Is it wrong to date your best friend?

[Whos_ur_Buddha]

Me and this person have been friends for almost a year. We tried dating when we first met but after a month we decided to be friends but recently we both started talking about dating again and now its not as awkward and almost feels natural to date her. So is this going to be a good or bad thing?

[SethfromMI]

well it could work out fantastic. then again, if your dating relationship does not work out, it could ruin your friendship you already had

[Whos_ur_Buddha]

well that's really depressing. I hope it works out we already due the "annoying couple" things according to all my friends but idk. haha like when we are at parties we tend to only talk to each other or we will talk till like 2 at night then tell everyone else good night before 11.

[SethfromMI]

well that's really depressing. I hope it works out we already due the "annoying couple" things according to all my friends but idk. haha like when we are at parties we tend to only talk to each other or we will talk till like 2 at night then tell everyone else good night before 11.

oh I hope it works out too man. I am just being honest with you about a possible risk

[danny87786]

I don't mean this is any rude way what so ever. but you're friends with her for not even a year thast not a best friend. So why not just date her.

[Uniquemind]

You guys should talk about it.

And discuss ground rules about how to deal with a possibility if:

1.either one of you cheat

2. How to approach one another in specific kind sensitive phrases and verbiage to communicate dissatisfaction with the other's behavior. (Do you accuse each other negatively


Etc.

[DoodleSnap]

Well, myself and my best-friend are currently dating (kinda - label still not determined), and it has gone rather well so far. Some people think it doesn't work out, and for some that is true, but I think that a strong friendship is the best basis for a romantic relationship.
Think about it:
You're already comfortable with each other.
You both know each other well.
You are able to speak to each other.

It seems like the perfect recipe to me.
However, the important thing is to make sure that whatever the outcome of the relationship is, whether breaking up or being together-forever (:wub:), that it is handled reasonably, without anger or fighting.
The way to handle this is to be honest. Communication is the most important part of any relationship, so being able to speak to your significant other with honesty is an important skill to have. If you have an issue, whether in regards to them, or yourself, speak to your partner, and work out the problem together - 2 heads are better than one.
I'm not saying that communication can make any relationship work, as some are just not meant to be, but I am saying that it can help prevent an unhealthy breakup, and prevent bottling up of emotions. Be honest with your partner (and to your emotions!), and you will either end up happy lovers, or happy friends with some extra happy memories.
I would also recommend as Uniquemind says, and have the conversation on how to sort out and approach issues at the beginning; it'll help you guys approach each other and sort out your problems later on down the line.
Remember, honesty is the best policy :D
Good luck, people.

I don't mean this is any rude way what so ever. but you're friends with her for not even a year thast not a best friend. So why not just date her.
I don't think that there is an objective time period upon which someone becomes best friends. It is for the people in the relationship to decide the label, not you.

[Whos_ur_Buddha]

Thanks for all the help y'all it really helps! :) I have my first date with her in a week!! and we have no doubts so wish me luck

[Abhorrence]

I think dating friends is either the best thing or the worst thing. I mean on one hand you don't have to go through that awkward getting to know each other stage and a strong friendship makes a great relationship. However, if something drastically bad happens leading to a break up, often it makes friendship impossible to continue or maintain.

[Whos_ur_Buddha]

I think dating friends is either the best thing or the worst thing. I mean on one hand you don't have to go through that awkward getting to know each other stage and a strong friendship makes a great relationship. However, if something drastically bad happens leading to a break up, often it makes friendship impossible to continue or maintain.

has that ever happened to you? That sounds really bad

[Abhorrence]

has that ever happened to you? That sounds really bad
Oh damn, yeah it has but... it had a happy ending. We are now friends again. So uhhh, don't be scared. If you feel like it's right then you should definitely go for it because honestly I don't regret my relationship. Memories are nice to hold on to. :D

[Whos_ur_Buddha]

Oh damn, yeah it has but... it had a happy ending. We are now friends again. So uhhh, don't be scared. If you feel like it's right then you should definitely go for it because honestly I don't regret my relationship. Memories are nice to hold on to. :D

thanks haha its sad that strangers give better advice then friends

[Allain1996]

It could work out great, some of the best long-term couples will tell you that the key to their success was that they aren't just boyfriend & girlfriend (or husband & wife) but are also each other's best friend.
However I will warn you to tread carefully with this, as I personally have been in your shoes, my best friend of 3 years at the time and I fell for each other a couple of years ago, we dated for a few months and then she decided she wanted to go back to being "really good best friends again" (not my wish at the time). We went back to being friends, but it was never the same as it had been before we dated, and looking back, while I absolutely loved the time we spent as a couple, in the end, it ruined our friendship.
Best of luck bro!

[Uniquemind]

It could work out great, some of the best long-term couples will tell you that the key to their success was that they aren't just boyfriend & girlfriend (or husband & wife) but are also each other's best friend.
However I will warn you to tread carefully with this, as I personally have been in your shoes, my best friend of 3 years at the time and I fell for each other a couple of years ago, we dated for a few months and then she decided she wanted to go back to being "really good best friends again" (not my wish at the time). We went back to being friends, but it was never the same as it had been before we dated, and looking back, while I absolutely loved the time we spent as a couple, in the end, it ruined our friendship.
Best of luck bro!

Yeah this can happen, and I've noticed that this tends to happen when a relationship is formed when 1 or both of the participants in the relationship aren't even on the same page.

Now let me explain what I mean by that. For friendship to stable long lasting romantic relationships, the best ones I've seen or been in where it transitions from one to the other, a key factor in how smooth that transition/maintainance is directly related to how well each of those people knows themselves and what they want out of life in the long term.

Couples that break up, or fall out tend to have had a mismatch from the onset of the relationship that wasn't made apparent to either party in the beginning, either because sexual tension blinded everyone, or perhaps due to naivety of just being really young.


Well, myself and my best-friend are currently dating (kinda - label still not determined), and it has gone rather well so far. Some people think it doesn't work out, and for some that is true, but I think that a strong friendship is the best basis for a romantic relationship.
Think about it:
You're already comfortable with each other.
You both know each other well.
You are able to speak to each other.

It seems like the perfect recipe to me.
However, the important thing is to make sure that whatever the outcome of the relationship is, whether breaking up or being together-forever (:wub:), that it is handled reasonably, without anger or fighting.
The way to handle this is to be honest. Communication is the most important part of any relationship, so being able to speak to your significant other with honesty is an important skill to have. If you have an issue, whether in regards to them, or yourself, speak to your partner, and work out the problem together - 2 heads are better than one.
I'm not saying that communication can make any relationship work, as some are just not meant to be, but I am saying that it can help prevent a fight or huge heartbreak. Be honest with your partner, and you will either end up happy lovers, or happy friends with some extra happy memories.
I would also recommend as Uniquemind says, and have the conversation on how to sort out and approach issues at the beginning; it'll help you guys approach each other and sort out your problems later on down the line.
Remember, honesty is the best policy :D
Good luck, people.


I don't think that there is an objective time period upon which someone becomes best friends. It is for the people in the relationship to decide the label, not you.

Thanks for the mention.

Although I will counter you on the "not having anger, or without fighting".

I counter with how to handle anger and address feelings honestly, but not bottle them up.

But at the same point place limits on how vindictive you are going to be with your partner if you two are feuding.

One major flaw about society generally is that emotions need to be bottled up being the solution or having the same meaning as "controlling" emotion. I don't think they mean the same thing.

[DoodleSnap]

Yeah this can happen, and I've noticed that this tends to happen when a relationship is formed when 1 or both of the participants in the relationship aren't even on the same page.

Now let me explain what I mean by that. For friendship to stable long lasting romantic relationships, the best ones I've seen or been in where it transitions from one to the other, a key factor in how smooth that transition/maintainance is directly related to how well each of those people knows themselves and what they want out of life in the long term.

Couples that break up, or fall out tend to have had a mismatch from the onset of the relationship that wasn't made apparent to either party in the beginning, either because sexual tension blinded everyone, or perhaps due to naivety of just being really young.




Thanks for the mention.

Although I will counter you on the "not having anger, or without fighting".

I counter with how to handle anger and address feelings honestly, but not bottle them up.

But at the same point place limits on how vindictive you are going to be with your partner if you two are feuding.

One major flaw about society generally is that emotions need to be bottled up being the solution or having the same meaning as "controlling" emotion. I don't think they mean the same thing.
Yeah, excuse my poor choice of wording. I was simply attempting to say that being honest to one's self and emotions, and speaking to one's significant other can help prevent an unhealthy breakup. Edited accordingly.

[Riley2015]

I wouldn't say its wrong, but if it was me i'd be worried that if it didn't work out it would wreck the friendship we had too

[StoppingTom]

If she feels the same way, then she's probably worried about the potential to ruin the friendship too, so I think whether or not it works out, both of you will make an effort to remain close.

[Uniquemind]

If both parties are concerned about how it'll affect the friendship, then that does give a lot of hope to a mutual breakup without the friendship getting harmed.

Just avoid being a cheater etc.

And discuss how each person handles breakups in general before trying.