay. There are other aspects of gay sex that are just as pleasurable and there are others out there who feel the way you do and if you take your time, you will find that person.

[Bacca]

You will probably be happy, but I personally don't understand why you don't like anal.. Its quite fun xD

[James Dean]

You will probably be happy, but I personally don't understand why you don't like anal.. Its quite fun xD

I don't like to top, and I wouldn't like to be bottomed. It seems kinda nasty, and sex is supposed to be between vagina and penis.

I like other methods.