How to tell if someone is gay?

[NzForever]

Some guy at school came up to me and felt my ass and the next day he whispered something in my ear, but I didnt hear him.
Could he be gay? What are some signs you should look to tell if someone is gay? And I don't mean like the high pitch talking sort of stereotype gay. I mean like a hidden gay, who most people wouldn't think are gay.

[Abhorrence]

Well there really isn't any surefire way to know someone's sexual orientation without outright asking them or catching them in the act. Obviously some people act stereotypical to a certain sexuality but in general, nobody can tell if you're gay by looking at you. Honestly, there's no hidden signs unless you find incriminating evidence that they're into a specific gender. So, the best way to see if someone is gay is to ask them outright and even then they have the potential to lie. People will come out when they are ready to accept it themselves and pressuring someone does more harm than good.

[Babs]

If he says, "I'm gay."
There is no sure way other than that, other than stereotyping. If he was flirting with you, he's probably gay or bi. Or maybe he was kidding around. Who knows. Like Jack said, there is no sure way other than asking.

[Broken Toy]

There are some hints. People are trying too hard to be pc. If someone is very 'girly' and camp, it can be an indicator theyre gay, as gay people have a tendency to have less testosterone. Of course some gays are manly as fuck, and im camp as fuck but straight. Observe his behaviour and see if he acts very 'girly' but yes, feeling a lads ass is pretty gay. Like i might do that to wind someone up, but not out of nowhere

[lliam]

I don't pay attention to any signs of whether someone is gay, not gay or whatever else. As long I like this guy/girl, I see him or her as a potential friend. In other case, I don't take care of him/her.

And if I'm unsure whether this dude wants something from me (or not), I ask him directly, even if it might be a little bit embarrassing.

[Termina]

Just ask him in a polite manner

[SethfromMI]

If he says, "I'm gay."
There is no sure way other than that, other than stereotyping. If he was flirting with you, he's probably gay or bi. Or maybe he was kidding around. Who knows. Like Jack said, there is no sure way other than asking.

this. the only way you will ever know for sure if he says so.

[fast8]

By just asking him is the only way for sure to know

[ashdaniel]

Well, when guys do that there is a change that he might be gay. If he come out to the public that he is gay. It means he is in the closet. If you came out already and are not afraid. You can just tell him that you are gay. He will got the hint. It is his problem to tell you now.

[Reg_]

the only way to know somebodys sexuality is if you ask them

[DoodleSnap]

As the above have stated, there is no sure way to know without outright asking them. Assuming you don't want to do that, maybe you could ask the person why they did what they did? Speak to them about it, and maybe then you'll get a clearer idea.

[Karkat]

Ask them. 100% the only way.

Unless you read their diary and it says "omg I like dick so much I'm a gay queer faggot yaoi is the best haha men r gr8"

But seriously. Ask. A lot of people in real like think I'm straight and BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA no

[JavierDolan]

Their response when you say "are you willing to suck me off?"

Seriously though, there's no way to tell what someone's sexuality is without asking them.

[PaleBoy]

The "Gaydar" is pretty reliable, but you shouldn´t trust it too much.

[Jackieboii]

You can't, ask him

[Abyssal Echo]

Me and some of my friends touch each other in a suggestive way grab ass and shit like that all the time. I'm gay but they are straight af soo that's no way to know if they're gay or not. As the others said there's no better way to find out then ask.

[eric2001]

I can't tell. I'll prolly know better if the boy asks me out on a date. lol

[James Dean]

If you can't tell from your intuitions, he probably isn't. Then again he might be, as usually if you don't suspect a guy is gay, he probably is.

Just ask him.

Really just mind your own business unless you want to date him.

[Hermes]

Some people do say they have something called "gaydar", i.e. sense for working out if someone is gay but even people who make this claim will adit they still make mistakes and you can't really write out a series of tests.

So you think this guy may be flirting with you. If you don't want that kind of attention from him then, if he does it again, politely ask him to stop and if hes doesn't get more insistent. If you enjoy his attention then flirt back.

[Bacca]

The only way to tell is to ask, sorry

[Andre 99]

unless they say, i don't think you can tell.

[Just JT]

I'd say that if he walked up to you grabbed your ass and whispered in your ear, you could pretty much assume he's probably gay, bi or curious anyways

[Potter696]

There are some hints. People are trying too hard to be pc. If someone is very 'girly' and camp, it can be an indicator theyre gay, as gay people have a tendency to have less testosterone. Of course some gays are manly as fuck, and im camp as fuck but straight. Observe his behaviour and see if he acts very 'girly' but yes, feeling a lads ass is pretty gay. Like i might do that to wind someone up, but not out of nowhere


I have to strongly disagree with the quote above about how "girly" behavior in males correlates to homosexuality. It's not being politically correct, it is simply true - there is no absolute way of determining a person's sexual orientation just by looking at them (especially on the principles of femininity and masculinity - which if we went philosophical don't truly exist anyways). The quote even contradicts itself about how "girly"=gay, but some gays are "manly". Self-contradiction. The only way to know for certain if anyone is a certain sexual orientation is a honest answer from that person. Otherwise, you can infer based on explicit actions.

The guy grabbing your butt, and then whispering in your ear, I can infer/guess that he has sexual interest in you BUT I could be absolutely wrong since there are other possibilities. You just need an honest answer from him to know for sure.

[ChaosEarthquake]

In my case, stereotyping is not always true.
The crush I used to have on this guy, I absolutely thought I KNEW he was gay. He acted EXACTLY like any gay guy would: the walk, the talk, the hair, the acting.
However, as soon as I asked him and confessed my love, he said to fuck off and he punched me in the jaw.

[cccextr]

You can't really unless you stereotype and assume.

My roommate/best friend is bisexual but only like 3 people besides his parents and sister know. Otherwise you would have literally no clue.

One of my other roommates is hella flamboyant and fits all the gay stereotypes. Me and my best friend are like 99% sure he is gay yet he maintains that he is straight and we just look at him like "ok" lol

[NotQuiteANerd97]

The only way you can know for sure is if they tell you. A lot of straight dudes pretend to act gay just for the hell of it, and a lot of gay/bi boys like myself act quite "straight".