Telling someone that you have a crush on them?

[Kacey]

Basically the title. This has been driving me insane all summer, and so I decided that I should at least tell my crush that I like her. It just seems better that she knows, rather than me just sitting there being fucking awkward as shit around her (Though I doubt the awkwardness will change much. It's just who I am). So, any advice for someone like me?

[Babs]

I've never told anyone I had a crush on them. Hell, I don't think I've had a crush on anyone since I was 10 so my advice is not from experience, but rather how I'd prefer someone tell me they liked me.
My advice is don't beat around the bush. That just makes things weird and awkward. Just be honest about how you feel.

[DoodleSnap]

I think that you should maybe try hanging out with them, and getting to know her more. I think that once you become more comfortable around her as a friend, then you might be able to better communicate how you feel for her. At that point, you could look to writing her a letter, or doing something really special for her, to show her how you feel. I'm sure she'll work it out from that.
I hope it goes well, and good luck.

[Abhorrence]

The other night I had one of those 3am realisations that life is really short and we may as well just do whatever it takes to be happy. There is no joy without a little risk when it comes to stuff like this. There is definitely a chance that you could get shot down or whatever but there's also a chance that this could lead to something really great. I mean, if you do get rejected it does not feel good but you also get over it. I think the chance of rejection is a risk you should be willing to take for the chance of some happiness.

[Elysium]

Here is what I did: I messaged my crush, asking her if she'd be free to hang out for a little while nearby because I needed to talk to her. She agreed, and we went to the park, and admittedly I stalled for a while - anxious, trying to get my wits about me. It helped that she knew that I was there to accomplish something, so she pressured me to get on with it. I wasn't leaving and wouldn't be able to leave until I told her. So I just did. I just said, "I have a crush on you." That's all you really need to do. We talked for a little bit afterwards and then parted ways.

[somethingtropical]

I used tellchat to let my crush know I was interested. I just asked her some vague questions about who she had a crush on in secret mode so she didn't know it was me.

[The Faulted]

i told the guy i was interested in that i liked him. yeah, we didn't talk for about a month, and we had been good friends too. only way i could fix our friendship was by telling him the feelings weren't there anymore. sorry, this may not be very helpful, but it's my experience, so if i were in the situation, i wouldn't say anything.

then again, it might be different for you anyway.

[Unlucky]

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[Tesserax]

From me it might be terrible advice, not ever having had a girlfriend and whatnot, but I've actually told 2 girls that I like them in particular, rather than telling a girl that I like somebody else. If I have any advice: Don't do it.

What I've found is that if you tell, it's probably too early, and they won't be ready and it will be awkward. The girl will end up likely declining.

What you want to do is get to know her, maybe go out a couple of times with friends, and then ask her to go out on a 1 on 1 date, and say you kind of like her. Try to act somewhat shy about it, I think that would probably help, but it would be best if the shyness comes naturally. It shows that you actually care about this.

But don't just listen to me, listen to what feels right. And think about it before you do it, because your heart might say "YES!" But your brain will say "Wait just a little more". Wait for them to be in sync, and then tell her.

[Body odah Man]

Basically the title. This has been driving me insane all summer, and so I decided that I should at least tell my crush that I like her. It just seems better that she knows, rather than me just sitting there being fucking awkward as shit around her (Though I doubt the awkwardness will change much. It's just who I am). So, any advice for someone like me?

As a guy who has told MANY girls I've liked them (and who wishes he hadn't cuz everything went awkward after that), what's important is courage and timing. You need to gather up courage to tell them AND you have to do it during a romantic moment or during a conversation, when the time is right. Good luck

[Kacey]

Quick update. I tried telling her in person, but kept wimping out. The day I actually was going to tell her, I couldn't find her (I was going to tell her once marching band practice was over, but got caught up talking to the director just long enough for her to leave without me noticing which way she went..). So in the end, I just told her on Facebook... I know, I know.. But at least I ended up telling her... So. Fingers crossed...