Dating a Ex?

[itschilled]

My Ex and i started talking again, and she keeps leading me on that she likes me now. And i cant think why. I did ask her why, and she said she likes talking to me and we shouldn't have dated because it messed things up ( which i agree) but we get each other so well its difficult to not want to try again, although she made it very clear she doesn't want to. the catch is that this girl really made me hurt. And it killed me everytime to hear her talk about other guys, and i didnt know what to do, i even started smoking since she left me. She knows all this but still talks to me.

[Abhorrence]

It would probably be easier to stop talking to her, you can't really get over someone who is constantly there. And like you said, she says she doesn't want to get back with you. It seems like she's just leading you on or is conflicted with what she really wants and that is not fair on you.

[ClaraWho]

Firstly, stop smoking. It's a stupid thing to do and is a major turn off to girls #leftswipethat.

Secondly, stop talking to her, it's the only way to move on. You'll find someone who doesn't hurt you and you cannot truly heal whilst they are still there.

Good luck,

~ Clara

[SethfromMI]

I would strongly caution you about not doing it unless you think she really has changed, which I think you have your doubts

[Vermilion]

after breaking up with my ex we started talking again and being friendly but I couldn't cope with just being friend's. So we don't talk anymore. It's so much better now

[Jaffe]

1. Friends are way more important to have than relationships are, at least I think so. Although you are older, and maybe that is different.

2. Whats the chance that, if you try it again, and if you break up again, that you will still be friends? Kind of amazing that you are friends now still after the first time, would you take that chance again?

[skittle]

It can be really difficult to start dating an ex, considering that things didn't work about the first time for a reason. I think that it'd be easier to move on if you stopped talking to her, as you were really hurt, and even now she says that she isn't interested in being anything more than friends.

[indoxyl]

Buddy you've basically answered your own issue.

She hurt you and I'm most certain that you do not go through that shit again.

I don't know the girl but it seems like you're wasting your time and really need to move onto something better

[jessie3]

I know how you feel, it's hard to forget someone who meant so much to you but at the end of the day you have to realize why you two broke up and you also have to realize that no matter what or how you think about her, she doesn't think about you the same way.

Also smoking isn't a good thing, i never got into smoking but we all have our own ways of dealing with break ups, i used to drink and go out and have sex for money after me and my ex boyfriend broke up.

[Zachary G]

it sounds like she just wants to be friends with you and that is hard for you to do because of how she hurt you before; if this is the case, then I would tell her that you cant do this because its just too difficult for you. Why lead her on if its hurting you? Tell her the truth of how you feel and go from there