Ex girlfriend crazy

[EssentialAspiration]

Okay so I left my ex girlfriend because I wanted to be with another girl. I'm decent, nothing happened with this other girl until I broke up with the girl I was with. Now she has found out about the new girl. She's messaged her "cant wait to see you" which as far as I'm concerned is threatening. Also, whilst I was out with my friends and my new girlfriend, she has messaged a friend of mine asking where he was. She is clearly trying to cause trouble and run into me and my girlfriend whilst we are out together.

Any advice?

[Melodic]

Honestly, just see how it plays out. There's nothing much you can do until it happens except avoid her if possible.

[skittle]

There's nothing you can really do to control her actions. It's reasonable that she's either feeling jealous or curious as to who it is that you're now seeing. Are you both part of the same group of friends? Because if you are, she may just be feeling excluded. I agree with the above poster, just try to avoid her and let things play out.

[Meganium]

It would also be wise to talk to her about it. Straight up ask her if she feels hurt or jealous after your breakup. You should be able to tell from her answers, or how she gives those answers, where her intentions lie.

If she's trying to damage your relationship, then just watching her act out will lead to a worse conflict between you and her when tension reaches its peak. Take preventative measures.

[EssentialAspiration]

The girl's mad. I don't care if she confronts me or says anything to me all I care about is my current girlfriend. I do not want this escalating and causing her problems

[Meganium]

The girl's mad. I don't care if she confronts me or says anything to me all I care about is my current girlfriend. I do not want this escalating and causing her problems

Ok, so verify with her and be sure that she WONT cause any problems. If you can even begin a conversation with her, then she's likely mature enough to respect your wishes if you're genuinely concerned.

[Abhorrence]

I think this is a tough situation because she clearly feels some level of betrayal or something because you did say you left her for another person. This could leave a person feeling insecure, etc about themselves. I am in no way blaming you but I think you should take that into account before calling her crazy and stuff. I am also not condoning her seemingly threatening words to this new girl. I think that it would be wise to have a mature talk with your ex and try your best to smooth things over. I'm not saying that you should necessarily be friends but try to be understanding and sensitive to her situation because it is not a nice one to be in. Once again, to clarify, I am not saying you're in the wrong - you felt unhappy and left without cheating which I think is very good of you and something people don't do often enough these days.

[EssentialAspiration]

Yeah I get what your saying completely. I'm being understanding and all that I've only called her crazy on here. And that's purely because I was a tad panicked

[Abhorrence]

Yeah I get what your saying completely. I'm being understanding and all that I've only called her crazy on here. And that's purely because I was a tad panicked

That's okay then, I understand your emotions it must be difficult for you too.

[Uniquemind]

My best advice is to take a male friend with you and meet in a public place when confronting her face to face when smoothing things over.

She might punch you, slap you, or threaten you further, in which case walk away and if you have too get a legal restraining order.

Keep the new girl out of it as much as possible.

This is harder to do if the new girl is friends with your ex. Easier when they're in different social circles.

[Straya]

Yeah I get what your saying completely. I'm being understanding and all that I've only called her crazy on here. And that's purely because I was a tad panicked

just ignor her if she isnt getting a reaction shes gonna give up fast

[Broken Toy]

For the love of god tell your girlfriend. If you dont there is a possibility for everything to go insane because she will probably eventually start talking to your girlfriend to get her thinking you cheated on her or something

I seem to have a thing for attracting crazy girls too. I got one who messaged me 20 times in a day because i wasnt on my phone, and one who rang my mam to see if i was lying about where i was

[Cronor]

If you know anything you say won't stop her, have a conversation with your current girlfriend. Basically warn her, tell her what your ex's been doing and what she might do.