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Celtics
July 8th, 2015, 09:25 PM
To start off, I thought I was straight, no interest in guys at all. Then meet a guy and started to fall in love with him. So there I am confused as hell not knowing what to do, thinking its hormones but I honestly loved him. Time passes, we stop talking as much as he moved away and then moved even farther away. So I'm back thinking I'm straight trying to forget about that. Then I get feelings about another guy, I find him attractive, like really attractive. Then we stop talking for a couple months and then I thought ok hormones I'm back to thinking I'm straight. Now we are talking again and I'm going insane. I don't want to be gay or bi, I just want to only like girls and live a happy life with a family and be normal. (hate the word normal but don't know what else to say). I think were just two guys being teenagers with hormones going all over the place but we never did anything sexual. We just talk about stuff that you only talk about with your best friend. So I live with a very conservative family, that thinks being gay is crazy and the person is crazy, but says they love gays and they don't treat them any different so I'm confused there. I don't know what to do, at all. I can't see myself in a relationship with another guy at all, I just can't but I want to experience it at least once. So I don't know what I'm even typing but I'm just confused. (I still find girls attractive and everything) but I don't know. I just want to know what the hell I'm thinking for once.
Rayquaza
July 8th, 2015, 09:52 PM
To start off, I thought I was straight, no interest in guys at all. Then meet a guy and started to fall in love with him. So there I am confused as hell not knowing what to do, thinking its hormones but I honestly loved him. Time passes, we stop talking as much as he moved away and then moved even farther away. So I'm back thinking I'm straight trying to forget about that. Then I get feelings about another guy, I find him attractive, like really attractive. Then we stop talking for a couple months and then I thought ok hormones I'm back to thinking I'm straight. Now we are talking again and I'm going insane. I don't want to be gay or bi, I just want to only like girls and live a happy life with a family and be normal. (hate the word normal but don't know what else to say). I think were just two guys being teenagers with hormones going all over the place but we never did anything sexual. We just talk about stuff that you only talk about with your best friend. So I live with a very conservative family, that thinks being gay is crazy and the person is crazy, but says they love gays and they don't treat them any different so I'm confused there. I don't know what to do, at all. I can't see myself in a relationship with another guy at all, I just can't but I want to experience it at least once. So I don't know what I'm even typing but I'm just confused. (I still find girls attractive and everything) but I don't know. I just want to know what the hell I'm thinking for once.
Life isn't that easy, unfortunately. The majority of LGBT+ youth have at some point wished that they were cis and/or straight, that they could live a carefree, non-LGBTphobic life ahead of them and not feel discriminated against. Unfortunately that's not the case, but many of these LGBT+ people have finally come out and say who they are and that they're proud.
As a teen, you're going to feel sexually confused. It's a given. It's practically a right-of-passage when you're becoming an adult. And this confusion soon becomes crystal clear shortly after puberty, and you realise who you are. For some people that day will never come, and for others they will stay internally closeted and not want to ever come out to themselves.
I'd say the best thing to do is leave yourself unlabelled. You shouldn't try and put a label on something you're unsure of. I mean, you used the word "love", that indicates more than just hormones to be perfectly honest. Go with what feels natural to you, don't stop yourself because you're assuming it's something to do with hormones. Remember, hormones are still a part of you, they're not from anyone else. If you need help with your thoughts, I've always found out the bet thing to do is literally draw a tick-box or a chart or something on paper and simplify your thoughts as much as possible.
ashdaniel
July 9th, 2015, 12:49 AM
I denial myself so many time that I don't like guys and I am just curious. I lie so many times to myself but at last I truly know I am bisexual maybe I am even gay. I have one relationship with a guy before. It last for six months and we or I keep it secret from everyone I know. I enjoy be with him and I can call him my ex boyfriend. It is hard. I understand because I want to be straight if I can but it is in my nature as they say it. I was born this way. I am still in the closet and only two of my friends know it because we play truth and dare. I was raise in the western society but my parents are traditional Chinese. They will disown me if they find out. I don't think I will ever come out to them or to my family. I may or will come out to my friends in the future but not to my parents or family. I study abroad so I don't live with my parents anymore which I am glad.
I never get into a relationship with a girl before. I want to try it. I don't want to call myself gay even though I never have a relationship with one. I know it is hard for what you doing through but one thing you need to know. As years pass, the society for accept people to be who they are, as you know USA finally legalize same sex marriage over all the states. In our generation, we accept people and respect who they are.
It take real courage and brave to come out but if you do. It is like a big relief. It is your choice and your life. Don't regret the choice that you didn't make. Life is too short for that. Go with the flow, you never know what you will turn up as. Relax and enjoy life even though it is hard. Take care
Sports Boy
July 9th, 2015, 11:05 AM
To get to the gist of what you are saying, you are confused about your sexuality, you have feelings for another guy and you want to experiment with him or another guy, but, probably based on the beliefs of your parents, you want to live a "normal" life and not be gay. Well, I'm bi, have a serious girlfriend, and I've also experienced some amazing sex with a couple of guy friends. I would seriously regret depriving myself of any of these experiences. They've all been a part of figuring out who I am. Don't worry about being straight, bi or gay. Follow your feelings and the confusion will disappear.
DoodleSnap
July 13th, 2015, 10:18 PM
Life isn't that easy, unfortunately. The majority of LGBT+ youth have at some point wished that they were cis and/or straight, that they could live a carefree, non-LGBTphobic life ahead of them and not feel discriminated against. Unfortunately that's not the case, but many of these LGBT+ people have finally come out and say who they are and that they're proud.
As a teen, you're going to feel sexually confused. It's a given. It's practically a right-of-passage when you're becoming an adult. And this confusion soon becomes crystal clear shortly after puberty, and you realise who you are. For some people that day will never come, and for others they will stay internally closeted and not want to ever come out to themselves.
I'd say the best thing to do is leave yourself unlabelled. You shouldn't try and put a label on something you're unsure of. I mean, you used the word "love", that indicates more than just hormones to be perfectly honest. Go with what feels natural to you, don't stop yourself because you're assuming it's something to do with hormones. Remember, hormones are still a part of you, they're not from anyone else. If you need help with your thoughts, I've always found out the bet thing to do is literally draw a tick-box or a chart or something on paper and simplify your thoughts as much as possible.
Took the words right out of my mouth.
As the quoted says, don't rush to label yourself. Keep your mind open and learn to accept whoever you are attracted to, regardless of gender. Don't limit yourself, and allow time and experience to tell you what you want to identify as. A lot more people are somewhere in between on the sexuality spectrum than you might guess.
Good luck.
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