Dating, when?

[ZzeWatermelon]

Hey,

I'm 15 and a half and I've had a boyfriend at 13,5 for two weeks. And then we continued over distance. It was awesome and serious at the time, but of course we didn't do that much. We were good friends, we hung out, hugged, held hands. No kissing or more (just a peck during spin the bottle). But I mean we were 13,5 which seems young when I think about it.
I'm wondering now when there will be someone else, cause it's been almost three years since then, and I feel like it's a long time. I've only had 'unofficial' relationships, without true dating, guys liking me and me liking them back and everything.
Yep so when do you think will be the next age (probably) I'll find someone else? And will I even have someone else?
I still don't even understand why I had a boyfriend in the first place and what he liked in me, but it happened and I'm proud.
Can someone give me a reasonable explaination?
I feel like I just need to be reassured on this. Everyone's dating around me and nothing serious happened to me in terms of dating.

Thanks already guys :)

[Cronor]

"Everybody loves somebody sometime"

You can't force it. It might be tomorrow, might be in a month. But it will happen.


What he likes in you? I don't know you, but I can even say a few things that I've learned while reading your topic;

-Everything is well capitalized

-You press the space button after using a coma or a period.

-You've used apostrophes in a correct way.

I'd hug you for only this.

[Abhorrence]

I think that relationships just happen when they're meant to happen whoever it ends up being with. Sometimes it's really a surprise who you can end up dating, it's amazing what a small turn of events can do to your life really.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Oh thanks guys for answering :)

[Hudor]

I don't think there's any specific pattern to predict when someone would date you because it is entirely dependent on your feelings. When you feel like you are connecting very well with a person and want to date him, you do regardless if it's months or years after your last relationship.
Yep so when do you think will be the next age (probably) I'll find someone else? And will I even have someone else? The only person who can answer this is you.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Well I'm saying 17. Just like that. In high school. Later teens.

[DoodleSnap]

As everyone else has said, there is no way to know for sure. There's no need to rush anything, don't force false attachment for the sake of having someone, as I've been there, and it sucks. Just let yourself be comfortable with whatever happens, and at some point you'll really fall in love with that special person.
I hope it all goes well for you.

[simplired]

It's really impossible to try and guess what can or can't happen. It is crazy about how coincidences can change everything, but everyone is so different, there isn't a strict formula for dating. That's why it's so awesome when it does work out. There's no specific age when you meet someone, it's just when you're ready and it happens. Don't stress about it. When it happens, you'll know ;)

[KingExplosionMurder]

Hey,

I'm 15 and a half and I've had a boyfriend at 13,5 for two weeks. And then we continued over distance. It was awesome and serious at the time, but of course we didn't do that much. We were good friends, we hung out, hugged, held hands. No kissing or more (just a peck during spin the bottle). But I mean we were 13,5 which seems young when I think about it.
I'm wondering now when there will be someone else, cause it's been almost three years since then, and I feel like it's a long time. I've only had 'unofficial' relationships, without true dating, guys liking me and me liking them back and everything.
Yep so when do you think will be the next age (probably) I'll find someone else? And will I even have someone else?
I still don't even understand why I had a boyfriend in the first place and what he liked in me, but it happened and I'm proud.
Can someone give me a reasonable explaination?
I feel like I just need to be reassured on this. Everyone's dating around me and nothing serious happened to me in terms of dating.

Thanks already guys :)

I'm sure there's some qualities you have that make you attractive, your old boyfriend obviously saw something in you. Don't worry you'll find someone else soon but it'll take time. Hopefully it won't be long distance so you can be happy with him. And I'm sure that person will like that special quality in you just like your last one ;)

[Andyyy95]

Like what other people have said above, you must have some qualities in you ZzeWatermelon that 'stand out' if you managed a relationship at such a young age (I'm 20 and haven't even been with someone before).

You'll know when you're ready for a relationship, I guess it'll just happen?
Don't worry about it and everyone else around you, the right person will come to you eventually, it'll be worth the wait :)

All the best,
Andy

[Meganium]

It'll happen when it happens. Even if you exhibited qualities that guys like your ex appreciated years ago, that doesn't necessarily mean that a relationship is the best thing to go for.

In middle school, I turned down a very pretty girl (whom I'm still VERY close to) who liked me for a pile of reasons, most especially because of the content of my character. It was the first time that happened to me, and I was left surprised and unprepared, so I let her down easy and told her that I wasn't ready for a girlfriend. Now I am, 3 years later.

I'm not trying to say that you aren't ready but you'll know when you are and you'll know what you want when you are. No need to rush, no need to anticipate too much. Just relax and let things rock. You'll be fine, and you'll find an excellent significant other in due time.

[Body odah Man]

Hey,

I'm 15 and a half and I've had a boyfriend at 13,5 for two weeks. And then we continued over distance. It was awesome and serious at the time, but of course we didn't do that much. We were good friends, we hung out, hugged, held hands. No kissing or more (just a peck during spin the bottle). But I mean we were 13,5 which seems young when I think about it.
I'm wondering now when there will be someone else, cause it's been almost three years since then, and I feel like it's a long time. I've only had 'unofficial' relationships, without true dating, guys liking me and me liking them back and everything.
Yep so when do you think will be the next age (probably) I'll find someone else? And will I even have someone else?
I still don't even understand why I had a boyfriend in the first place and what he liked in me, but it happened and I'm proud.
Can someone give me a reasonable explaination?
I feel like I just need to be reassured on this. Everyone's dating around me and nothing serious happened to me in terms of dating.

Thanks already guys :)

I feel ya. I'm in the same boat as you are (well I'm a guy, but still). The answer is it will happen when God or the Fates or Destiny or whatever you believe in decrees it. Still at least you've had guys that have liked you back (I've never had that) and that's already a big success. Dating isn't necessary really for a true relationship; what's necessary is that there is mutual liking and that both parties act on it and from your thread it sounds like mutual liking is there. Congrats.

As for having some one else: from what you say people have liked you and from what I've noticed about you on VTF you're an awesome friendly person. I'm sure that you'll find someone soon that sees something in you and wants a relationship.

As for your current lack of dating: most guys at that age go for sex appeal and pay no attention to a woman's inner value. Your lack could therefore even be seen as a positive thing as it means you're just surrounded by shallow guys.

I hope this helps (it's late so I'm tired and my thoughts are a bit on the Iliad)

[Body odah Man]

As everyone else has said, there is no way to know for sure. There's no need to rush anything, don't force false attachment for the sake of having someone, as I've been there, and it sucks. Just let yourself be comfortable with whatever happens, and at some point you'll really fall in love with that special person.
I hope it all goes well for you.

I nearly did that too (the false attachment forming thing; well I liked a chick but she was a BITCH who would have made my life hell). Im sorry to hear that you suffered from it.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Thanks guys for answering, it's really sweet and it means a lot. And your answers were all really useful. I'm happy without a guy and when I'll stop thinking about it it'll eventually come... :)