Please Help Me Get Out Of The Friend Zone

[beast5400]

We've been very close friends since we were both 5 years old. We're 16 now. She knew I liked her a lot when we were younger but when we were 13 we stopped talking for 2 years. We started talking again in April and after a month, I told her I was in love with her. She said that I was like her brother & even occasionally said things like she wants me to be "like her gay best friend." She said she would never feel the same way. This shocked her, and she didn't talk to me for about 2 weeks. She's the most gorgeous girl at our school & every guy there is after her. She's never had a boyfriend but she talks
to a lot of guys. We have almost everything in common. She has an amazing personality & she's fun to be around, although she's manipulative. I honestly just wanna know what I can do to have the biggest chance with her. I'm so in love with her and I know I won't ever be able to get over her considering she's been a huge part of my life for the past 11 years. I can't just give up on the
only person who makes me feel truly happy. I understand it's close to impossible but how do I escape the deepest level of the friendzone?

[ClaireM]

Have you considered she might not be str8? as you said she has never had a boyfriend.

[Uniquemind]

Claire's got a point here.


Also the best thing you can do both to answer your question AND do the right thing, is to let her go and move on.


If you have to break off friendship then that's fine.

If you break out of the zone, it'll be because on her end she finds reason to see you differently.

Also you said she's manipulative...that's oh so dangerous; I urge you to run fast, because going down that path with a manipulative person can be a wild ride, which can leave you relatively emotionally unharmed, emotionally broken, or dead depending on the ride and whom you encounter along the way.


Also here's a mind blowing tip of advice: just because you're insanely attracted to someone doesn't mean it's love, and it also doesn't mean you have to pursue them.

[onewingedangel666]

I don't have much advice, but I do want to say, I'm sorry. i know how you feel.

[StoppingTom]

If you KNOW she's manipulative, then, well.. I wrote a haiku to express my feelings on this:

No No No No No
Please do not do that please no
No No No No Please

Manipulators hurt and exploit others for personal gain, and that is something you do NOT need in your life, speaking from experience.