So I came out... And now I'm in doubt?

[rakeyrake12345]

I came out to one of my best friends as gay yesterday through text and damn did it feel weird. She was completely comprehensive and really happy that I did come out. I thought that as soon as I came out I was gonna feel better and I do but now I'm having doubts or maybe it's just cause I'm still so nervous.

When you guys came out did you have any doubts right after it? Was it cause you were just nervous? When do they go away?

Thanks

[northy]

This thread might help: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=225505

[Abhorrence]

Yeah, I get exactly what you mean. I've came out as gay to two friends and I'm not sure why but I just keep avoiding it now. I know they know and they make some comments (we are quite an offensive bunch so there's like gay jokes and such which I kinda don't care about) and man I just feel awkward. I still am not totally sure about myself and I'm not accepting of myself and I need to work on it.

[Stronger]

Its a big step moving forward, when I came out (not officially but I said I was dating a boy) I blew some of my family away with it, I cried to a coworker over the phone, long story short it was hard and I had a lot of doubts but then as times goes on it helps you to grow, you are letting people know this is who I really am, I am no longer having to hide myself, surround yourself with nothing but support and love and hopefully the thoughts of doubt will ease away.

[Zachary G]

when i came out, it was a very scary experience for me because i was anticipating the worst possible scenario, but when it turned out to be a positive one i felt so much better. There were times I had second thoughts about it, but ultimately i was okay with what i had done and it didnt bother me anymore. as i have gotten older, it has gotten easier for me and i dont have those doubts anymore, i think it has to alot to do with confidence.

[Faolan]

I still have doubts about coming out and that was more than two years ago. No one's treated me poorly, though, actually everyone's been accepting and loving of me. What I've found is the hardest part about being gay isn't accepting or being accepted by others, it's accepting yourself and realizing that nothing's wrong with you.

I still feel the need to act "straight" in public, to try to hide something that's a vital part of my identity. I don't know why and I don't know how to stop these doubts and actions, but what I can tell you is that being out and honest with yourself and others is so much better than being constricted to the closet.

In the beginning I definitely felt the same way. The doubts never really went away, but I think I learned to cope with them, or realized that there were more important things to be worried about than what others thought.

[ashdaniel]

I guess I came out to two off my friend as bi in truth and dare. I am comfortable with them. I don't think I am in trouble or what. If not because of my parents, I will come out already. I live in Canada now which away from my family. Don't be nervous what worst can be happen. Just relax and enjoy life.

[DoodleSnap]

Congratulations! I'm glad it went well for you.
Everyone gets nervous feelings after a big event in their life: it's a (sometimes annoying) part of being human. If you're having second doubts and you're having worries, then speak to your friend. She understands, and will be there to support you.
Good luck.