I'm confused about my gender identity...

[thecartoonheart]

Please help me, this has been confusing me for a long time. I'm a 15 years old and I was born female. There are some days when I am content about being a female, and I wear cute dresses and act girly. However, there are some other days when I hate my body and I feel really uncomfortable with it, I wish I didn't have a vagina and breasts, and that I would be a male instead. On these days often cry myself to sleep. There are also some other days when I don't really identify withh any gender. What's wrong with me? Is this even possible? Does it have a name? And how do I tell my parents? Wheither this is normal or not, they'll disown me anyway I think... Or maybe they'll don't understand so they'll just go with it... I don't know, they're so hard to predict. And that's not the only thing I'm confused about. There's my sexual orientation too. Before I only had little crushes on guys I found attractive, but now I'm experiencing those feelings for a girl. I don't even if I could call these "crushes" though, because I never feel like making or having sex with the person (I just never feel like having sex, actually), but I do feel like cuddling and going on dates and all that stuff. I heard this was called being asexual. Or maybe it's just because I'm too young? The thing is, my friends (both boys and girls, the same age as me) seem to experience lust and desire. But I don't... What do you think about this? Well, thanks in advance for the help, anyways

[ptz7649]

I feel exactly the same way about my gender as you have described. Feeling femenine at some times and masculine at others or a mix of the two sexes is how I would identify myself (androgynous female- I am biologically female). But there are lots of other ways types if you don't corespond to that such as genderqueer, gender fluid and cross-dressing.

Here's a list that should help you try to work it out, it's very confusing but I found it helpful to give myslef something at least to not be wondering about.
https://lgbt.wisc.edu/documents/Trans_and_queer_glossary.pdf

To me, it sounds like you are asexual but I'm not an expert!

When talking to your parents try to tell them that you are not really a girly girl and more of a tomboy. It's probable that they will accept that better that if you told them you were another gender. If you feel more strongly about it, you could use the proper name for your gender and then explain what it means, but put a lot of thought into it before hand.
Good luck :)

[thecartoonheart]

Thanks a lot for your answer, the list really helped me out :) And it's nice to know other people feel this way, too (it makes me feel more normal guess). I guess I'll try talking to my parents when I'm more confident about this, using the advice you've given me

[ClaireM]

Remember there is no rush, Just be who you are and see where it leads you.