Dad Bans me from Facebook, Skype etc

[Riley2015]

So my dad does not allow me to use Facebook,twitter, instagram or skype or any other similar stuff. He puts parental controls on my computer and checks both my computer and my smartphone regularly to make sure i stay off these places and anything else he bans me off.

He allows me to use forums like this one and to have an email address

He treats me like i'm 13 months old rather than 13 years.

Does anyone else have a parent like this? Do you think its time for me to politely ask if he can lift this ban?

[Babs]

My opinion depends on the circumstances.
Were you acting stupid on facebook? Picking fights? Etc? If so, I think he is right to do so. Otherwise I think it's silly to not allow fb and stuff like that. There's really no point in it if the kid's not stupid.

[Riley2015]

My opinion depends on the circumstances.
Were you acting stupid on facebook? Picking fights? Etc? If so, I think he is right to do so. Otherwise I think it's silly to not allow fb and stuff like that. There's really no point in it if the kid's not stupid.

He doesn't trust me. He always thinks i'm doing or going to do something bad

[Babs]

He doesn't trust me. He always thinks i'm doing or going to do something bad

Tell him you'd like to earn his trust and show him you can be a responsible memver of society. If not, just forget about it and try again when you're older. Facebook is kinda stupid anyway.

[Riley2015]

He's always waiting for an excuse to punish me :rolleyes:

[Hideous]

The White Padded Room :arrow: Family and Friends

Better suited here.

[phuckphace]

gonna just have to grin and bear it until you're 18, sorry bro.

[Hudor]

Seeing as you're already grounded, I'd suggest you bear it for now. Probably he doesn't want you to interact at all with you.

[lliam]

In my family there is a rule: No Facebook, Whatsapp, etc until you're 16.

But I guess, when I turn 16 that I still have no interest to register at Facebook anymore.

[Broken Toy]

Sorry mate but your dad sounds like a dick. Seriously you have to be well ignorant to ignore the fact that people use social media now, tell him you arent a bairn and he isnt letting you talk to your mates.

Imo its sly as fuck he goes through your phone, i delete everything on my phone and computer because if anyone went through my shit id kick off

[Abhorrence]

Going through your phone and computer is way too far, I'd hate for that to happen. I don't really agree with the whole parental control thing either but I guess that's kinda in some boundaries but going through your private stuff is wrong, everyone deserves to have independence unless there is a very serious reason.

[Sandybeaches]

My mum is pretty bad with stuff like that, no facebook, instagram, whatsapp. My Dad is pretty cool with it but kinda goes along with it cuz mum is the boss, it jst means i have to use new things that they don't know what it is yet.
It's not like i even misuse them or anything, I think my mum thinks i'm sending nudes to people or i'm going to get groomed by a pedophile or something. She gets worried if i even talk to other kids she doesn't know.
So i feel your pain, luckily my dad is relaxing the rules around me more and more and just covering for me with mum cuz he knows she's a little strict as well.

[Body odah Man]

Hardcore over reacting right there. Sadly not much you can do about your dad to change his mind if he doesn't want to change it. :(

[Uniquemind]

So my dad does not allow me to use Facebook,twitter, instagram or skype or any other similar stuff. He puts parental controls on my computer and checks both my computer and my smartphone regularly to make sure i stay off these places and anything else he bans me off.

He allows me to use forums like this one and to have an email address

He treats me like i'm 13 months old rather than 13 years.

Does anyone else have a parent like this? Do you think its time for me to politely ask if he can lift this ban?

Actually I'm gonna go and disagree with what everyone else is saying and say that I have over 6 friends whose parents use parental controls on electronic devices.

Twitter is overrated and while your missing out in participating in online memes and stuff, you're not missing out on too much.

Same goes for Facebook, nobody uses it.

Instagram and snapchat though yeah...you're missing out on taking pictures of your food and posting it online and or sexting with a girlfriend.

Those really are the top uses for snapchat.


Only approx 1825 days for you to go and you're out of there.

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The worst quality about your dad is not the punishments in of themselves nor the actions he does. It's his demeanor and lack of communication and over reliance on the peaking order of "do what I say because I pay the bills and I'm your parent".

That works a lot of the time, but if you want your kid to really understand the world and have personal discipline ya gotta give them reasons that make sense and are fair as to why a punishment is taking place.

I believe men have a harder time talking about emotions with their sons and it's a pity your father seems to be of the old school when scientific and behavioral studies show his parental style is woefully outdated.

[Freckles]

I hope this means you got off grounding. I thought you'd said you couldn't use the puter. :)

[Let Me Be a Pony]

In my family there is a rule: No Facebook, Whatsapp, etc until you're 16.

But I guess, when I turn 16 that I still have no interest to register at Facebook anymore.

Facebook sucks, man. Just some people posting pics of their shitty lives.
I wouldn't like to follow the lives of my irl jackass friends through Facebook. I don't want to know what kind of bullshit clothing they got, and I don't care where they're hanging out on Friday nights.
Don't let me get started about bathroom selfies.

[Riley2015]

I hope this means you got off grounding. I thought you'd said you couldn't use the puter. :)

I'm still grounded. My mum let me keep my computer and have access to books.She also wants to take me to the shops a few times a week so i get out for a few hours and lets me do some chores around the house. Dad wasn't happy but she said i would need something to do or i'd go mad and she was right.

[Uniquemind]

I'm still grounded. My mum let me keep my computer and have access to books.She also wants to take me to the shops a few times a week so i get out for a few hours and lets me do some chores around the house. Dad wasn't happy but she said i would need something to do or i'd go mad and she was right.

Just help prove your mom right and don't get into anymore trouble to show even this level of punishment is effective.

Didn't realize your dad denied you books. That's weird because reading really is not "in-fashion" as it used to be.

Parents when grounding should be promoting life skills at all time, not military type solitary confinement. Even in prison prisoners get to workout and get time outside for good behavior.

[Riley2015]

Just help prove your mom right and don't get into anymore trouble to show even this level of punishment is effective.

Didn't realize your dad denied you books. That's weird because reading really is not "in-fashion" as it used to be.

Parents when grounding should be promoting life skills at all time, not military type solitary confinement. Even in prison prisoners get to workout and get time outside for good behavior.

My parents have argued a lot over this cos mum thinks its too harsh and i should be let off the grounding and dad refuses. Mum doesn't want to let me out while he refuses cos she knows it will cause problems so she has made it a little better for me. He still not happy she did that but they both agreed to compromise a little over that.

[lliam]

If I screwed up something, my dad talks about it, with me sitting at the kitchen table. We discuss about why what I did wrong and stuff. Means: he talks a lot and I wish never been born.

But somtimes I argue against it ... unfortunately I always lose after just half an hour cause I run out of arguments.

But my dad often talks for hours.

And this is his way of punishing: After 3 hours each being feels like an eternity spent in hell. 3 hours of mindless chatter are at least as effective as to be grounded for two months.

[GrossKahn]

If I screwed up something, my dad talks about it, with me sitting at the kitchen table. We discuss about why what I did wrong and stuff. Means: he talks a lot and I wish never been born.

But somtimes I argue against it ... unfortunately I always lose after just half an hour cause I run out of arguments.

But my dad often talks for hours.

And this is his way of punishing: After 3 hours each being feels like an eternity spent in hell. 3 hours of mindless chatter are at least as effective as to be grounded for two months.

Our dads should meet each other

Well, i think they're just afrighted of bad influence

but seriously, these services suck. Or do you love it to being tracked, filled with every pile of shit your retarded mates post or getting spammed buy your contacts? Well, i do only like Skype. I already sold my smartphone to my sister, so i can say i dont got whatsapp and all that crap. Apart from that, i don't like smartphones at all. bought me a nokia. 36-days battery life and no wifi, sticked it to loading docks, hell yeah!

[ndrwmxwll]

at least you recognize your dad's BS. many would just grin and nod in servile approval.
he seems, unreasonably, dead set on barracks parenting so maybe all you really can do is wait until the opportunity for proper independence arises (and/or build muscle mass to the point where you out-impose him physically twofold)

[lliam]

maybe all you really can do is wait until the opportunity for proper independence arises (and/or build muscle mass to the point where you out-impose him physically twofold)


To this I'd to smile. A 13 year old A. Schwarzenegger who builds muscle mass like Conan the Barbarian in his room where he's grounded.


Alas, the idea isn't really bad, in this way to reducing stress or so.

[Microcosm]

I've heard it said before on this forum that since your parents pay for the Internet and provide you with access to it, then they should be able to see how you use it.

Of course, my parents don't check mine because I think they trust me enough. I'm lucky for that.

Just remember that you are still a kid. Unfortunately, you're not in complete control of everything you can and can't do. He's doing it to keep you safe. There is bad influence on facebook(cyberbullying and stupid videos, for example). Try to find something else to do with your spare time that's more productive.