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[Rutherford The Brave]

Ok so I'm in alot of trouble right now, I recently found out that I was going to be a father! Im 15, and well Im not ready for this at all. Here's the kicker my girlfriend's dad said we have to keep it! I barely can keep one job and I'm almost failing all my classes. I love this girl to death but I don't know whether to bail or just accept that I might have to live in her house and pay child support.

[Mzor203]

Now this is a very bad situation you have got yourself into. They don't stress so much about condoms in health class for nothing.

Now here's the thing: How far along is she? Because if it isn't that far, then she can go to a doctor and they can help get her un-pregnant.

If it's too late for that, then we come to the hard stuff.

Morally, it is the right thing to do to stay with her and help her. If you just up and left, where would that leave you? If you are even slightly susceptible to that little voice in your head, you're going to feel really bad for a long time. Plus, that relationship is out the door, and you may get a bad reputation. My thinking is that, since it's your mistake, you're the on who has to deal with it. Bailing is going to leave that girl you love helpless and make her life hell.

So basically, I am saying you have got to find a way to support her.

[Prince Jellyfish]

Coolbeans, I'm going to be a dad too.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Ironically enough I was wearing a condom, it just happened to break..... Um shes only about 1 month along, but um her dad said no abortions because we decided to go ahead and have Pre marital sex. Actually whats funny is I've actually gotten more praise that bad rep, Not that I feel good about what I did

[bbychop]

Believe me, finding out you will be a parent is scary... I was there once. The only difference is, I had the option to make the choice and well, I got it "undid". (I hate saying the word, believe me, especially right now...) The thing I noticed though is the guy is always more freaked out than the girl. :confused:
The most you can do is be there for her and your child. It will be tough, but make sure she knows you are there for her.
Would her dad make you pay child support at fifteen? Seriously... (I am sorry if that sounds rude but it seems kind of ridiculous.)

[myskias]

dude if u have trouble paying for child support, then sue the condom company if they sold you a condom that broke when having sex!!! i kno sueing isnt right but like seriously if u are having cash issues then sue them and put the winnings in a bank account JUST for the child support.

[Mzor203]

I wouldn't exactly do that, because it costs a bunch of money to hire lawyers, etc., and if he loses, then he'll have SERIOUS problems. At 15 you don't really want to go into all that legal stuff.

[theOperaGhost]

Don't bail. I don't know how anyone could bail out on them. It's not like she did it herself you know. It is your responsibility too. Also don't quit school if at all possible. That will just ruin your life. That's what a couple of people at my school did. I just think quitting school would be a very bad decision. I know you never said anything about quitting, but I don't want you to think about it either.

[madness]

I would ask your girlfriend if SHE wants an abortion, not if her father wants one-
hes probably only trying to help, but hes not the parents, and he dosnt have the rights (i think- legally) to stop her from having an abortion
having a kid is a HUGE commitment which will affect the rest of your life and if you're not ready for it and are worried you should at least consider abortion---- you might not want to hear it but its what id do

[theOperaGhost]

In some states I do believe girls under like 16 or 18 have to have parental consent for an abortion, but I don't know. My personal opinion is that abortion should never happen (unless the case of a rape) because it is ending a life. But I don't want to start a debate.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Yes, for mass It's 16 and well she's not 16..... We had a sit down conversaton only with her parents seeing as I have foster parents and they can't say much. And well her step-dad gave me a good solution I can work for him and live in the house and in turn I guess Ill have awife so I can go to school and still sort of look towards the future but yet I don't think I should say yes.

[Mzor203]

That is probably the best you can hope for, I think you should say yes, it's a great way to help and keep you in a good situation.

[theOperaGhost]

That sounds like a good thing. I think you should say yes. It soulds like they care about you.

[sabotaged111]

You should say yes, They obviously care for you. Good luck

[Gumleaf]

i think you should consider this offer very carefully. now your girlfriends parents are obviously trying to set up the best possible life for your coming child and its great that they have realised that you need to be part of that. i think that if you don't accept the offer, then there is the possibility that you will drift apart from your girlfriend and your child, and i'm sure you wouldn't want that to happen. i know it will be hard living with her and her parents especially but you really need to think about whether this sacrificing your current lifestyle and living arrangements (whatever they are) for this is worth it to be able to be with your child everyday and watch them grow up. so i would be thinking very carefully before making a decision one way or the other. hope this helps you and good luck sorting things out mate.

[Nihilus]

Accept that you have to pay.
You should work hard on school studies so you get to a good collage and then get a good job. Don't Bail!!!!

[Hyper]

Yes, for mass It's 16 and well she's not 16..... We had a sit down conversaton only with her parents seeing as I have foster parents and they can't say much. And well her step-dad gave me a good solution I can work for him and live in the house and in turn I guess Ill have awife so I can go to school and still sort of look towards the future but yet I don't think I should say yes.

How about explain why not say yes?

The only reason I can imagine is that you don't really care that much about this girl, the offer is the best one if that girl is someone you'd be willing to live with practically in marriage since you have a kid.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Its not that I don't care it's just, the fact that I want to be able to continue on in my life and this is like a shortcut or maybe a detour, But I already accepted the offer so...

[Close102]

well good for you. i think u did the right thing. also do not bail becasue everyone is gunna hate u. really this is all i have to say. if you really dont want the baby talk to the grandmother to see if she will sign for an abortion. also my cousin kjust went through this so let me know if you have any questions for me and tell me how it all turns out. good luck. and also finally finish school and try to go to college even if its just a community college. again good luck.