My ex is sharing my nudes

[Nyroxas]

She's shared them with friends and she's put them on tumblr. What should I do? If anyone has advice or can help me get them off tumblr can they pm me or email me? I'm kinda desperate

[StoppingTom]

Pretty sure that's illegal? Contact Tumblr staff and the police.

[Scott10111]

You can get them removed from tumbler easy and depending on who else she has sent them to, you can make up your own mind on weather you need to talk to them or call someone... don't do the same to her!!

[Bluebyrd]

First, ask her to take them down. If she doesn't then contact Tumblr or even the police

[Hudor]

Ask her to take them down and report it on Tumblr. Why is she doing it?

[Nyroxas]

She's mad at me obv. Thanks I'll try reporting it. Don't want to involve the police though... i'm not trying to send her to jail

[Vermilion]

contact the police

[StoppingTom]

Just because you call the cops doesn't mean you have to press charges. Just scare the bejesus out of her.

[Abhorrence]

Tumblr is pretty good with handling reports, they will probably take them down if you ask.

[GrossKahn]

And that's why you don't share nude pictures.

Talking to her, would be a possiblity, or you do what already got posted

[Nyroxas]

Uhhh it was my gf don't be judgemental most people do it esp with girl friends

[Let Me Be a Pony]

Like everyone said, report the pics or call the cops. I'd suggest calling the cops, since she may spread them somewhere else without even telling you this time.

I remember this one time passing by a kid in school, and he was watching some cock pics of his friend on his mobile. Laughed my ass of, because he was sitting on the stairs and watching this publicly.

[ClaraWho]

Revenge porn is illegal - if underage it is also distribution of child pornography. Send this information to her in an adult format, no insults, just plain and simple. Stop and delete these images, or I will invole the police and press charges against you.

If you call the cops, they'll most likely just speak to her parents, arrest her, scare her and then let her go.

Tumblr are great at deleting child porn accounts and copyright material, especially revenge porn. Report on the post itself and that should be that.

Until you sort this out with her, she could sent to employers/parents etc.

~ Clara

[Stronk Serb]

Well, I could lecture you on and on how ut was a dumb idea, but it happened. Report him to the cops and have him bust her ass. Also contact Tumblr staff and tell them what she is doing. Also if you are a minor, she can get an even harsher punishment.

[SethfromMI]

And that's why you don't share nude pictures.

Talking to her, would be a possiblity, or you do what already got posted

bingo

and OP you either have to make reports against her or just live with the fact she is sharing your nudes. I am sorry, but that is your options. This is a lesson for all of those out there. It is why I do not send nudes to even people I know and trust

[Meganium]

Its been a few days, so I hope that you've handled this already, but I've gotta say:

Ladies and Gentlemen, THIS, is why we don't share nudes with people. Under ANY circumstances. Period.

I hope that your situation is resolved, but in the future, be wary of your actions. Those pictures that you send could be in the hands of anybody on Earth now. And they could always come back to bite your tail.

[ImCoolBeans]

Nobody is being judgmental, they're just trying to say why it's a bad idea to share nudes with anyone. Relationships usually aren't forever. Even if it seems like a good idea at the time and you think it's safe, things like this can happen.

[phuckphace]

if OP called the cops on her, wouldn't he be turning himself in too? he sent them to her in the first place, which counts as distributing CP if I'm not mistaken and I don't believe I am

oh and sorry to point this out but once pics leak on the Internet they're there permanently. Tumblr isn't the only site for sharing naughtypix either. even if Tumblr deletes your photos they'll still be preserved for future civilizations on the hard drives of 69,000 gay guys who downloaded them 5 seconds after they hit the blogs

[DoodleSnap]

What she did was pretty terrible, and is never acceptable. She broke your trust, that is not the way to show anger. Anyway, as everyone else said, report it to Tumblr, and maybe talk to a confidential hotline about it. I don't have the legal knowhow to give good advice.
Good luck.

[Afroki]

Just call the cops, they are gonna bring her to police station and tell her that she should not did that and problem solved.

[SethfromMI]

if OP called the cops on her, wouldn't he be turning himself in too? he sent them to her in the first place, which counts as distributing CP if I'm not mistaken and I don't believe I am

oh and sorry to point this out but once pics leak on the Internet they're there permanently. Tumblr isn't the only site for sharing naughtypix either. even if Tumblr deletes your photos they'll still be preserved for future civilizations on the hard drives of 69,000 gay guys who downloaded them 5 seconds after they hit the blogs

oh very good point.

yea OP hopefully you can talk sense to her.

as for the rest of VT this is why you don't send nudes, even to people you know, trust, etc

[ashdyn]

They're just nudes...hopefully you didn't have your face in them(nudes 101). Most of us have at least a few mistakes floating around out there on the Internet. I swear nowadays people treat nudes like trading cards...people got whole stashes in their phones lol live and learn dude.

[THJKIGB]

First off you can definitely get the off of tumblr by just contacting tumblr and explaining what she has done. Not only will they take the pictures down, but they probably will permanently ban her from the site. Getting her friends to get rid of them will be a little harder because you will just have to go to each of them or send them an e-mail asking them to delete them.

[james smith]

Just talk to her about this and ask her to bring them down

[mikielikesit]

Yeah this is the kinda stuff you have to be prepared for when sending nudes, No a huge deal we live and make mistakes, she violated your trust. Sorry

[atifsinner]

I am sure you will get over it with time

[Nav-Man]

Contact the police.
If you're under the age of 21 she can be done for distributing child pornography.
Contact tumblr to get her page deleted photos removed.
Screen shot proof of her saying she's done so.
Take legal action man. Dont sit around and let it happen.

[tovaris]

I say Call the police on her. That is ilegal on so many levels.

[ashdyn]

To all these people saying call the police....I think that's super over kill. If she gets in trouble she'll have to register as a sex offender FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. Honestly, I don't think posting her ex's nudes on tumblr while she's a teen is grounds for ruining the rest of her adult life.

Sure. Contact tumblr. They'll take it down. But trying to get her arrested is pretty shitty...he did voluntarily send them to her.

At the end of the day most of us have nudes floating around out there. It's not that big of a deal.

[Uniquemind]

To all these people saying call the police....I think that's super over kill. If she gets in trouble she'll have to register as a sex offender FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. Honestly, I don't think posting her ex's nudes on tumblr while she's a teen is grounds for ruining the rest of her adult life.

Sure. Contact tumblr. They'll take it down. But trying to get her arrested is pretty shitty...he did voluntarily send them to her.

At the end of the day most of us have nudes floating around out there. It's not that big of a deal.

Nope it's completely worth ruining the rest of her life.

No matter how young you are you need to know that sharing nudes vindictively is not okay.

That goes for anybody who practices sexting, having them leaked and having to register as a sex offender is part of the risk you take and you need to know that going into such actions.

[DoodleSnap]

To all these people saying call the police....I think that's super over kill. If she gets in trouble she'll have to register as a sex offender FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. Honestly, I don't think posting her ex's nudes on tumblr while she's a teen is grounds for ruining the rest of her adult life.

Sure. Contact tumblr. They'll take it down. But trying to get her arrested is pretty shitty...he did voluntarily send them to her.

At the end of the day most of us have nudes floating around out there. It's not that big of a deal.
Distributing Child Pornography is highly illegal, and to do so against the subject's will is morally objectionable on many levels.
Just because lots of teenagers share their nudes doesn't mean it is okay, this is not only a serious crime but really degrading and often traumatising for the person involved. In fact, in the UK, Revenge Porn is now a punishable offence. So, in short, not something to be taken lightly, and to allow someone to get away with something so horrible, not acceptable in my book. You can't pick and choose what you decide is serious enough for the police to get involved with.

[ashdyn]

Distributing Child Pornography is highly illegal, and to do so against the subject's will is morally objectionable on many levels.
Just because lots of teenagers share their nudes doesn't mean it is okay, this is not only a serious crime but really degrading and often traumatising for the person involved. In fact, in the UK, Revenge Porn is now a punishable offence. So, in short, not something to be taken lightly, and to allow someone to get away with something so horrible, not acceptable in my book. You can't pick and choose what you decide is serious enough for the police to get involved with.

"You can't pick and choose what you decide is serious enough for the police to get involved with."

You literally can pick and choose. If we couldn't we'd be calling the cops for EVERYTHING. They don't throw little kids in jail for shoplifting a pack of gum.

Not saying what she did was okay or not immoral but to ruin someone's life because of a stupid decision they made in middle school is a reach for me. And yes distributing child porn is illegal...and there have been so many cases in the U.S. where the sender had to register as a sex offender also. A common theme here for the OP and his ex is consequences and repercussions for their actions. Yeah his ex probably doesn't realize the consequences of posting his nudes but the OP also failed to realize the consequences of choosing to take and send nudes. Not trying to stick up for this girl at all cause she seems like a psycho bitch but they both share the blame in this.

[tonymontana99]

She's shared them with friends and she's put them on tumblr. What should I do? If anyone has advice or can help me get them off tumblr can they pm me or email me? I'm kinda desperate

Since you say "ex," I suppose you willingly sent those to him while sexting. Well, I'll break it down to you: it's your own fault and you deserve it for being so gullible. What the Hell do you think she was going to do with them? Delete them? Lol, I am baffled by how utterly stupid some people are.

Good luck bro, but they're out there. And they won't go anywhere. Once you upload something to the Internet, it stays there... FOREVER. Dozens of other people have already downloaded it and are now using it to disguise as yourself while messaging little kids on Le Tumblr and KiK. Now it's just a matter of time until it gets to the hands of people you know from your school/workplace, and your family and friends on social websites. You dun goof'd, OP.

[kayla...]

Report to Tumblr and either go to the police or tell her you will if she does it again

[SethfromMI]

To all these people saying call the police....I think that's super over kill. If she gets in trouble she'll have to register as a sex offender FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE. Honestly, I don't think posting her ex's nudes on tumblr while she's a teen is grounds for ruining the rest of her adult life.

Sure. Contact tumblr. They'll take it down. But trying to get her arrested is pretty shitty...he did voluntarily send them to her.

At the end of the day most of us have nudes floating around out there. It's not that big of a deal.

I do agree to an extent. he should not have sent the nudes in the first place. I never, ever send nudes out. I don't send them to my gf, I don't send them to anyone, for the very reason the OP is going through. some employers and stuff, if they find out this stuff is out there, do have the right to terminate your position because of the image it brings to the company. I totally get what your saying about not wanting the girl to have to register as a sex offender and agree.

still, this is why you never send nudes and if you do, you got to be willing to face they could get leaked. sometimes they get leaked on accident, hacked, whatever. it is always a risk you will take

[Uniquemind]

Adding to this discussion though if the message of consequences isn't getting through to fellow teens, it just means schools need to devote a couple of assemblies with guest speakers who have been victims and have felt the repercussions of having their nudes leaked or having spread nudes.

That's been an effective strategy in anti-drunk-driving campaigns it can also help solve the revenge porn problem.

But it's gotta be relatable and connect to youthful naive understanding about the world, and why you aren't as immune as you think (I.e. It won't happen to me syndrome).

[Body odah Man]

Illegal. Tell on him/her to the cops, they can totally arrest him/her for that. It's not ok