Gay relationships

[blackwaterkeys]

Do you guys ever feel that no matter how hard we try, homosexual relationships can never match up to heterosexual ones? I don't want to go into too much detail but biologically speaking two males can't have children together and the anal canal isn't exactly meant for penetration. I think about this a lot and it bothers me how I can never be connected in that manner to my boyfriend compared to how straight couples can be. And the whole gay scene is filled with muscular dudes who just want to have sex with each other, even the gay youtubers and pride marches etc. all seem to be promoting promiscuity rather than love even though they talk about it so much. I don't mean to be a stick in the mud. I really, really want to have a pure, loving relationship with my boyfriend, but I second guess myself so much because of these reasons. Then I look around me and see guys objectifying women and talking about them as if they are trophies and sex toys and I look at what I have with my boyfriend, a relationship where we are honest about our feelings, where we help each other and care and love for the other person's heart, and I feel better. But somehow, somehow I just can't be completely convinced. I need a little help, I don't want to keep doubting my boyfriend's love for me, it's not fair to him at all.

[Abhorrence]

The issue with this is the fact we are still separating homosexual relationships and heterosexual relationships as completely different things, when overly they're not that different. It's the same with everything gay people do like they call it "gay marriage" and not just marriage, "gay relationship" not just a relationship, etc. There is a lot of over sexualisation in the gay community, I think. I don't know too much about it because I try to stay out of it all. I want to live my life as a person not as a gay person. I am fine with my homosexuality but I don't feel the need to put the gay prefix on everything I will do. If I have a relationship, it will just be a relationship.

I know heterosexual people who only want sex and I know homosexual people who have been in decade long relationships, it's more about the people than what sexuality they are. Gay couples can adopt if you guys really want children in the future (I, personally, hate children but whatever XD).

[Microcosm]

Love is love, my friend, and it's a very precious thing. Let's preserve and promote that and not just sexuality.

[Faolan]

Just be true to yourself and your boyfriend. Try not to get caught up in stereotypes and media portrayals of both straight and gay relationships

[DoodleSnap]

As my friends have said above, don't let it get to you.
Sure, there is a lot of over sexualisation in the gay community, but that doesn't have to be part of your identity. You can have a relationship however you want. Sure, straight sex is easier, but when it comes down to it, love is what matters most.

Good luck.

[Zachary G]

love is not about sex and sex is not about sexuality. love is that deep, strong emotion that you feel for another person that goes above and beyond everything else. dont let the media hype and stereotypes about homosexuality get to you because the reality of it is, most gay relationships out last those of their heterosexual counterparts across the board. love is love, no matter how you slice it, so take advantage of what you have and make it work.

[Hermes]

...And the whole gay scene is filled with muscular dudes who just want to have sex with each other...I look around me and see guys objectifying women and talking about them as if they are trophies...

So some men objectify potential partners of whichever sex they are interested in and some men like to have plenty of sex and are less concerned about love, again regardless of the sex of the partner.

People who have settled down with a partner for the long term may be conspicuously absent from "the scene" but surely only the same way that the 50 year old straight couples are not to be found in the night clubs?