Cheating? Need Advice

[Meh Guy]

Okay so sorry if this turns into a long post.

I'm trying to help my friend out here because I'm kind of torn in my morals right now.

So pretty much, I work with this guy, Josh and he has been dating this girl for around 2.5 years. They've moved in with each other and he talks all the time about how he wants to marry her and how he knows this is the girl. He is almost 22 and she's 23. He calls her on lunch every day and such.

Now, rewind about 2 weeks ago. During the summer, the warehouse hires summer help in the form of students off from school. So these two girls start chatting him up, and me to an extent. But this one... "Sarah" clearly likes josh more than just a friend. So as the days pass, the looks get more intense, he talks to her more, about her more, and in more detail. Then I find out he messages her on Facebook for hours after work while his girlfriend is at work.

Then yesterday he said he was on the phone with her for 4 hours the other night. They both have partners, both of which have been with each other for 3 years or so. This is where it gets confusing:

This morning we were talking about it, and he said he wants to be with her. All those feelings for his current girl aren't there, he's planning on moving back with his parents. But he hasn't said anything. He said he's going to "lead her on" (my words, not his) till at least September. His reason is that if he broke up with her and moved, she'd have nothing, because he owns everything in the apartment.

So my question: really basic actually: cheating or nah? Like is he being a dick or is this okay in a sense.

[Hudor]

I think he's being a dick. He's obviously not attached to his girlfriend and that's cheating. I don't think he should play with her feelings and should just let go.

[Horte]

I agree with what Hudor have quoted!

[DoodleSnap]

What he's doing really isn't fair. He's not being clear, or communicative, and is borderline lying. You should speak to him about it, and the morals of it. It's not fair to treat a person like that.

[Hannah98]

He's being a complete dick! He's taking advantage of her! He's cheating on her! I couldn't respect or be friends with someone like that.

[Uniquemind]

He's being a dick.

If he's that concerned about his current girl carrying the label of "girlfriend" having nothing he should just write her a good check, and break up.

[jssixna]

What an ass. Leading her on and then dropping her just like that is the dickiest move you can pull. Thinking about how the girl will react is heartbreaking. Shame!

[AutumnWinds]

i feel like he is just making excuses.

and how will she not have nothing in september?

Okay so sorry if this turns into a long post.

I'm trying to help my friend out here because I'm kind of torn in my morals right now.

So pretty much, I work with this guy, Josh and he has been dating this girl for around 2.5 years. They've moved in with each other and he talks all the time about how he wants to marry her and how he knows this is the girl. He is almost 22 and she's 23. He calls her on lunch every day and such.

Now, rewind about 2 weeks ago. During the summer, the warehouse hires summer help in the form of students off from school. So these two girls start chatting him up, and me to an extent. But this one... "Sarah" clearly likes josh more than just a friend. So as the days pass, the looks get more intense, he talks to her more, about her more, and in more detail. Then I find out he messages her on Facebook for hours after work while his girlfriend is at work.

Then yesterday he said he was on the phone with her for 4 hours the other night. They both have partners, both of which have been with each other for 3 years or so. This is where it gets confusing:

This morning we were talking about it, and he said he wants to be with her. All those feelings for his current girl aren't there, he's planning on moving back with his parents. But he hasn't said anything. He said he's going to "lead her on" (my words, not his) till at least September. His reason is that if he broke up with her and moved, she'd have nothing, because he owns everything in the apartment.

So my question: really basic actually: cheating or nah? Like is he being a dick or is this okay in a sense.

[Stronk Serb]

Cheating fuck.

[PaleBoy]

Judge not, and ye shall not be judged.

You don´t know neither him(that well) nor her(at all) to make assumptions.