straight guys: why

[MoveAlong]

Hey I'm a gay dude and I just want to know why a lot of straight guys think that you're less manly if you're gay.
I don't want answers from people who are bi or gay or a girl because you probably don't really understand or know like they do, I would prefer straight guys to answer

[Sage]

It's part of instinct. The alpha-male in a tribal society is highly respected by the men and usually has a lot of women to mate with. They are more of a "man". Also, I know not all gay men are like that, but many just act feminine and flamboyant, which is quite annoying.

That's just my opinion- No disrespect to you.

[theOperaGhost]

I think it is because women are "supposed" to like men, not other men. I guess it's like stereotypical lesbians aswell. Most people think lesbos are manly, because they like women. I don't actually know any gay guys, so I don't know what a gay guy is really like, that is just how they are portrayed in tv and movies.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

*really wants to say something because she has a good answer, but will bite her tongue and just observe*

[The Batman]

I think its because a lot of the out gay guys are feminine and the manly ones are scared to come out because their manhood will be tested.

[MoveAlong]

*really wants to say something because she has a good answer, but will bite her tongue and just observe*

if you have a good answer then you should post, but if you are just making guesses then please don't. :)

Also, I know not all gay men are like that, but many just act feminine and flamboyant, which is quite annoying.

That's just my opinion- No disrespect to you.

Don't worry I don't even act that way.

[Zephyr]

I've asked many a straight guy this same question, and here's the common answers that I've gotten:

1) They don't want gay guys hitting on them and putting them in an uncomfortable situation.

2) They don't care that you're gay, they just don't want to hear about it or see you acting like a flamer because it gets on some of their nerves.

3) They can't graps the concept of how you could like men over women... it's like trying to get an Atheist to accept Christian views, in my cousin Donald's own words.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Alright, here's my answer:

In a straight relationship, the man is supposed to assume the "dominant" or masculine role. He's the one who traditionally brings home the bacon, he's the one who's supposed to protect the girl and, when the couple cuddles, he's the one who holds her. In a homosexual relationship, one man assumes the "masculine" role, and the other assumes the "feminine". That is not to say that one man acts like a girl, but it's how the relationship works. Sometimes a gay man will sort of switch roles with each relationship depending on his partner but, from what I've gathered from the gay people I've talked to, many have a role they feel most comfortable in. So, it's safe to say that about 50% of gay men prefer to be on the more "feminine" side of a relationship. In the media, this had led to the stereotypically girly gay guy (such as Jack, from Will & Grace). Straight guys see these shows, and when they see a more realistic gay couple (whether on TV or in real life), they assume that the one who has his arm around the other guy is masculine, and that the other guy is Jack reincarnated. In reality, even the "feminine" guy can be just as manly as any other guy. However, media stereotypes together with the fact that most people only see heterosexual relationships for the first part of their life, has led to the idea that a lot of gay men are girly men. When you've never seen a homosexual relationship, it's hard to imagine what it's actually like, and that gay people are different than the media makes them appear.