im confused

[Collinsworthington]

i recently came out as bi but im still confused... im definetly attracted to girls and guys but i hate being in relationships with women... ive had plenty of girlfriends and i just dont feel right id rather have another guy pal that i can spend my life with and also have a sexual relationship with... maybe i haven't found the right girl yet but im just not emotionally attracted to women... please help

[TapDancer]

Thats okay man, you don't have to know straight up who you want to be with or anything like that. I don't think you need to put a label on yourself as gay or straight unless that is 100% what you feel. Do what makes you happy. If you don't feel emotionally attracted to women, and you need that in a relationship, then be in a relationship with people who you are emotionally attracted to! There is nothing wrong with either, just be happy! :)

[Abhorrence]

Sexuality is not an easy thing to define. It is a very large spectrum and it contains both sexual and romantic feelings. You can have a different sexual label to your romantic label.

For example, I identify fully as bi-romantic homosexual. Meaning I'm mainly sexually attracted to dudes but I'm equally romantically attracted to both sexes.

So, I guess, since you're not emotionally attracted to women you could be homoromantic?

[mrjc]

I find being BI doesn't help, people prefer straight or gay so it can be hard

[DoodleSnap]

As Abhorrence says, sexuality is a confusing thing with many different facets to it.
There is a huge spectrum of romantic and sexual attractions, and some people find that the points on these spectrums sometimes don't match up. Some people feel sexual attraction to any genders, but are only interested in a romantic relationship with their own gender. This would be called bisexual-homoromantic. Everyone labels themselves in different ways based on how they identify with each, and how you choose to identify is your choice. Don't feel pressured to label yourself, just be honest to what you feel and see what happens with time. Right now, though, it sounds like you would be homoromantic, bisexual.

[ashdaniel]

Coming out as bi are most gay do because make people accept them easier but the harsh reality is who you really like. I am a bi but I don't want people treat that I str or gay. I like both girl and guy. Sexuality are confusing just do what ur heart tell you to do.

[Brellen]

Sexuality is very fluid. It's 100% ok to be sexually attracted to both males and females and romantically attracted to just guys. As you grow, that may change, or not. Bottom line, you do you. Be yourself and roll with your feelings, that's ok.