In desperate need of guidance: PLZ

[targaryen101]

(I swear I tried to make this as short as possible)
I am a male, my best friend for 13 years now is a girl. we decided to loose our virginity to one another, why? because we were both ready and were not in relationships but still wanted our first times to be with someone special. This didn't make it awkward ever (seriously, its fine)
Now- One of my closest friends of almost 3 years who is now my girlfriend, who I love so much, knows of my best friends and my past. How? because before we were in a relationship she found out, I told her, (friends talk). when we decided to go out, she was aware of my past and accepted it, but now, she feels jealous, (in the completely normal way any girlfriend would) when I spend time with her or any of my female friends who i have a lot of- I am a guy who has always found it easier to make friends with girls.) the problem isn't that she doesn't trust me, and this is not something we fight over, as I said, she already knew about this- but it is something that is causing our relationship some form of 'bump' I don't know what to do. she doesn't expect me to stop seeing my friends and she doesn't want me to feel bad about seeing them but I don't want her to feel this way, because of me!!
So good people, this is your time. any suggestions?
Thank you.

[ClaraWho]

I don't see anything you can do. The problem is trust, you have demonstrated in your past you have no issue with having sex with just female friends. And it's not like you ever 'broke up' after the sex was done, because it was a murky relationshipless thing. At least within the confines of a relationship sex is contained as part of that time period. With what you did, that relationship is still ongoing and she probably doesn't like hearing about that particular friend, as it will bring unpleasant mental images.

You were right to be honest and tell her though, you want to share yourself with her and vice versa right? It's just unfortunate you muddied the waters you both now swim in. The fact you don't consider sex with friends a mistake probably doesn't help put her any more at ease, but neither would lying.

Sorry to not be more helpful, but you have made your bed and now you must lay in it.

Hopefully others can be more helpful!

~Clara

[Riley2015]

if you slept with this friend before you entered a relationship with the other girl i can't see the problem?You didn't cheat and you're allowed to have a past