How to be more manly?

[Jefful]

I don't know why everyone besides me says I'm too 'kind' like girls and need to be stronger, more naughty, rebel,.. I'm too sad and I've been shy, introvert since I was a kid (it doesn't mean I don't like talking to people). What should I do know? �������� I think I must be changed.

[matt_tgr]

Good news! You don't have to change! Stronger, naughtier, more rebellious? Who on earth told you that?! :D Of course, when it comes to girls, some like the douchey kind, but only the dumb ones! :P
Just be yourself! There aren't enough kind-hearted, happy people in this world. So being kind is a gift you need to nurture, because that's what relationships are all about (and some other stuff as well, of course :D But being douchey is definitely not one of them!)

[Turtl3]

No need to change to someone you are not! Best thing is to go through life and not care about what others think of you!

[Ratman1234]

Be yourself! Forget what other people say to u!

[nklarke]

Maybe going to gym?

[Random_Teen]

Ive been told the same thing. Don't change yourself because someone says too. You dont need to be more "manly" because someone doesnt like the way you act. Screw them! Be yourself!

[SethfromMI]

watch a bunch of Ron Swanson clips on youtube. you will learn all about being a man

[euan35]

Be yourself. I'm rather feminine and tbh I prefer acting naturally and being myself because I try to act "more masculine" it feels really unnatural

[YouTube]

Good news! You don't have to change! Stronger, naughtier, more rebellious? Who on earth told you that?! :D Of course, when it comes to girls, some like the douchey kind, but only the dumb ones! :P
Just be yourself! There aren't enough kind-hearted, happy people in this world. So being kind is a gift you need to nurture, because that's what relationships are all about (and some other stuff as well, of course :D But being douchey is definitely not one of them!)

This advice was spot on 👌

But seriously, don't change. I felt the same way, and ended up becoming friends with the "douchey kind". My friends that know the kind me, once saw me go over to my "douchey friends" and they said it was like I became a totally different person, a person they did not like. But now I have been personally struggling with juggling my two "personalities". (kind, friendly me, and obnoxious,rambunctious me)

[bbwolf26]

watch a bunch of Ron Swanson clips on youtube. you will learn all about being a man

HaHa. Yeah eat a lot of steak and other red meats.
Seriously, just be yourself. There are lots of years ahead of us to be men.

[ashdaniel]

What manly? A man is himself. A man is who he embrace and proud of who he is. Stereotypes are not manly. It is a restriction people put on to themselves. Be who you are and what comfortable in ur skin.

[Henri-K]

There's no need to change. Just be yourself!

[Jefful]

But I don't want anyone to call I'm gay though I'm not!

[davdev17]

Just ignore what people say. Be yourself. You will be much happier in the long run if you be yourself. It annoys me when people say sexist things like that. You are not a "manly person and that is okay. It doesn't matter if people think things about you if you know that they are not true.

[Garibay]

A lot of people think I'm gay just because I'm have more female friends, or because I do not like soccer, so don't be worried

[Jefful]

Thanks for the advice but I can't ignore what they say!

[davdev17]

Thanks for the advice but I can't ignore what they say!

You can. It's hard, but you can.

[emonerdz]

Thanks for the advice but I can't ignore what they say!

Look I know its gonna be hard when I was younger I quit dancing because all the guys bullied me and called me gay and I tried to change and tbh I felt really out of place. The thing is girls actually like kind hearted guys because u will listen u will help them out and u have morals which is good. All a man is a guy who has a house ,has a steady job,respects himself and others. Hope this helped when u change for others u will never be happy, just be u and happy

[Bluebyrd]

Be yourself. That's all I have to say.

[thegreatgatz]

I see no real need for you to change, but unlike what others said, if you don't feel fully happy being yourself, you can do what I did to become manly

1. Start working out EVERY DAY

2. Take up one sport you can enjoy watching, hockey, football, basketball, baseball, and soccer are all good choices, whether at the collegiate or professional level

3. Eat substantial, manly portions.

5. Stop drinking soda, it just isn't manly in my opinion.

6. Start reading about manly things and become an expert on cigars, whiskey, cars, or politics. Learn to talk about these things with manly confide nce and strength

[Cloud_Strife]

I don't know why everyone besides me says I'm too 'kind' like girls and need to be stronger, more naughty, rebel,.. I'm too sad and I've been shy, introvert since I was a kid (it doesn't mean I don't like talking to people). What should I do know? �������� I think I must be changed.


An interesting question, very well answered by Matt:
Good news! You don't have to change! Stronger, naughtier, more rebellious? Who on earth told you that?! :D Of course, when it comes to girls, some like the douchey kind, but only the dumb ones! :P
Just be yourself! There aren't enough kind-hearted, happy people in this world. So being kind is a gift you need to nurture, because that's what relationships are all about (and some other stuff as well, of course :D But being douchey is definitely not one of them!)

There is far more to what makes a man, than physical stature and performance. Likewise; being unruly, aggressive or rebellious is hardly what defines manhood.

There is not strict set of criteria for what constitutes manliness and every individual will be unique in their own way. There is no need to conform to any group or one person's set of expectations, in order to be deemed 'manly'.

At the end of the day, if you can live up to your principles and values and do right by others and yourself; that is what truly matters. To be able to hold yourself accountable to your words and actions is not easy, and takes far more effort, perseverance and moral fortitude; than what it seems like your current peers are displaying with their comments alone.

In saying this, I would like to leave you with one of my favourite poems; by Rudyard Kipling. It is called 'If', and I hope it provides some inspiration towards what kind of things one may expect of a good person, not just a man. In my mind, it shows how one should act and the kinds of things which one should strive for, but not be limited by.

http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/175772

Hope it helps mate. Cheers.

[Garibay]

You mustn't, is the way you think and you like to be

[Blablabla36489]

Why should you even change? I was same as you around a year ago and since my 14th birthday I've been only changing to the better.

Don't worry! While you're growing up, you're becoming more confident and open-minded. ;)

[brightlight]

Get a tattoo on your neck that says cut here....

[Andre 99]

Be yuorself.
If YOU don't like you, then change to be how you want to be, just don't change cos other people tell you to.

[Jaseblader]

I don't know why everyone besides me says I'm too 'kind' like girls and need to be stronger, more naughty, rebel,.. I'm too sad and I've been shy, introvert since I was a kid (it doesn't mean I don't like talking to people). What should I do know? �������� I think I must be changed.

Don't change yourself your great as you are don't chase people who don't like your qualities because sometimes you find when you don't loo