Bi people get the blame

[ashdaniel]

Personally, I classified myself as bisexual. I only have one relationship with a guy. I hear this allot about being bi. For guys, people will say that we are gay who pretend to be bi so people won't freak out. I looking forward to have a gf but I don't know if girl are okay with bi and mind if I have a bf before. What is your guys opinion on bi and what is your hardest part being a bisexual.

[SethfromMI]

Personally, I classified myself as bisexual. I only have one relationship with a guy. I hear this allot about being bi. For guys, people will say that we are gay who pretend to be bi so people won't freak out. I looking forward to have a gf but I don't know if girl are okay with bi and mind if I have a bf before. What is your guys opinion on bi and what is your hardest part being a bisexual.

well my gf doesn't care that I am bi, because she knows I would never cheat on her, with a girl or guy. I have heard that too and those people are idiots. I am very attracted to girls and guys.

I guess the hardest about is the same when a guy is gay. you will have the occasional idiot who thinks just because you like guys, you are a certain stereotype of you are going to try to do something sexual with them.

to be honest though, I had very, very little problems with anyone regarding me being bi. I have been very lucky in that regard

[Jaffe]

Ive really only known Im bi for less than a year, maybe lots less. I really havent had any thing happen that i would say was the hardest part. All the people I care about already know I am bi and they are all okay with it. But as to the relationship, I cant say, cause Ive never had a relationship. Id like to have one, more than anything. Well, maybe not anything, but its gotta be in my top 10. But no experience so I cant tell you. I would think, though, that being bi has nothing to do with the relationship itself or being true to it.

[Sports Boy]

I just posted a similar issue recently ("question for bi's with gf/bf") and came away from the VT responses feeling like this: I don't feel the need to describe or explain to anyone who I am attracted to. I don't need anyone's approval or support because getting or not getting it will not have any affect on my feelings or behavior. And how I feel today may change tomorrow and I have no interest in keeping people apprised of my sexual interests. I'm certainly not interested in theirs. And the hardest part about being bi for me is figuring out who I'm attracted to the most . . . there's just too many effing choices.

[CosmicNoodle]

I live in the Uk where there ain't many bigots and I have rights, so being Bisexual isn't a problem and there are no hardships what so ever, apart from friends making good spirited jokes.

Suppose I'm very lucky.

[DoodleSnap]

Apart from my girlfriend/best friend (who is also bi), and my closer friends, I'm not out. But in my experiences with relationships with girls, if they take issue with you being bisexual, they probably aren't someone you want to date. If you're honest and communicative, then they have no reason to think badly of you, as sexuality doesn't become a barrier in the relationship. However, most girls I am friends with are bisexual themselves, or the ones that don't identify as such are open minded and tolerant. For me it hasn't been an issue because I'm not out yet.

[Jaffe]

I just posted a similar issue recently ("question for bi's with gf/bf") and came away from the VT responses feeling like this: I don't feel the need to describe or explain to anyone who I am attracted to. I don't need anyone's approval or support because getting or not getting it will not have any affect on my feelings or behavior. And how I feel today may change tomorrow and I have no interest in keeping people apprised of my sexual interests. I'm certainly not interested in theirs. And the hardest part about being bi for me is figuring out who I'm attracted to the most . . . there's just too many effing choices.

Exactly this^^
Couldnt have said it any better

[Zachary G]

Im gay, but I have an ex bf who is bi -- he really never had any problems with it because he was and is always exclusive in his relationships with either his bf or gf at the time. When he was with me he was only with me and now that he is with his gf, he is only with his gf. He never pays any attention to people stereotyping him or saying that its just a phase because he is very confident in who he is and what hes all about. I think if more people were that way the things idiots say wouldnt matter. (I hope I make sense here, I kinda lost my thought halfway through)

[TurboDieselBandit]

What is your guys opinion on bi and what is your hardest part being a bisexual.

I love being bi because I have twice as many options but the hard part for me is not appearing too straight to other guys who may not be straight. I want them to know I might be interested without having to blatantly say it or act like the homosexual stereotype. (Screw all stereotypes too BTW!)