How do I relationship? D:

[Lanky MikStanky]

I'm 18, and there's various people in my life. Some friends, some good acquaintances. They're always talking about this girl, and that person they slept with, but I've NO experience in any of this. I've only had 1 girlfriend in my life who I was with for 6 months, and she left me a year and a half ago, which has left me single for quite a while.

I feel as though I should be in some sort of relationship, like most people I know, but this just makes me sad because I don't even know HOW to do this. I know no girls, and the only reason I managed to get into that first relationship was because we went to school together for a number of years, and she'd liked me for about 3 years beforehand and I eventually asked her out.

I'm not desperate or anything, but I just really need reassuring. Is dating someone so important I should be trying to do so? Or should I just wait and let it happen? I have way too many questions. Stupid teenage life :/

[DoodleSnap]

Yeah, feeling like you aren't fulfilling your teenage years to the max sucks. I know that from personal experience.
I've found solace from letting these things pass by me, and not letting the social pressures of life make me feel shit about what I have, or haven't done.
Just keep being you, and if you want to try finding someone to date, that's fine, but just remember that you have plenty of time and that there is no rush. Dating can be great, but I think that the best romantic relationships start off with a foundation of friendship.
Anyway, good luck.

[Abhorrence]

I personally think that with relationships it is better to let them come to you more. I'm not saying you should make no effort to show you're available or anything but don't outright be on the lookout because life has so much more to it than simple "love". I know that a lot of things have people believing that the whole point of life is to find someone to share it with but I think it is an outdated concept. Do things that make you happy, live a fulfilling life and if you manage to find a person who you fall in love with - awesome! If you don't, don't dwell on it. You've got a lot of time to find someone and you've got a lot of things you can be doing before having to feel like you should settle down.

[simplired]

I personally think that with relationships it is better to let them come to you more. I'm not saying you should make no effort to show you're available or anything but don't outright be on the lookout because life has so much more to it than simple "love". I know that a lot of things have people believing that the whole point of life is to find someone to share it with but I think it is an outdated concept. Do things that make you happy, live a fulfilling life and if you manage to find a person who you fall in love with - awesome! If you don't, don't dwell on it. You've got a lot of time to find someone and you've got a lot of things you can be doing before having to feel like you should settle down.

While I do agree that you should do what you love doing and live the life you want to, I also think that you shouldn't NOT make an effort. Sure, get comfortable and settle down with yourself first. But once you've cemented a few things that make you you, you should make an effort if you see a good one. I've personally tried not making an effort, and it's gotten me a whooping total of zero successful relationships (yay me XD). You do'nt have to paint the word single on your forehead, but don't let an opportunity pass you by. And don't let your fulfillment in life center around getting a relationship.

[KingExplosionMurder]

Hmm I guess the only advice I can give you is try finding the right girl for you next time. Try meeting ppl who are just right for you and have a lot in common with and you'll have that experience in no time :)