Not sure if I should end things or not.

[Baconator]

My girlfriend of almost a year (November) and I live in Ontario. We're still living with parents so we're not living together. We just graduated High School and she was accepted into a University in St Catherine's, the college where I've been accepted is closer to home in Brampton. We currently live in the Greater Toronto Area. St Catherine's is about an hour or so drive from my home.

Recently me and my girlfriend have been in a lot of fights, mainly because I am the kind of guy that I want to see my girlfriend often. Not crazy all the time but at least once or twice a week minimum. It's rare we even see each other any more, both because lifestyle and culture differences. She's Egyptian and I'm pure-bred Canadian. At first when the division started during the beginning to the middle of the summer, I would worry and get stressed out over not seeing her, but a month later it feels like I am not even dating her, that any stress caused from not seeing here isn't there, like I don't even want to any more.

So yeah, with her going to University she says she can only visit on weekends, and being that not every weekend she'd be able to see me. So going on that for 3-4 years of hopefully seeing her once every two or three weeks. I've been debating the argument of breaking up vs staying together. I think it'll be better for the both of us to go our separate ways but at the same time I don't want to hurt her.

Can I get your guys' input on this? It'd be very helpful :/

[lliam]

Many of your considerations seem to me very pathetic. If you still think the same way in (e.g.) a year or two, you should end the relationship. At the moment it seems that far too early to me.

[Waleedbt]

It seems to me that you want to break up with her.

I go to college at Oakville, and i know that some students in my coarse actually live in St Catherines. Basically im stating that its really not that big of a deal.. so you can't drive for an hour to visit? or are you just going to rest at your place and wait for her to always do it? seems to me that she is trying harder than you are.

I would imagine how much fun it is to make everything count when you have such little time every once in a while.

Plus, Liam, the poster on top ^ is so right!

[Sandybeaches]

It seems to me that you want to break up with her.


I agree, if you wanted to stay you would be making excuses to keep the relationship going, i think just thinking about breaking up shows that something isn't right and you're not happy.

To me it seems that you are not happy with how it is at the moment! Never mind when you go off to uni so if you can't deal with it now imagine it being worse!!!

[Melodic]

If you feel like the relationship won't work out, I think you should end it. However, I'd also talk to her about it instead of ending it out of the blue. Maybe she might have a good opinion as well.

[Abhorrence]

If you're having such doubts then I strongly recommend you talk to her sincerely about your issues. Ultimately though, I think, if you aren't happy in a relationship then you shouldn't be in it. There's no point in making yourself miserable for the sake of another person, honestly.

[itschilled]

I dated a turkish girl who was sorta the same, my advice is to probably end it, because it comes to a point where they don't care anymore and then you feel needy, and all that.
Yeah its gonna be tough, but at the end you'll be relieved(well i did, maybe you wont). I think, maybe let her be for a while, see how she feels( or not, it could make her forget about you completely which also sucks).

But one thing if you feel strong feelings for her then dont let it go that easily, i still talk to my Ex turkish gf, because we were great friends, but she doesnt like it at times because i bring up the past, and shes over it. Im still hurting but a guy's gonna do what a guy feels best.

[DoodleSnap]

I think that, although it will hurt now, you will save yourself much heartache in the future by being honest with her now. Something isn't clear, or working between you guys, so giving it a rest, and letting her understand why is probably for the best.

[matt_tgr]

Whatever you do, don't break up without talking to her first. Because it's gonna hurt like bitch