My mam...

[Broken Toy]

I get on with most of the people in my school so i go out quite a bit. The problem is most of the time theres drink there and my mam reckons she doesnt want me out when there's drink there. I live in the north east, we have the highest number of youths drinking alcohol in the whole country, and she doesnt want me around alcohol.

Its literally impossible to see my friends while not being near drink as pretty much everyone i know drinks on the weekend. She doesnt understand that just because theres drink doesnt mean i'll get mortal. Apart from anything, i dont even get drink for myself that much and im obviously not going to steal loads of drink.

She says that 'your kidneys cant handle it' even though:
1. No ones technically can or it wouldnt be a poison
2. Its legal to drink alcohol in private (a house) from 10

How can i get this through to her?

[Andyyy95]

Try and persuade her you've some responsibility in yourself, and you just want to have a little bit of fun with your friends.

I think she's just being protective towards you IMO.

[Broken Toy]

The Thing is, we also have the highest youth drug use, so i think im doing pretty good to be drinking rather than sniffing even though im around it all the time

[Sports Boy]

I would ask her to trust you until you've given her a reason not to. It doesn't sound like you are into a lot of drinking and that she should be trusting you more.

[SethfromMI]

I would ask her to trust you until you've given her a reason not to. It doesn't sound like you are into a lot of drinking and that she should be trusting you more.

great advice. if you haven't done anything for her not to trust you yet, she has no reason not to trust you

[Abhorrence]

She has all the right parental concerns, it's a good thing you have that because some parents wouldn't think twice about letting their child go around alcohol and drugs. I understand the frustration but I think her caring about you is a lot better than her just allowing you to spend all your time around alcohol and drugs.

[Broken Toy]

She has all the right parental concerns, it's a good thing you have that because some parents wouldn't think twice about letting their child go around alcohol and drugs. I understand the frustration but I think her caring about you is a lot better than her just allowing you to spend all your time around alcohol and drugs.

She seems to think that theres some sort of peer pressure about that people will say im scared to do drugs. Like ive told her a thousand times im not suggestable and i do what i want to (she knows considering i'll argue with anyone, people, teachers, her) so its just a bit unnecessary.

Im saying, we have the highest youth alcohol consumption so i cant go out and avoid alcohol completely, im still going to see my friends whether theyre pissed or not

[Freckles]

In your post you've said that she is right for not trusting you. I'm sure there are kids that don't drink you can be friends with. If temptation is too much to handle then you need to be where you aren't tempted.

[Just JT]

I think experimenting with this kinda stuff is normal teen behavior, not saying it right tho
Pushpin limits with mom also is normal behavior
Parents bein protective, especially around drugs and booze, is also normal behavior
Mutual respect, trust and honest are required in a family relationship
Maybe you need to take a look at all theses things a little more

[Broken Toy]

What im saying is, i know more people who go out drinking than i know people who dont, and the fact i havent sniffed anything shows i'll only do what i want. I get the whole peer pressure thing, but i've always done what i want to i dont get pressured by anyone (as she knows cause i argue with teachers if i feel its appropriate).

Its not like i've ever done anything bad for her not to trust me

[Straya]

What im saying is, i know more people who go out drinking than i know people who dont, and the fact i havent sniffed anything shows i'll only do what i want. I get the whole peer pressure thing, but i've always done what i want to i dont get pressured by anyone (as she knows cause i argue with teachers if i feel its appropriate).

Its not like i've ever done anything bad for her not to trust me

look theres not much your gonna be able to do to change the way she thinks all you can do is deal with it and keep explaing to her that unless she wraps you up in a ball and dosent let you out of the house she isnt going to be able to keep you away from any of that stuff so she just need to trust you and her that shes brought you up to make the right decisions

[Andyyy95]

Back to the matter Broken Toy, what is the relationship like between your friends' parents and yours? Perhaps you can ask them to maybe talk with yours about this?

[qwfoi]

Maybe try to drink a little bit at home in moderation so she knows if you go out with your mates you won't come home wankered the next day ;) then she may have more trust

Btw, it's mam in yorkshire as well which just so happens to also be on Europe :D northerners are proud of their language :)

[Broken Toy]

Its not really a close community like that where parents talk so unfortunately i couldnt do that andy.

I knew you were northern the second i saw the word wankered. In fairness i think that might work but i would be drinking bottles in the house then smirnoff and frostie jacks when im out so its a bit of a step up hahahaha.

Hopefully she actually realises where we live soon, i havent even been ill off drinking yet im a right hardcore

[Living For Love]

Mod note: some posts have been deleted, let's keep on topic and focus on helping the OP.

[ashdaniel]

I get on with most of the people in my school so i go out quite a bit. The problem is most of the time theres drink there and my mam reckons she doesnt want me out when there's drink there. I live in the north east, we have the highest number of youths drinking alcohol in the whole country, and she doesnt want me around alcohol.

Its literally impossible to see my friends while not being near drink as pretty much everyone i know drinks on the weekend. She doesnt understand that just because theres drink doesnt mean i'll get mortal. Apart from anything, i dont even get drink for myself that much and im obviously not going to steal loads of drink.

She says that 'your kidneys cant handle it' even though:
1. No ones technically can or it wouldnt be a poison
2. Its legal to drink alcohol in private (a house) from 10

How can i get this through to her?

Well, this is all about trust. Personally, I drink but I get pretty bad after one can of beer so I know my limit and I don't drink often. Sit down and talk to your mother. Set up rules and limit for yourself, it is all about self control. If you are around your friends and your friends tell you to drink are you going to drink and how much do you drink. Put yourself in your mom's shoes (high heel (joking)), if the example I say happened every time you hang out with your friends. Dont you think your mom will worry. So just talk to her and thanks her for looking after you. Let her know your limit and know what is your mom's limit. Family is mostly about communication. She will understand if you do talk.