Can't decide who

[randomperson0621]

So, I've had a crush on a girl for a while now, she is cute, funny, an amazing artist, and we have sorta been friends since kindergarten (we're going into grade eight now) but last year she told me that she was pansexual and had a crush on a girl when I told her I liked her. I support her and all but I just can't stop liking her, because it makes her uncomfortable and it sorta ruined our friendship (we're still friends but she doesn't talk to me that much any more).

But there was a different girl and we have been friends since fifth grade, she is cute, smart, funny, we can relate and we talk a lot. I talk to her about personal stuff and random stuff and it usually ends up with both of us laughing. She is also popular (me being like the one of the people popular kids ignore)

I can't decide. I think it's ok to like two people but I know I have like 1% chance with either of them. What should I do?

[Vermilion]

Go with your heart

[Tesserax]

NO! I'm sorry, I don't mean offence but don't listen to twin. ABORT MISSION! DO NOT LISTEN TO YOU HEART! LISTENING TO YOUR HEART IS THE BEST WAY TO LET YOUR HEART BREAK!

Warning aside, the heart is but a guideline, something that tells you "Yes, I think this will be good, and I believe, I WANT this to be good". That's all the heart does, but you have to think rationally about this; what will happen?

You said that the first girl you knew since kindergarten is sort of moving away from you, because of the awkwardness and honestly, that's not a good sign. You might like her, but this could be a more sexual thing, and attraction based relationships do not often end well. Plus, she shows interest in somebody else, and you need to let her do that, do not try to make her like you, it won't end well.

On the other hand, the girl you knew since 5th grade sounds like a very good option to me. She seems charming, and the fact that you talk about personal stuff is a good sign that you have an emotional connection; the best way to begin a relationship. Furthermore, if she's popular and you're not, that says to me she's taking the effort to talk to you despite what others may think, and that may mean she is interested, but don't make a move too quickly.

Take your time, do not rush things, and from experience, DO NOT TELL HER YOU LIKE HER! If you have to urge to, chances are you're going to do it too quickly. Take your time, and tell her when she's ready (she maybe hangs out with you a lot, you guys go and watch movies sometimes, perhaps when you're close she brushes up against you "accidentally", and maybe even let her tell you first, and then say that you've been wanting to tell her for a long time that you like her too (which you have)).

Anyway, good luck, remember to listen to your heart for goals, dreams, and stuff like that, but listen to the mind to guide your hand down the correct path, and make the right decisions.

[DoodleSnap]

You should get to know them better as friends before forming a romantic relationship, in my opinion. After getting to know them, you should have a pretty clear idea of who you like.