I ruined my best friend's relationship with his GF?

[ethanseyes]

I became best friends with my roommate freshman year in college. He's very close and important to me. I haven't had many friends since I grew up homeschooled and sheltered and I'm shy and may have depression. But he is ALWAYS there for me and he has even put off nights of fun to be with me when I'm sad. He is also wholly accepting of my homosexuality. There was a night where I kissed him impulsively and he just smiled and said he loved me. I still can't get over that moment.

He also met a girl at our college and they began going out. I am happy for him because they make a great couple and she is beautiful and he seems so happy when he's with her. She's always nice to me as well.

But a few days ago this summer, she asked to hang out with me...just me. We went out to eat and eventually she straight up asked if I was in love of him. I told her IDK but I may be. She didn't make a big deal of it. But I got too comfortable and ended up telling her about the kiss.

Next time the 3 of us hung out she mentioned the kiss. My friend shrugged it off but all of a sudden she's bringing up all the issues she has with our friendship: how he spends so much time with me, lets me hug and hold on to him, etc.

And now my friend has stopped hanging out with both of us. I have call and text so many times and he doesn't respond. I just about cry each time he ignores me. His GF texted me last night saying "I've ruined them".

Without him, IDK what I'll do I can't lose him. Please help me.

[Abhorrence]

This is a really difficult situation. I think you should allow both the girl and your friend to calm down over this and try to fix things with both of them. I don't think it's your fault but you probably should've been less open with the girl, I mean you can't rewind time now but sometimes lying or hiding the truth isn't exactly a bad thing.

[Selestine]

You didn't ruined them. Circumstances did. The kiss accident happened long before your bestfriend went out with that girl, right? If I were the girl I would really be thankful you answered me honestly but doubts will always chase me too. :) But remember, you didn't ruin their relationship. You were just honest. :) If ever you'll lose your friend over this accident then maybe he's not worth it being your friend because if he really was he would make your friendship important. But that's only IF. I'm sure it'll be okay. Let the storm subside first. :)

[Hudor]

I guess she might be thinking that your best friend is cheating on her with you. Your closeness might have made her doubt him and the kiss made her almost certain about it. I think you should now try to clear the air with his gf. I don't think it was a very good idea to tell her about the kiss but since you did you could tell her you wanted to be completely honest with her and that you two are just friends.

As for your friend, he seems to be in a bad position. His gf might be pressurizing him to give up on your friendship which he might not want to and yet it's damaging his relationship with her which must be painful for him too. It's best to give him some time to sort out all his feelings before you talk to him.