Am I losing my best friends?

[jwheeler9916]

So to keep these people incognito I'll refer to best friend one as Jim and the other Garry.

So me and him have been good friends since around 6th grade and me and Garry have been close friends since around 4th grade but we kinda went our own ways when it hit 6th grade. I did tho hang out with Jim. Me and garry began handing out again my sophomore year in hs and I introduced Garry to Jim and we all became best friends. We would party and stuff on the weekends and a few times I drank a bit too much and kinda was a buzz kill. For the last few months of sophomore year Jim and Garry began to sort of shut me out ever so slightly but we'd still hang out. Mainly because Jim would always ask me if I was going to the thing Garry invited him to and that's the only reason I'd know about it. All the sudden tho for the past three months I haven't been invited to anything even to hang out. I asked Garry what was going on but he just responded with "I forgot" and Jim responded with just "I don't know bro". A few weeks later Jim invites me to a party he's having but cancels when he says his mom took him with her down to sac. Only problem is he was with Garry at this other guys house. I didn't confront them about this tho. This week they went over to eachothers houses drinking and partying with me still uninvited. Today I went to the county fair where I saw both Jim and Garry, garry was acting hella weird and they began talking about how they were caught drinking and how they can't do it anymore, and I asked Garry if he was having Jim over and he denied it. Well when I got one I texted Jim asking why I haven't been invited to stuff and to be straight up. He responded with "it's cuz you drink way too much and pass out" and how "they wanted to invite me and that was the only reason" and I did the same with Garry and he didn't give me any reason. Anyway I went on talking to Jim and found out he's at garrys house. He later went on saying that he and Harry got caught with weed at his house and how they can't drink or do any of that anymore until after highschool. But I told them that that's not the only reason I want to hang out, yet they just say that. but I have a gut feeling their lying about getting caught anyway...I feel like it's just a way to shut me out even more... I think Jim honestly tries not to be an ass so he kinda tries to lie to not make me pissed but Garry is just a dick about it. What's going on? Am I losing my best friends? What should I do?

[Abhorrence]

Honestly if this has been going on for so long then I would look to be finding some better friends. Being shut out absolutely sucks and it is just going to bring your mood down a lot if you continue to chase after these people who clearly barely give you a second thought. I don't know whether they are lying to you but the fact you have to question whether you are losing them as friends says it all to me. If they make no effort then get rid of them, it will make you happier in the long run even if it completely sucks for a while.

[DoodleSnap]

Honestly if this has been going on for so long then I would look to be finding some better friends. Being shut out absolutely sucks and it is just going to bring your mood down a lot if you continue to chase after these people who clearly barely give you a second thought. I don't know whether they are lying to you but the fact you have to question whether you are losing them as friends says it all to me. If they make no effort then get rid of them, it will make you happier in the long run even if it completely sucks for a while.
^^^This. (Hello again, Jack :P)

You shouldn't have to tolerate this. You have tried to ask them reasonably why it is going on, but they are still skirting around the question. That is where I would draw the line. As difficult as it is, I think it's best that you do as Jack says, and look towards meeting some new, healthier people.

[audiophile5]

Agree, go on with your life and don't give them a second thought (even though it might seem hard or strange, since you've known each other for such a long time). It sucks when you introduce two friends and they become better friends with each other than with you, but there's nothing you can do about it, there's no point forcing them into talking or doing something they don't want to do.

[Just JT]

I agree with some of this, but also, did u ever invite them do to stuff?
Try that, somethin that don't involve alcohol or drugs and see where that goes

[Straya]

sounds like you lost them as friends months ago