EX might be pregnant

[Paladino]

Long story short, she missed her period last month and should have had it this month by now, she usually has them between like the 3rd & 12th of each month. What is the chances she is pregnant?

[Abhorrence]

Well uh, the only way really to tell is to take a pregnancy test. Which I advise she does.

[Paladino]

This is the funny part, she is refusing to, I told her if she doesn't by Tuesday I will tell her brother and he will make her do it.

[Abhorrence]

Maybe she is just scared but it is the right thing to do. Then you can decide what to do next.

[Paladino]

She is scared but I am scared also and waiting on her to do it is nerve wracking and is making me feel like she is being very selfish?

[Abhorrence]

She probably is being selfish, yes. But sometimes people deal with fear differently than others and it can make you selfish. But you should know her better than I do, hahah. Just try to stay positive and keep a clear mind.

[Paladino]

There is a lot of stuff on my mind right now I would rather know sooner than later ..

[Stronk Serb]

The sooner you realize she's pregnant, the sooner can you deal with it via abortion, adoption or keeping the rugrat. If you decide abortion, it does less damage to her reproductivness when taken early.

[Paladino]

Well she doesn't seem to care enough to get a test.

[Vermilion]

Well she doesn't seem to care enough to get a test.

She might think it will bring you back

[Paladino]

I don't know about that because its her that is hot & cold and she has been for months.

[Selestine]

Seriously, what are protections for? o.O

[Paladino]

I'm 20 I have been around the block a few times lol and sometimes just sometimes protection fails, so can someone please tell me what the chances are she is pregnant?

[HUSTLEMAN]

I'm 20 I have been around the block a few times lol and sometimes just sometimes protection fails, so can someone please tell me what the chances are she is pregnant?

There's a 100% percent chance dude. Seriously though get a goddam test already, there is no one here that can predict your ex's menstrual patterns and ovulation period and all that crap. SO NO we can't tell you if she's pregnant or not. Either you or your girl go to some random drugstore in RandomTown, USA and get a test. JUST DO IT... COME ON.. DO IT!!!

[SethfromMI]

she is your ex right? when is the last time you had sex with her? how long ago did she become your ex? she should get a pregnancy test regardless but depending on the time frame, you may be in the clear

[Microcosm]

Paladino,

You gotta talk to her and be real with her about it. She needs to know the importance of it and I think you should try to explain that to her more... lovingly perhaps? Like, make sure to be nice about it but make sure she gets that test. It is really important that you know now if she's pregnant or not so you can make a decision or she can. I know she's your ex, but you two should probably try to work together on this if she is pregnant because there's a human life on the line.

[Paladino]

I spoke to her earlier about it, explained to her lovingly that I would be there for her along the way 100%, she got mad because I slept with another girl AFTER we split up and blocked my number.. we have been split up for a few weeks or so, can't remember the last time we done it but I asked her if there has been anyone else and I said regardless if you want to lie because you dont want me to know you have to tell me because it is a baby and I need to know and she said I was the only one that could have got her pregnant, she says she will find out when she has the money to buy a test.

[SethfromMI]

I spoke to her earlier about it, explained to her lovingly that I would be there for her along the way 100%, she got mad because I slept with another girl AFTER we split up and blocked my number.. we have been split up for a few weeks or so, can't remember the last time we done it but I asked her if there has been anyone else and I said regardless if you want to lie because you dont want me to know you have to tell me because it is a baby and I need to know and she said I was the only one that could have got her pregnant, she says she will find out when she has the money to buy a test.

I would buy the test for her. as far as whose the baby might be, if there is one, you will not know that till birth

[Uniquemind]

Buy her a test, and enlist her brother's help if need be.

She needs to deal with this issue fast and her being in shock, which is what I think is happening, isn't going to help things.

I suspect she is reconciling how this will change her life, and force her to on some level reconcile with you from any emotional hurt you caused her by sleeping with another girl broken up for not as irrational as that sounds.


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Edit: my gut tells me she's pregnant though.

[Fiction]

If she's missed two periods I would say there is a fairly good chance that she is pregnant, unfortunately.

She's probably just scared so I would only tell her brother as a last resort, this should be between you and her, but then again if she's not mature enough to see that....

Yeah I would buy the test for her, that just seems like an excuse. Don't know how accurate they are but you can get tests from the pound shop... She can also get tested at her GP for free.

Good luck

[Paladino]

Well without going in to too much detail I was forced to move in with my uncle for the summer in another town about 40 minutes away from her & where I normally live, she has to grow the fuck up, it annoys me how much of a selfish immature little cow she is!! She won't go to the GP because she doesn't like having to do things for herself, she's stubborn, yes it should be between me and her but if she doesn't sort this shit out sooner rather than later it might be too late (she said yesterday she doesn't know if she could keep it) to make a decision and because of her stubborn/selfishness we could be stuck with a baby that neither of us wants!

Edit: Can I add that it is her that split up with me & became hot & cold with me for months and she has done a whole lot of other shit no ex/current gf should ever do, so she has NO fucking right to be annoyed at me for dipping someone else!

[Straya]

I spoke to her earlier about it, explained to her lovingly that I would be there for her along the way 100%, she got mad because I slept with another girl AFTER we split up and blocked my number.. we have been split up for a few weeks or so, can't remember the last time we done it but I asked her if there has been anyone else and I said regardless if you want to lie because you dont want me to know you have to tell me because it is a baby and I need to know and she said I was the only one that could have got her pregnant, she says she will find out when she has the money to buy a test.

buy the test for her and tell her brother if thats gonna help you. shes been very selfish not taking the test to be sure and telling you shes missied her period for all you know she might just be faking it and dosent want to take the test to keep the lie going

[Paladino]

buy the test for her and tell her brother if thats gonna help you. shes been very selfish not taking the test to be sure and telling you shes missied her period for all you know she might just be faking it and dosent want to take the test to keep the lie going

I would get her a test but I am living in another part of scotland from her just now so it would be extremely difficult to get it to her, the only way is if she gets one her self or goes to the health centre which she wont do because shes a stubbon immature bitch that doesn't do anything for herself, she would try and make me walk her all the way home when I was very ill just because shes that much of a ... I dont even know the word for it but its just a selfish immature girl!! Blocked my number too so wtf can I do but sit an wait to find out!

[Hudor]

Wait probably for another day or two and if you can't communicate at all with her, you should explain everything to her brother and convince him to take her for the test. Even if you can communicate and she refuses to take the test, i think it's time to involve her brother.

[Straya]

I would get her a test but I am living in another part of scotland from her just now so it would be extremely difficult to get it to her, the only way is if she gets one her self or goes to the health centre which she wont do because shes a stubbon immature bitch that doesn't do anything for herself, she would try and make me walk her all the way home when I was very ill just because shes that much of a ... I dont even know the word for it but its just a selfish immature girl!! Blocked my number too so wtf can I do but sit an wait to find out!

shes been very vague about it so id be leaning towards shes faking it and looking for drama if shes that sorta person but are you able to contact her brother like you were and see if he can help you out cause its very strange to not want to get tested

[Paladino]

shes been very vague about it so id be leaning towards shes faking it and looking for drama if shes that sorta person but are you able to contact her brother like you were and see if he can help you out cause its very strange to not want to get tested

She is that sort of person I think, but I know 90% she missed her period last month but who knows if its came this month, I told her if she hasn't got a test by Tuesday I will be forced to tell her brother who happens to be my friend and make him tell her parents to find out if she is bullshitting or not.

[Straya]

She is that sort of person I think, but I know 90% she missed her period last month but who knows if its came this month, I told her if she hasn't got a test by Tuesday I will be forced to tell her brother who happens to be my friend and make him tell her parents to find out if she is bullshitting or not.

that sounds like a very good plan, she might just like the attention your giving her from this maybe pregnancy and wants to play it along as much as she can so yea that ultimatum works well gives her a chance to get the test done herself but also lets her know it needs to be done soon or its gonna go above her

[Paladino]

that sounds like a very good plan, she might just like the attention your giving her from this maybe pregnancy and wants to play it along as much as she can so yea that ultimatum works well gives her a chance to get the test done herself but also lets her know it needs to be done soon or its gonna go above her

My only worry is that if I tell him & he confronts her, they will argue and the parents will intervene and then she will tell her parents I am lying, but I wouldnt lie about something like that. I don't think it is about attention because like I said before while we were talking she got mad at something I did AFTER SHE split up with me and blocked my number. She is either really indenial or just being selfish and dealing with it in the worst way possible! I can only guess and I know my guess is probably right but she has been drinking since she has missed these periods AND smoking a hell of a lot of weed! Since she has my number blocked the only thing I can do is wait and see if she messages me because I really really don't want to have to get her brother involved but if she is going to be that much of a selfish c*nt then what else can I do? It will end up being too late for options and she will have to keep it if she doesn't hurry up and find out! I really really hope she isn't so after this I can move on WITHOUT her, she has been causing me more grief than happiness for the best part of a year and I can feel myself starting to hate her & starting to feel sorry for her next boyfriend whoever he may be!