Confusion with liking people?

[Dimentio]

I hope this is the right area to post in, sorry if it is not!
But, I'm quite confused about something, and i have thought it over lots, yet i just can't wrap my head around it so now i am asking for help haha
Okay so I've always been quite an open person and enjoyed making friends and talking to people, but yet, with men, I'm the exact opposite, but lately there have been 4 guys enter my life, and going down the list, there was one, an older guy, who was from college and it took a few months, but i eventually warmed up to him to the point i was happy to be alone with him and joke with him, then there was Jared, who, i was iffy about at first, but yet again, i saw him within a week, then had him round my house when no one else was home, then saw him round his house, and stayed there, and that is no where near normal! Then Shy who i met online but instantly liked, opened up to, and felt very calm and relaxed around, and now Sam, who is basically the same as Shy and also met him online!
And the only other time i can think of when i liked a guy was Mr. Fox, but that was years ago, but then this is where the confusion sets in, i thought, maybe with all the stress, depression and stuff lately i just suddenly like guys, i mean, it makes sense as i have liked any guy who comes into contact with me, but then 5 guys showed up, each one different from the other, so it's not like i personally hated one thing they all shared, well, other than being men haha, but I've found myself not opening up to them at all, not enjoying talking to them, like, i have to force myself to do so and it is a drag, and yeah, i just don't like them!
But what is it, that 3 guys can turn up, and basically instantly, and one time literally in that case, I'm opening up to them and feel relaxed around them, yet other guys can do it and i cannot?
Like is there some weird mental thing about a number of friends, is there some sort of weird psychic link, a former past, like, does anybody have any idea why I'm wiling to make friends with 4 of these 9 guys, but yeah, 5 of them i just do not like? XD
I know this is odd, probably makes no sense, and no one will have an answer, but I'm jsut getting so confused and frustrated by it!

[Abhorrence]

I read this like twice trying to understand it but I don't really get it. Either way, you sometimes just like certain people's personalities and others you just never do. There's certainly a lot of people who have been nice to me who I just have a general disliking of just because of who they are. It's a natural thing, I believe.

[Laibachd]

I read this like twice trying to understand it but I don't really get it. Either way, you sometimes just like certain people's personalities and others you just never do. There's certainly a lot of people who have been nice to me who I just have a general disliking of just because of who they are. It's a natural thing, I believe.

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[skittle]

I also read this more than once and am not 100% sure what you're asking. For me personally, the friendships I make are based off of personality and not gender, and sometimes I meet people who I don't like for reasons I can't really explain, and that's both okay and natural.
Also, I guess it depends on what you have going on in your life. When I'm relaxed and happy I'm more likely to make friends. If I'm really stressed or anxious about something, chances are I won't be making any new friends. Maybe also as you're maturing you're feeling the need to create relationships? IMO that's also totally natural.

[ashdaniel]

Well, from my understanding of your post, I have similar experience where I feel lonely and open to anyone who approach me. First you say they are your friends but I don't want to be rude but does it contain any sexual thing in it. If it does, it will make yourself confuse for no idea. If they are simply your friends, you shouldn't have any problem with any of them. If you don't like them, then don't hang out with them. If it does contain some sort sexual activity, it is different much more different. It is important about how you feel and how comfortable you are. Here, we can only give you advise of what we think is the problem. If you do think you need to talk, you can find help all around. I know there is online stress chat where you simply talk them about your problem or find some one you can trust like a counselor. If you want to talk, you can many people in VT who willing to help you. Don't be stress or frustrated, life is too short for it. Take care.