My girlfriend

[MeliWelli]

My bf and I have been talking about experimenting with other friends, and it happened recently with one of my gfs. She is wonderful, and the experiences we have had are great, but she is looking for me than casual fun now, which is makes things complicated...Know this makes me sound really selfish, but not sure how to handle things going forward. I don't want to lose her as a friend or make her feel used, but emotionally I cant give her what she wants...what should I do

[Laibachd]

I'm not really sure what you are asking, but if you can't reach a fair deal which satisfies both parts, it's better if you leave things as they are

[neledisapersonne]

I would not suggest going on seeing her like that because it will hurt you both. If casual fun is not what she is asking for and only thing you are willing to give, then its not fair for her

[Mollypop]

She has to learn that there are boundaries. Inviting someone else into a relationship doesn't always make the newcomer an equal partner. If she can't handle things being the way they are, then she needs to stay out of your sexual activities. I hope she'll stay your friend because it's awful losing a friend. And I know it's kinda late to say this, but that's one of the risks you take when you bring sex into any relationship, even if it starts out as casual.

[LucieP]

Three people in a relationship is in my view one too many. It's just way too complicated. Ive tried a couple of times both being the 'extra' girl and inviting an 'extra' girl and it never turned out well in the end. I think maybe if everyone is only casually involved it works better.

[MeliWelli]

Three people in a relationship is in my view one too many. It's just way too complicated. Ive tried a couple of times both being the 'extra' girl and inviting an 'extra' girl and it never turned out well in the end. I think maybe if everyone is only casually involved it works better.


Thanks Lucie, I appreciate your comments and everyone else's on this forum. I was a little sad about Clara's but everyone is entitled to their opinion. Took some time for me, but I came clean. There were some painful moments (I didn't realize how much my friend really cared) but we all agreed to keep it casual. Haven't done anything together since our talk, but I think we'll be able to eventually. Thanks again.

[Mollypop]

I'm glad you were able to talk it out. And that you were able to stay friends. I know it was hard for you to do, and that took a lot of courage.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I'm not really sure what you are asking, but if you can't reach a fair deal which satisfies both parts, it's better if you leave things as they are

I agree with Laibachd, and I hope everything works out ok.

[Living For Love]

Mod note: some posts have been deleted, let's focus on helping the OP rather than arguing with each other. Thank you.

Edit: more posts have been deleted, since you guys can't focus on helping the OP and keep arguing over things that are totally unrelated to the main topic, I'm going to lock this thread and warnings will be given out. To the OP, you're free to create another thread if you think your question hasn't been answered yet. Thank you. :locked: