Gay guys, am I attractive ?

[Sammy07]

Hey guys,
I feel so depressed ! I'm gay and never been in a relationship ! Cute guys don't seem to be attracted by me. That makes me so sad because all the people I know have a partner...

[Hideous]

Give yourself time. Go out and look for someone, or let someone look for you. Just be yourself, smile, and that energy will attract people. I haven't been in a relationship either, and I'm fine. There's nothing wrong with not being in a relationship. To decide whether you're attractive or not depends on the person, just because a guy isn't attracted to you, does not mean the guys you'll encounter next will think the same.

[CosmicNoodle]

I was going to say in my opinion nope, you're not even slightly attractive. But that's just me, to me this thread seems to be fishing for compliments, as all "Am I attractive" often seem too. Fit, healthy guy, seems confident since he has a profile pick that's clearly advertising more than your profile, seems attention seeking, but saying you’re ugly and then calling you an attention seeker would get my post deleted, so I shall pad it out with some bullshit too.

Don't try and link your self worth with what other people think of you, gay relationships are a lot harder to fin, there ain’t a lot of us gays around, I only know 3 other Bi people in my hole town.

*Waits for Mods to shout*

[Sammy07]

Cosmic that's your opinion and I respect it :) I'd love to see what you look like though ! You're saying I'm overconfident... Do you lack self-esteem since you don't put any pics ? And I'm sorry but gay relationships are unfortunately mostly based on appearance...

[SethfromMI]

you already know I think you are super hot ;) :D

[jessie3]

You are very attractive, but just because someone you like doesn't like you back does not mean that you are ugly and yes it is sad to say that gay relationships are mostly based on looks.

[CosmicNoodle]

Cosmic that's your opinion and I respect it :) I'd love to see what you look like though ! You're saying I'm overconfident... Do you lack self-esteem since you don't put any pics ? And I'm sorry but gay relationships are unfortunately mostly based on appearance...

I'm not saying you are, I'm saying that's what it suggests to me, I don't lack self-esteem, I used to, then I realised I am what I am and that I don't give a rat turn what others think, and I do often post pictures of myself on the VT photo album, you must have looked a long way for them.

[Hudor]

Give yourself time. Go out and look for someone, or let someone look for you. Just be yourself, smile, and that energy will attract people. I haven't been in a relationship either, and I'm fine. There's nothing wrong with not being in a relationship. To decide whether you're attractive or not depends on the person, just because a guy isn't attracted to you, does not mean the guys you'll encounter next will think the same.

That's great advice actually.
O.P. unfortunately most relationships are based on just appearances but that doesn't mean that's all they should be about. In my opinion, if all you're looking for and presenting to others is looks, the relationship may be hard to find because more than the face I feel it is the person that matters.

[CosmicNoodle]

most relationships are based on just appearances.

Nope. I've dated attractive and ugly people, fat, skinny, tall, short, real relationships are not based on looks, she/he can be as attractive as you want, but if they have a personality like a wooden plank it ain’t gonna last long.

[Dalcourt]

Sooner or later you will find someone. You may be attractive to some unattractive to others, everyone has different tastes of what's attractive and what not ... so don't be depressed there's enough guys out there for you.

[Steve Jobs]

Cosmic that's your opinion and I respect it :) I'd love to see what you look like though ! You're saying I'm overconfident... Do you lack self-esteem since you don't put any pics ? And I'm sorry but gay relationships are unfortunately mostly based on appearance...

Gay relationships are based on appearance?

Woah, don't put a derogatory stereotype on your own identity. It happens everywhere, gay or not, but it doesn't happen in every relationship.

It's understandable you're asking this sort of question. I feel like you've lacked affection when you genuinely wanted to be with someone who you feel you trusted and felt close to.

Start with a smile on your face and a good outlook on life, and when everything comes together, so will your significant other who will find you more attractive than anything on the planet.

Visual attraction is one thing, but your identity is unique to you and makes you attractive (or unattractive) in your way.

[Hudor]

Nope. I've dated attractive and ugly people, fat, skinny, tall, short, real relationships are not based on looks, she/he can be as attractive as you want, but if they have a personality like a wooden plank it ain’t gonna last long.

Agreed and that's what I pointed out in the next sentence as well. I amend not most but many relationships are based on appearance.

[lukene]

Asking a bunch of people online that you have never met in real life if you are attractive just does not make sense to me. The entirety of your existence to me is two photos and a couple posts, that is definitely not enough for anyone to determine whether you are attractive. And, of course, the very concept of attractiveness is so subjective that you'll only ever get a mass of contradictory responses.

[CosmicNoodle]

and that's what I pointed out in the next sentence.

I read it, it's called backing you up

[Abhorrence]

Attempting to get self-worth from other people will not work. If you have a deep-rooted self-esteem issue then no matter who compliments you, it will not do much good. And literally as can be seen from some comments people are just going to believe that you are attention seeking.
Just be happy with yourself, at the end of the day people are either going to accept you or not. Don't dwell on people's opinions too much.

[Zachary G]

I dont know why you think that you are unattractive because you are very attractive; having a relationship is not about looks, its about the inner person. If your inner person is crap then that is what people see and that is what makes you unattractive. Its all in how you project yourself.

[Hudor]

I read it, it's called backing you up

Well thanks then.

[Faolan]

There's more to dating than looks. You seem sincere and kind, though, so I bet you something will come along

[The37thElement]

If I was gay (which I'm not), I'd be looking for the qualities found in a heterosexual relationship. Sure, looks factor in a bit, but you don't need to be perfect looking for me to be attracted to you.

[DoodleSnap]

Attempting to get self-worth from other people will not work. If you have a deep-rooted self-esteem issue then no matter who compliments you, it will not do much good. And literally as can be seen from some comments people are just going to believe that you are attention seeking.
Just be happy with yourself, at the end of the day people are either going to accept you or not. Don't dwell on people's opinions too much.
^^^This.
To me, someone seeming attractive is so much more than just aesthetic value; it is the thoughts they have, their insight, their love, the way they carry and present themselves. There are so many different things about people, and so many different preferences, that asking for an opinion would seem futile to me.
Don't try to base your image and lifestyle and look around someone's preferences: instead make yourself who you want to be, and let other people love you for who you really are (as cheesy as it sounds).
Many people go through identity crises through their teenage years, and later on into life; myself included. The best advice I can give is to be content with your ever changing identity. Things change, so to be happy with that is a key to being a happier person. Accept your own impermanence now, and time experience will shape whoever you end up being.
I hope all goes well.

[CuteGuy889]

I'm straight but gay guys keep finding me attractive. They say cos I've got a tall slender body and somewhat girl like soft features with longish straight hair.....Used to be stick skinny but I've put on a bit recently but still look slender and few gay frnds love it....They love the snug fit my bigger bum gives to my pants and just the hint of tummy..+ the added softening of features the new chub has given me...!!!

[Danny_boi 16]

I think you look cute, but you aren't really my type. But you'll eventually find a guy. But I wouldn't hinge so much on appearance. I personally like a guy with a fantastic personality, that to me is an important factor.

[Living For Love]

We do not allow "rate me" or "am I attractive?" threads on VT. :locked: