No confidence around girls

[IamSomeone]

I feel like this is just a part of growing up and self awareness that everyone goes through, well maybe not as much as me. I just find talking or being around any girls very uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong I would love to have the confidence to talk to them and be comfortable around girls.

About a year ago I broke a bone in my ankle and was on crutches for 2 or so months. It took a long time to recover back to my normal life and in that time I gained some weight, that definetly contributes to the problem. I also am a very late bloomer (just turned 15). Anyone ever had the same experience as me?

[lliam]

I don't know that prob. As for me, talking to girls is nothing more than to talk to guys.

But the situation gets different, talking to a girl I like. In those cases I regularly make a monkey out of myself. But cause I get used to everything at some point I've so much routine to be jerk or so, that I can get rid of my daily uncertainties and can ask a girl out, no matter if she says no, or not.

You just have to learn to overcome your weaker self. And the more you do it in spite of failing, the more normal it becomes to you to talk girls.

[DoodleSnap]

You just have to get your head around the idea that speaking to someone you like, or potentially want to date, is just like talking to anyone else. They don't know that you have a crush on them, all they are doing is having a casual conversation. Heck, we're all just brains at the end of the day, so what difference should it make between speaking to different genders? Make it casual, and it will be casual. There is no need to overthink it, just take it one step at a time, and think rationally about their perspective. All they are doing is talking, they're not judging you to the Nth degree.
Good luck.

[maggs]

Hey, we don't bite! (despite what my signature says :lol3:)
Just trust yourself a little more. No one's gonna judge you for talking to someone else.

[Syzygy]

The seeming solution is to increase potential attraction. More attractive you are -> more positive feedback received -> more natural confidence. This seems to be the best route to being confident I think. Faking confidence is usually picked up by most people, it's hard to fake genuine confidence, so it would probably be better to just gain actual confidence through the method I described.

[bbwolf26]

Yeah. I have a hard time talking to girls I am attracted to. I can talk to girls in a group as friends or at school. But if I am alone with a girl I kinda like, I get really tongue-tied and kind of stutter. It is better than how I was last year. I will be 15 in November and am a late bloomer too. I think it is about self-confidence, and a fear that she might not like how I look or sound. I had a girlfriend last summer and luckily she talked a lot. I just nodded my head a lot. LOL. Good luck dude.

[StoppingTom]

Honestly yeah, they're people just like your friends, they won't hurt you.

[Unlucky]

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[Kirina]

Exercise: running, swimming, boxing, pushups. You can do pushups before going to bed and running is simply putting on shoes and go outside. Easy.

Diet: Don't eat junk food.

Appearance: Brush teeth morning/night, shower every morning (shampoo hair, use soap on your ass/dick!), shave, skin cream, deodorant. Showering not only makes you clean, it makes you FEEL clean/fresh.

If you think your clothing style is bad. Go shop with friends and try many clothes, just like they do in movies.

Implement this as a lifestyle and confidence + attractiveness will follow.

[PaleBoy]

I see what you mean, i also have this problem. But i think i am equally awkward around boys and girls alike.

Unfortunately, i don´t have a recipe to increase your self-confidence....

[Leijon]

:33 < all you n33d to do is remember that girls are people too! where im from, there isn't really a gender binary so i cant quite help, however, it s33ms like your lack of confidence stems from your low self est33m! if you're uncomfurtable around them, than take your time getting to know them as a purrson before you view them as a girl.

[Babs]

I don't have the most confidence. I just stop caring and then I'm fine. It's not easy to just turn it off for some people, but it's worth a try.