Curious cousin

[jgjgj]

I was looking for some advice because of my 12 years old cousin. We are so confident with each other and a few weeks ago he asked me about masturbation, porn and this stuff. He looks curious about this which I think is normal at that age. I am very happy with him and that he has enough confidence with me to ask me about how to j/o. But the problem is how can I make it easy for him to understand it? Should I show him porn and explain him how porn works? If he asks me should I show him how to masturbate with our dicks out or could be harmful for him? I don't want to hurt him in any way because I love him.

[Vermilion]

I would tell him how not show. And you don't need to watch porn

[Garibay]

I'll show him a page to how do it lol

[Bluebyrd]

Think about how you found out about all the stuff that he wants to know about. Show him what you were shown or found if it didn't do anything bad to you

[pjones]

there are plenty of educational sites on the internet you can show him, please not porn. that aint real.

[jgjgj]

He told me that he has seen porn and he got a boner but he is a bit afraid with jacking off on his own and he say he prefers to ask me how it feels. So I think porn is not a problem with him

[nklarke]

How old are u?

[pconnor2001]

I guess it would depend on how old you are. Are you close to age 12?

[Turtl3]

Porn won't be the best reference, sshowing him may be too much...I would go for telling him for now and see where that goes

[fandom_king]

It wouldn't be harmful to him. Show him porn and explain things to him. If he asks you to show him how to masturbate, show him, but make sure your parents or his parents don't catch you because this can cause issues in your family.

[ashdaniel]

He is a guy. Boy naturally know how jerk off work. Well, if your cousin ask you to experience together. You have to consider your age and his. If your age are 3 years or more apart. It will not be nice to experience like this. It is all about consent and comfortable.

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[Second Chance]

I was looking for some advice because of my 12 years old cousin. We are so confident with each other and a few weeks ago he asked me about masturbation, porn and this stuff. He looks curious about this which I think is normal at that age. I am very happy with him and that he has enough confidence with me to ask me about how to j/o. But the problem is how can I make it easy for him to understand it? Should I show him porn and explain him how porn works? If he asks me should I show him how to masturbate with our dicks out or could be harmful for him? I don't want to hurt him in any way because I love him.

I think the most important thing you can do with your cousin is being honest about masturbation and sexuality and giving him honest answers. You can talk about your puberty and how you handled things like masturbating and the changes to your body. I would discourage you from masturbating with the kid or doing anything physical with him because he might take that in the wrong way and think it is all right to do sexual stuff with family members. I would encourage your cousin to talk with his father (if he has one around) and make sure he is talking with his parent(s). Again, it is all right to talk to the kid about masturbation, but I would not recommend that you masturbate with him. You can use a prop like a banana or cucumber to show how masturbating works.

Porn is a tough thing, and a lot of it depends on your personal beliefs. If you think porn is all right, then make sure that you explain to your cousin not to get addicted to it. Your cousin has to understand that porn is not reality and that it is simply acting no different than a movie. As long as your cousin understands porn is fiction and why it is done, then hopefully he will understand not to live his sexual life like a porn actor. Just make sure that you both are careful on what porn sites you all visit because your cousin has to understand about malware and other nasty stuff that can infect a computer if he goes onto the wrong website. Boys your cousin's age are really curious about how the human body looks like which is why you should be honest about the body but also realize that porn does have its problems.

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[harristhetank]

I would suggest you to teach him how to masturbate without actually showing him, because things could go weird very quickly when things get sexual, literally. I was taught how to wank by older boys at my boarding school. They didn't show me how to do it but they used a banana to mock the stroking, maybe you could try that as well.

[colesixteen]

I think he is sending you a message that he wants you to show him. Alot of cousins/brothers, etc. show each other how to jack off, and I don't see anything wrong with it as long as both of them want to.

[Henri-K]

Just be honest. You don't really need porn

[Ollie2000]

be honest with him, but let him figure out on his own - you could give a pointer like suggested above showing the hand movement, he'll soon work out for himself quick enough.

[jgjgj]

He knows the basic up-down movement but the problem is he is afraid of doing it on his own, so I think he wants me to be next to him while he is jacking off to ask me if he is doing right or about the sensations he could feel at that moment.

[SethfromMI]

I would just tell him and not show him. and naw, porn is not really needed. he can get it on his own if he really wants to

[suanden]

I suggest to use a banana and show how is it done. Educate him that it is normal but not over excessive.

[Second Chance]

He knows the basic up-down movement but the problem is he is afraid of doing it on his own, so I think he wants me to be next to him while he is jacking off to ask me if he is doing right or about the sensations he could feel at that moment.

At this point everything depends on your comfort level. Personally, I wouldn't jack off with the kid or even watch him masturbate because that might lead to a bad situation or the kid wanting to masturbate with you in the future. One way or the other the kid is going to learn how to masturbate because it kind of happens naturally. The most I would do is give him pointers and would not do anything beyond that.

[Living For Love]

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[denicedak]

just let him figure it out on his own so he can know himself better but if he goes on a wrong path the your intervention is highly necessary so you can guide him on the right path

[omgdog]

Yeah just tell him...depending on how close the two of u are i guess u could jerk together (I jerk off with my brother who's a year older)

[Zachary G]

I wouldnt introduce him to porn at that age, he will find it on his own probably, but its not for you to show him. As far as teaching him how to masturbate, there are plenty of youtube videos on the subject actually and you can show him one of those OR you can use a visual aid like a banana to show him how to do it properly.

[Ricky.h]

I was looking for some advice because of my 12 years old cousin. We are so confident with each other and a few weeks ago he asked me about masturbation, porn and this stuff. He looks curious about this which I think is normal at that age. I am very happy with him and that he has enough confidence with me to ask me about how to j/o. But the problem is how can I make it easy for him to understand it? Should I show him porn and explain him how porn works? If he asks me should I show him how to masturbate with our dicks out or could be harmful for him? I don't want to hurt him in any way because I love him.

As long as it doesn't go any further than showing him I don't think it's an issue..personally when I was around that age my dad showed me how to jack off by demonstrating himself...and there's nothing wrong with that at all, so many guys go through life without a proper education of sex, so I'm happy my dad showed me how to jack off and what it looks like to orgasm what to expect and all of that

[sysrq]

As long as it doesn't go any further than showing him I don't think it's an issue..personally when I was around that age my dad showed me how to jack off by demonstrating himself...and there's nothing wrong with that at all, so many guys go through life without a proper education of sex, so I'm happy my dad showed me how to jack off and what it looks like to orgasm what to expect and all of that

At the age of 12 he is not a kid anymore, he is nearly thirteen. As long as everything happens in exciting and natural way without forcing anything but by maintaining healthy curiosity then I don't see anything wrong with that. It can be even more exciting and mysterious for him without any porn.

[Sean4U]

5 years ago I would probably have told you to go ahead and show him, but I don't think that is the advice that I would give today. You can guide him to sites like jackinworld and other things and explain to him (even using a banana as has been suggested) but be careful when it comes to actually doing it with him. He may want to, but you are the older cousin so use your "maturity" and do the right thing.

[Colton8]

Yeah I think you could just show him how but ask him if he wants you to show him first

[thegreatgatz]

No need to show him how, its rather self u and incest isn't reccomended.

[Crona]

i think its ok to show him if both of you are comfortable with it and are close enough with each other

[Andre 99]

gersu1322, I guess it depends how old you are?
I guess as long as you are not 18 or over it would be ok to show him how to do it.
Perhaps jerk yourself and let him watch what you do.

Maybe if you are not too comfortable with him, then maybe find some sites that are not too graphic, to show him (like wanking tutorials I mean).

[KevinK]

Any updates??

[Andre 99]

I am interested in why you decides to do.
Quiero saber que hiciste.

[Zerg]

I would think about how you learned to do it, then explain it to him just like how you found out about it

[JavierDolan]

I think that it would be okay for you to do that if he's okay with it. If he's not, DO NOT DO IT. It could be an extremely rewarding experience if you do it, and it's going to be rewarding if you don't. So I guess it's up to you.

[Harrier]

I never understand how some people can't figure out masturbation by themselves. Weird.

[bswain98]

I would make sure it is what he wants beforehand, but show him. As long as you aren't too much older and all of that then it should be fine. In society today, many people see it as taboo to do things such as that, but in fact, it is best he learns in a healthy way rather than porn.
I would show him side by side

[JustinG]

I think he is sending you a message that he wants you to show him. Alot of cousins/brothers, etc. show each other how to jack off, and I don't see anything wrong with it as long as both of them want to.

I'm with this one !!

[bruzer]

Just explain it to him but also show him that neither watching porn nor masturbation is a good thing as it is addicting and has negative effects

[sysrq]

Just explain it to him but also show him that neither watching porn nor masturbation is a good thing as it is addicting and has negative effects

It might be better to teach him cause he may feel more appreciated and his life may seem less lonely.

True, masturbation and watching porn in solitude and loneliness can have negative consequences depending on psychological well-being.

[lkc413]

DON'T show him porn. He should discover that on his own or with friends. As far as the act of jerking off itself, If he asks it's ok to show him yourself in person as long as you are with in about 3-4 years from his age, but I wouldn't blatantly suggest he pull his penis out with you and jerk off. You could ask him if he wants you to show him. And if he does, if he wants you to do it for him the first time or if he would rather do it himself. Remember, this could potentially affect the rest of his life, so don't do something you'd regret later.

[Spotlight]

Yeah i agree, don't show him porn, cause that might make him feel weird but IF and only IF he asks you to show him about jerking off then yeah that's fine

[Rickmckay111]

my lil cousin (hes 11) caught me watching porn so i covered up but let him watch for a second - he thought it was cool.....he knew what it was tho and says he watches porn on his ipad :p