200lb girl with a beard?

[stanislav]

i'm not sure what's wrong with me, i'm a guy who is pretty big nd bearded, plays on 3 sports teams and I like girl and everything. except when i try to have sex with them it feels wrong. i feel like i should have the vagina, and they should be entering me. :eek: i know, i know...crazy, right?

truth is, for a long time i have been trying to hide this problem. when i was in middle school i used to shave my legs, and secretly stuff my clothes to give me curves like the other girls. when i dream, i'm a girl sometimes. i want to be like other girls, but also have sex with them? it's weird i know! what do i do?:confused:

am i a new kind of gay?

[Elysium]

Have you ever heard of the term "transgender"? If so, have you explored that possibility?

[SethfromMI]

Like Elysium says, it sounds like to me it might be transgender related

[stanislav]

no offence to transgender people but i hope not :( it doesnt seem like a easy life! can you ignore being transgender? like, i'm not saying you should, be whoever, but for me, i don't want to be transgender.

thanks for writing, tho!

[Iam-Marie]

It is not wrong with you. I think you are Metrosexual or maybe a Transgender.
Try out what is the best for you - and only for YOU

[Abhorrence]

I mean yes, you technically can hide from being transgendered but it might not be the best life. You'd constantly feel like you are in the wrong body and experience all the feelings you are having but forever. I'm not saying you should definitely go for a transition or anything, I think you should just research a lot about different gender terms because there is a lot and maybe you'll identify with transgendered or maybe you'll identify with another that is out there. You don't necessarily need to label yourself but sometimes it is nice to find something to identify as closely as possible to.

[SethfromMI]

no offence to transgender people but i hope not :( it doesnt seem like a easy life! can you ignore being transgender? like, i'm not saying you should, be whoever, but for me, i don't want to be transgender.

thanks for writing, tho!

yes but at the same time you may always have those feelings. you will just have to live with them

[stanislav]

thanks everyone, i'm kinda bummed about what your all suggesting, but i think you are right.

yes but at the same time you may always have those feelings. you will just have to live with them

yeah man, your prolly right. i thought today, i'll just ignore it. but then i just saw some girl holding onto a guy on the back of a motorbike and caught myself wishing i was her. i feel like after living like that for 50 years ill be super sad...the same time, i feel like it's a little late to do anything about it though, i definitely have a guys bone structure, yanno? plus i live in a shit little town where the guys at school wear confederate belt buckles (and we're not even american, they just wish they were american rednecks). if you even talk right, they beat you up for being a "faggot", i can only imagine what wearing a dress would do.

I mean yes, you technically can hide from being transgendered but it might not be the best life. You'd constantly feel like you are in the wrong body and experience all the feelings you are having but forever. I'm not saying you should definitely go for a transition or anything, I think you should just research a lot about different gender terms because there is a lot and maybe you'll identify with transgendered or maybe you'll identify with another that is out there. You don't necessarily need to label yourself but sometimes it is nice to find something to identify as closely as possible to.

thanks a lot, dude! your user title is accurate lol i think i have some work to do.

[SethfromMI]

thanks everyone, i'm kinda bummed about what your all suggesting, but i think you are right.



yeah man, your prolly right. i thought today, i'll just ignore it. but then i just saw some girl holding onto a guy on the back of a motorbike and caught myself wishing i was her. i feel like after living like that for 50 years ill be super sad...the same time, i feel like it's a little late to do anything about it though, i definitely have a guys bone structure, yanno? plus i live in a shit little town where the guys at school wear confederate belt buckles (and we're not even american, they just wish they were american rednecks). if you even talk right, they beat you up for being a "faggot", i can only imagine what wearing a dress would do.



thanks a lot, dude! your user title is accurate lol i think i have some work to do.

well I'm just saying. the only option you have besides ignore it is act on it. you will have to decide what and how you would rather live your life

[Broken Toy]

Its up to you really. You might feel like a woman but obviously you dont HAVE to accept it and you may live with it as a urge that you dont acknowledge.

Either way you do whatever makes you happiest, its not up to anyone to make you accept or surpress it.

The choice of title was outstanding btw

[Elysium]

If you ever decided to transition, it's never too late to do so. Take Caitlyn Jenner for example. There are also plenty of people who transition far later in life. And, no, being transgender wouldn't be easy, but neither is living your life with this kind of thing bothering you all the time. Do what is safest and most comfortable for you - that might mean not transitioning until you're in a different environment, depending.

[DoodleSnap]

Exactly as Elysium said, don't feel pressured to act immediately, you have plenty of time to think it through and make the decision that is right for you. As long as you're safe and happy, then give it ad much time as you need.
Good luck.

[stanislav]

thanks everyone :)