Afraid of Rejection

[Melodic]

So I have a bunch of friends. The problem is, I'm too afraid to ask them to hang out with me and they never seem to do so themselves. When I do ask them, I have to turn off my phone for hours to calm myself down just in case they tell me they don't want to hang out. What's a good way to get over this fear?

[Gwen]

In my opinion, which is probably easily the worst. The way to get over rejection will be getting rejected. I think if it comes to something like hanging out after the first time rejection doesn't sting nearly as much as the first time, it always sucks for it to happen but we just need to move on from these things. Once it actually happens you might be sad but just remember that the world didn't end from that, neither will your friendship. So just go for it and hope for the best. Hope it helps.

[Riley2015]

We all hate rejection, but my advice is just ignore your fear as best you can and make the offers. If they say no they say no but at least you'll know you tried. They may say yes and you'll be so glad you took the plunge,if you don't try at all you don't get a chance for them to say yes

[Abhorrence]

I have a similar issue and I find that being in a group chat on Facebook makes things a lot easier because if you ask if anyone wants to do anything usually at least one person will want to. But I generally just stay at home and I'm usually the one rejecting other people's offers because my house is now my cave and I don't want to leave it.

[blackwaterkeys]

Don't place your worth in how other people esteem you. Also recognise that everyone has their own things that they need to take care of and they might choose not to hang out with you not because they don't like you but because they have a lot on their plate that you don't know about.

[Melodic]

Thanks everybody for your advice!

[jennyem]

You care too much! Even if they say they can't, who cares? Let it be