Condom for a bj?

[Anonymous1203]

Me and my girlfriend don't know what to do. Neither of us has had sex and never done oral before, we don't know whether I need to wear a condom if she gave me a bj. Would it be possible that she catch an std if I didn't wear one? Just doesn't seem fair that I should.

[Karkat]

If you feel you might have an STD, then yes.
If not, there isn't much of a reason to, unless you/she likes it, or she doesn't want to, er, swallow.

But as far as STDs go, you're virgins, unless you think you have HIV or genital herpes, it's probably not a big deal. (But if you're feeling worried, always better to be safe than sorry! Good luck!)

[Anonymous1203]

Thankyou

[Karkat]

Thankyou

You're welcome :)

[SethfromMI]

Me and my girlfriend don't know what to do. Neither of us has had sex and never done oral before, we don't know whether I need to wear a condom if she gave me a bj. Would it be possible that she catch an std if I didn't wear one? Just doesn't seem fair that I should.

if you are both virgins, STDS should not be a problem for you. I would personally recommend not using it. it will be a better experience for the blowjob

[Jrice8506]

I have gotten bjs before, never thought of using a condom. I personally wouldn't because it would be uncomfortable

[Uranus]

If you feel you might have an STD, then yes.
If not, there isn't much of a reason to, unless you/she likes it, or she doesn't want to, er, swallow.

But as far as STDs go, you're virgins, unless you think you have HIV or genital herpes, it's probably not a big deal. (But if you're feeling worried, always better to be safe than sorry! Good luck!)

This is a great answer :)
And yes there's no real worry about anything. Although there is a small chance that of your parents may have had them, it could be passed down through genetics which is highly unlikely. Its really no big deal whether you do or don't wear one. But like she said, if she doesn't wanna swallow, then wear one. If she doesn't mind (in regards to stds ) and wants to avoid the taste of a condom, then don't wear one

[KingExplosionMurder]

Me and my girlfriend don't know what to do. Neither of us has had sex and never done oral before, we don't know whether I need to wear a condom if she gave me a bj. Would it be possible that she catch an std if I didn't wear one? Just doesn't seem fair that I should.

You catch STD if you do oral without a condom so yes you need one for that but if you both got checked and aren't carrying STD then you can do it without one. Same goes for BJ. I hoped this helped and is a bit accurate but I could be totally wrong keep in mind

[biancachica]

You can get an std even though you are a virgin and even through oral. The best thing would be to get yourself checked. I would use a condom even though it isnt the same thing. I would recommend a flavored one to make it more enjoyable for her.

[stoneflowe96]

If you feel you might have an STD, then yes.
If not, there isn't much of a reason to, unless you/she likes it, or she doesn't want to, er, swallow.

But as far as STDs go, you're virgins, unless you think you have HIV or genital herpes, it's probably not a big deal. (But if you're feeling worried, always better to be safe than sorry! Good luck!)

This is a good answer. But you should also ask your gf what she does like. Maybe she would like to give oral sex with a condom more. There are also protections if you give oral sex to a girl, or you could cut a condom open for it.

[Uniquemind]

You can get an std even though you are a virgin and even through oral. The best thing would be to get yourself checked. I would use a condom even though it isnt the same thing. I would recommend a flavored one to make it more enjoyable for her.

Really I didn't know this?

Based on the definition of virgin the OP gave how is that possible?

(Virgin: meant here that neither had done oral or intercourse).

If someone is a virgin and has an std in their body left untreated wouldn't harm them and be a medical emergency?

[Karkat]

Really I didn't know this?

Based on the definition of virgin the OP gave how is that possible?

(Virgin: meant here that neither had done oral or intercourse).

If someone is a virgin and has an std in their body left untreated wouldn't harm them and be a medical emergency?

HIV(through HIV or AIDS) and herpes can be passed on genetically regardless of if the child has ever had sexual interaction of any kind. And with both, afaik it's 100% chance. You basically have it.
However, it's highly unlikely that you'd have HIV and not know- it makes you sick.

[Miserabilia]

Technicaly most std's don't get contacted with oral sex unless you have like a wound in your mour or something, because there's no internal fluids coming into contact. But there are also a lot of st'd you can still get from oral even if you're both virgins. Though personaly, I'd say, check if you have anything, if you don't, there's really no need to use a condom because that seems kind of ridiculous to me.

[Zoom]

I would use one, but only for tying her hair back.

[sweettayla]

lf you're both virgins and haven't done oral on anyone either, a condom would seem rather pointless to me.......

[Straya]

HIV(through HIV or AIDS) and herpes can be passed on genetically regardless of if the child has ever had sexual interaction of any kind. And with both, afaik it's 100% chance. You basically have it.
However, it's highly unlikely that you'd have HIV and not know- it makes you sick.

there not passed on genetically there passed on to the child from the mother through the shearing of blood while the child is still in the womb and the mother is tested for them while she is pregnant so if they were present they would of already been treated for them

Me and my girlfriend don't know what to do. Neither of us has had sex and never done oral before, we don't know whether I need to wear a condom if she gave me a bj. Would it be possible that she catch an std if I didn't wear one? Just doesn't seem fair that I should.

honestly a condom would ruin the experience for you and her cause condoms don't exactly have a plesant taste compared to the no taste of skin and if shes worried about you finishing in her mouth then you just need to warn her to pull away before you finish but if your both virgins then the chance of either of you having an std is almost 0 and then on top of that the chance of catching something from oral is almost non existent compared to penetrative sex unless you both have open sores in mouth and parts and just top to add my opinion i have given and received bj's many times and not once would i want a condom to be involved in it for me or them

Double post merged. -HN

[Anomaly]

I would say no..

[biancachica]

Really I didn't know this?

Based on the definition of virgin the OP gave how is that possible?

(Virgin: meant here that neither had done oral or intercourse).

If someone is a virgin and has an std in their body left untreated wouldn't harm them and be a medical emergency?

Some stds can be transmitted through skin to skin contact (ex herpes).

[Karkat]

there not passed on genetically there passed on to the child from the mother through the shearing of blood while the child is still in the womb and the mother is tested for them while she is pregnant so if they were present they would of already been treated for them

This is what I meant. They're congenital. I may have used the wrong term, but my point still stands.
Also, most people do not test for these during pregnancy unless they have a reason to believe they have them.

[Zachary G]

1) if you are both virgins, then there is no worries of STDs being transmitted
2) using a condom for oral (unless you use the flavored ones) isnt really pleasurable for either party
3) if she is afraid of getting your semen in her mouth, then have her do it until you get close then have her give you a hj to finish off.
4) good luck and enjoy

[Harrier]

1) if you are both virgins, then there is no worries of STDs being transmitted
2) using a condom for oral (unless you use the flavored ones) isnt really pleasurable for either party
3) if she is afraid of getting your semen in her mouth, then have her do it until you get close then have her give you a hj to finish off.
4) good luck and enjoy

This ... except one big IF ... what IF she is lying about being a virgin? Maybe she says she is but really isn't? then you might want a condom.

[Drewboyy]

No, unless there is a chance of STD's. And if there is the only way to truly prevent them is not having any type of sexual contact at all.

[Saul Goodman]

I would recommend a flavored one to make it more enjoyable for her.
So that's why they make flavoured condoms.

[biancachica]

So that's why they make flavoured condoms.

I usually use them after penetration, when we finish each other off orally because it tastes good but it works for bjs also.

[Uniquemind]

Some stds can be transmitted through skin to skin contact (ex herpes).

HIV(through HIV or AIDS) and herpes can be passed on genetically regardless of if the child has ever had sexual interaction of any kind. And with both, afaik it's 100% chance. You basically have it.
However, it's highly unlikely that you'd have HIV and not know- it makes you sick.

But if herpes is already in your body you'd know it because you'd have breakouts wouldn't you?


Also which strain of the herpes virus are we talking about.

Herpes simplex one (the virus that causes cold sores around the mouth)


OR

Herpes simplex two (which causes genital inflammation)

Because the two viruses are different and behave differently in the body.


Also the OP can have their issue resolved by having both individuals get tested for those viruses (herpes and HIV) BEFORE doing anything to verify their purity/cleanliness of sexual pathogens right?

[Karkat]

But if herpes is already in your body you'd know it because you'd have breakouts wouldn't you?


Also which strain of the herpes virus are we talking about.

Herpes simplex one (the virus that causes cold sores around the mouth)


OR

Herpes simplex two (which causes genital inflammation)

Because the two viruses are different and behave differently in the body.


Also the OP can have their issue resolved by having both individuals get tested for those viruses (herpes and HIV) BEFORE doing anything to verify their purity/cleanliness of sexual pathogens right?

A lot of people have dormant herpes or don't know.

And both can be an issue in this case- if she has type one, she could give him type two. If he has type one, and he somehow passed it to his genitals, he could give her herpes. If he has type two, he could give her herpes.

It's more likely type one would be in play if one were to affect either of them, from what I know it's more likely to be dormant, but you never know until you get tested.

And yes, getting tested would resolve this- however this can be hard for underage kids depending on your circumstances. (Since the majority of this website would be considered minors where I live, I assume as such, and advise as such. Adult advice isn't always helpful to minors, who are under different laws.)

[cartmanbra]

I confirm that BJ with condom is not the best experience, but you guys should make sure that you don't have STD. May be you should trust each other before have sexual activities.

[Henri-K]

I've done lots of bj's, but only to familiar friends. So never used condoms

[Uniquemind]

A lot of people have dormant herpes or don't know.

And both can be an issue in this case- if she has type one, she could give him type two. If he has type one, and he somehow passed it to his genitals, he could give her herpes. If he has type two, he could give her herpes.

It's more likely type one would be in play if one were to affect either of them, from what I know it's more likely to be dormant, but you never know until you get tested.

And yes, getting tested would resolve this- however this can be hard for underage kids depending on your circumstances. (Since the majority of this website would be considered minors where I live, I assume as such, and advise as such. Adult advice isn't always helpful to minors, who are under different laws.)

That's the confusing thing.


Type 1 does not turn into type 2.

I've directly asked doctors this question. But I am getting contradictory information from medical books, various adults, various peers, and even health teachers.


So that's interesting, I should probably go hang out in VT hospital to get this question further researched then.

[Karkat]

That's the confusing thing.


Type 1 does not turn into type 2.

I've directly asked doctors this question. But I am getting contradictory information from medical books, various adults, various peers, and even health teachers.


So that's interesting, I should probably go hang out in VT hospital to get this question further researched then.

It's generally recognized by I think not only the Mayo Clinic but the NIH agree that 1 can turn into 2, it just depends on the circumstances. Generally speaking, if I'm not mistaken, they're technically the same or almost the same.

And sadly uh, doctors are not the authority on scientific medical research- this is like if you asked someone in an AP class in high school about a problem you had in the standard version of said class- AP student has a good chance of being able to answer your question correctly, but they are basically just taking a small amount of knowledge they've only recently acquired- asking your teacher for help (someone with specialized experience and much more time to study) would be wiser and is more likely to produce results. Asking a college professor who teaches in that field would be an even better option because they are considered masters at their subjects, essentially.

And oddly enough, textbooks aren't written by people who have authority on the subject either- they're just normal people with jobs.

Weird, huh? I feel so lied to

But yeah, going to an accredited source is really the best way to know for sure

[EddieHoward96]

No you should be fine without the condoms man, using a condom for a bj is something i've never done, nor any other guy i know.

[BethMitchell]

Me and my girlfriend don't know what to do. Neither of us has had sex and never done oral before, we don't know whether I need to wear a condom if she gave me a bj. Would it be possible that she catch an std if I didn't wear one? Just doesn't seem fair that I should.

If neither of you has ever had sex, it is highly unlikely that you could have contracted an STD. That said, the only way to know for sure is to be tested. About the BJ, it would be far more enjoyable for both you and her without a condom. As for your comment on it being "fair" to you, you are showing a bit of immaturity. She is giving you a gift, and you are complaining about the gift wrap. If she insists on you wearing a condom, you should oblige or go without.

[THJKIGB]

If you are both still virgins and haven't even eaten a girl out or she hasn't given a BJ before I think you are pretty safe from STD's. I know with my boyfriend both he and I would enjoy me giving him a BJ if he had a condom on. I also know I am safe from STD's because we have both only been with each other.

[jaxianrhyder]

If your both virgin then you shouldn't have to use a condum for a blow job

[mikielikesit]

Getting a BJ isn't about what fair to you. She is the one willing to give so you should let it be her choice if she want u to wear one or not. Just talk about it with her. As a guy I know getting a bj with a condom on isn't really that exciting but its a start and she needs to be comfortable if you want to be the lucky receiver in future bj's, lol

[Laura101]

I am pretty picky about who I'd give a BJ to in the first place and if I had any suspicion that the guy I'm giving one to was unhealthy, I wouldn't be doing that with him anyway, condom or not. I'd never want to give one with a condom on.

[Sweeper]

If you don't have an STD, then obviously she won't catch one from you. They don't just appear out of thin air.

More to the point, condoms for BJs seem to be pretty silly. Just know who you are with in that case and have fun.

[Ricky.h]

Me and my girlfriend don't know what to do. Neither of us has had sex and never done oral before, we don't know whether I need to wear a condom if she gave me a bj. Would it be possible that she catch an std if I didn't wear one? Just doesn't seem fair that I should.

If you both have a clean background then don't wear one...wearing a condom for a BJ defeats the purpose really you're supposed to be able to nut in her mouth

[Jordan99]

I usually use them after penetration, when we finish each other off orally because it tastes good but it works for bjs also.

Bianca, I'm confused. Are you saying you and your BF have penetrative sex without a condom, then you make him put one on so you can finish him off orally? I've never heard of that before.

[everlong]

If neither of you have ever had sex before, neither of you should have an STD, so you should be fine without a condom.

[Hannah98]

I've only ever given one guy a BJ and that's my BF of over three years and there is no way I'd make him wear a condom for a BJ...kinda' defeats the point doesn't it?

[RAKDDW]

no condom needed

[ClaireM]

I never even considered wearing a condom for a bj was a thing, how naïve am I?
both me and my boyfriend are in our first serious relationship so I think we are clean of STDs, but don't think either of us would like it if he wore a condom, flavoured or not.

[masterofdisaster1997]

Agreed. BJs without a condom rock because theyre way more sensitive and wet :)

[Andre 99]

I've never worn a condom to get a BJ.
I've never asked the couple of guys I've given a BJ to to wear one either.

BUT, at the end of the day, do what YOU think is right. Ask your gf which SHE would prefer.

[Nosuba]

It would be safer bc it prevents you/her for getting a STD.

[City Kid]

Please don't bump old threads.

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