Need help with guy

[ZzeWatermelon]

Hey,

So I was really friends with this guy, although it was brief, three years ago. And I think we clicked, and we liked each other although we were super young. And then recently I saw him and then I noticed him looking at me but he wouldn't even say hi, after all this time.
His dad says he's just a 15 year old shy guy, that won't say hi to anyone especially girls... I really didn't imagine him like that.
What do you think? Is this shyness only? Maybe he was ashamed to talk to me...?

[Zachary G]

It could just be shyness on his part, for what reason would he have to be ashamed to speak with you? It could be as simple as him not knowing how to start a conversation with you. If you really want to be his friend then maybe you should take the lead and speak to him first. If he doesnt respond or acts differently towards you, then you will know that there is something else going on.

[ZzeWatermelon]

I don't see him often... just from time to time, but why would he be shy to start a conversation?

[Uniquemind]

I don't see him often... just from time to time, but why would he be shy to start a conversation?

Because romantic feelings are still new could be the cause.

I've found that in most cases the problem of "what's next after I say Hi" stops people from approaching because they don't know what is next to do socially.


If you already got along once, I suggest taking the lead, and even hold his hand if you guys get a moment alone. But don't force a kiss, just be at ease around him and be comfortable in your own skin as well genuinely, not faked.


If your nervous, your partner will be nervous.

[ZzeWatermelon]

I'm not nervous... but when we met I felt like he was almost pretending not to know me, or avoiding me. But I still feel some kind of thing going on.
I don't know if I would go as far as taking his hand...
We had some interest but we we're like 12 years old. Does it count? So it's possible that after all this time he still likes me? What... really?

[DoodleSnap]

I think that wondering about what happened three years ago would be over-analysing, and would be mostly fruitless. My best advice is to go and speak to him, and get a feel for how he reacts. Tell him that you remember when you used to hang out, and see how he responds. The only sure way to know what he feels is to ask him, but right now you should try and build up more trust and friendship.
Good luck.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Thanks a lot for your answer. Maybe he was a bit shy to talk?

[DoodleSnap]

Thanks a lot for your answer. Maybe he was a bit shy to talk?
Possibly. Instead of thinking about it, go ahead and speak to him!
Communication is the base of any good relationship, so ask him what's up.
If you are feeling nervous beforehand:

-Find somewhere quiet beforehand, and stand big, with legs wide apart and hands wide and in the air. Like a starfish. This should help get rid of some nervous tension.
-Wiggle your fingers and toes. Adrenaline forces all of your blood to go to the big muscles in your body, and wiggling your extremities does the opposite, cutting down on adrenaline.

Anyway, good luck.

[Unlucky]

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[Babs]

He's probably just shy. Plus, it can be awkward as hell saying hi to someone you haven't seen in a long time. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Maybe next time you see him, you should say hi.