Awkward Around Family

[ShibaWuffButt]

My mum asked me if I could teach my brothers about cleaning properly down below as she hasn't really done it before, but it feels so awkward to talk about anything like that with family, any advice?

[CuriousConner]

Definitely help them... they're brothers not sisters lol. If they are too young tell her you're not comfortable doing that.

[NZPerson]

Its important life skills for them to know im sure wheter they dont like it at first you have to suck it up and do. I t we all do things we dont like because we have to...

[mychalo]

Yeah, it's awkward but I'm guessing all of you still have a foreskin and your brothers might be a bit younger than you. Teaching them good hygiene is important. How you do it is up to you. I have 4 brothers and we have taken showers together, not all at once of course, and watching my older brothers pull back their foreskin to clean their penis is how I learned to do it.

You can just explain it without showing. And let them know you're a little embarrassed to talk about it but that it's important for them to do every time they take a shower or bath. Maybe you can find something on the net to show them if talking about is too hard for you.

Hope you can do this, I think they'll appreciate it and come to you for advice on other things.

[Jaffe]

Be open about it. It sucks that your mom isnt willing to do it, but at least she came to you to ask for help.

But just be forward. Maybe clinical is the right word. Like, "Retract your foreskin with your fingers, and wash and rinse before you release it." and "Wash your scrotum and behind it with lots of soap, but be sure you rinse it real well. And dry it realllllllly well when you get out." It might be awkward (though thats hard for me to understand) but you only have to do it once or twice, and maybe remind them sometimes. And theyll have a lifetime of health to thank you for. Plus, they wont have the tight-foreskin problem in puberty that a lot of guys have.

If you want, I could send you my mom's after-shower question routine. You could put it on the fridge and your mom could just read it to you and your brothers after you get out of the shower....

[ShibaWuffButt]

Yeah, it's awkward but I'm guessing all of you still have a foreskin and your brothers might be a bit younger than you. Teaching them good hygiene is important. How you do it is up to you. I have 4 brothers and we have taken showers together, not all at once of course, and watching my older brothers pull back their foreskin to clean their penis is how I learned to do it.

You can just explain it without showing. And let them know you're a little embarrassed to talk about it but that it's important for them to do every time they take a shower or bath. Maybe you can find something on the net to show them if talking about is too hard for you.

Hope you can do this, I think they'll appreciate it and come to you for advice on other things. they're are both 9 years old and I'm unsure if they're uncut I don't really go around looking but I guess they are as my mum asked me to do this

[nklarke]

It could be ankward with your mom but with your bothers I don't see what's the problem.

[Tyson S]

To be honest I never cleaned my penis, never really got taught.

[Leon03]

they're are both 9 years old and I'm unsure if they're uncut I don't really go around looking but I guess they are as my mum asked me to do this
Regardless if they are uncut or not they should clean 'donw there' properly. Yet I am wondering why your mom asked you to teach them.
You might teach them the fun way. This would be easier for you - maybe when you take a mutual shower or during a sea battle in your bathtub :yeah:.
In a way like "Hey did you know that older boys have to do this" and show them.

[CuteGuy889]

My mom had my older sis to make sure that I wear clean undies....So after I dress up if she is unsure she'd get me to pull my pants down and see if I have a clean pair of briefs on...Thats all...no cleaning stuff.

[ashdaniel]

Well, if a much younger brother it is not that embarrass. Just tell your brother to clean him wiener at shower. If he is uncut tell him to pull down the foreskin if not just wash the glan. Your mom tell you to talk to your brother how to clean up properly. She didn't ask you to wash your brother. If you fell comfortable, go show you brother at shower how to clean up once if not just tell him how. It is total normal if you don't have a older male in your family.

[Just JT]

I don't have any siblings, but where I used to live, some of my friends did, and they were pretty close to their little brothers and stuff like that, they never seemed to have a problem teaching stuff like that, even more sometimes, some guys would help teach their younger brothers how to masturbate and stuff, I always thought it would be kinda cool to be that close with a sibling like a younger bro, maybe it was just that ur mom was askin u
but I'd say u need to suck up and help them out, cause if u don't, u might get someone else who will, and that may not be so cool...

[Jaffe]

they're are both 9 years old and I'm unsure if they're uncut I don't really go around looking but I guess they are as my mum asked me to do this

Actually, your mom should have either taught them or asked you to teach them, about 6 years ago, if we are talking about retracting the foreskin to clean. But they are still pretty young, so its best to teach them now.

If you are really scared of this, Leon03 had some good ideas. Make a game of it. But be sure to tell them that from now on, EVERY time they bath/shower, they need to do it. You'll be saving them from a lot of potential issues.

[fast8]

They are family nothing to be awkward about they are your brothers you should want to help them out and keep them healthy

[nklarke]

To be honest I never cleaned my penis, never really got taught.

So you have never cleaned your penis? If you're uncut I don't want to imagine what kind of stuff are you gonna find, even petrol would come out from there.

[Dreminsu]

It'll be a little awkward, but it's important to stay clean and once you talk about that kind of thing once or twice it should get easier.

[SethfromMI]

I can understand, but something like that it is actual important they learn from a guy, who actually has first hand experience what they are doing

[Tyson S]

So you have never cleaned your penis? If you're uncut I don't want to imagine what kind of stuff are you gonna find, even petrol would come out from there.


Well its clean to me. I just never knew to do so in the past or what not

[Semi_IronMan]

I think you should just do it., I mean you're both guys right

[Sports Boy]

Yeah, it might be awkward at first but maybe it could open up a whole line of communication between you and your brother. Really good relationships are built one awkward step at a time.

[ShibaWuffButt]

Thanks for all the advice guys in case you didn't already get it, both my brother's are 9, so yeah probably don't need my help actually.

[Jaffe]

Thanks for all the advice guys in case you didn't already get it, both my brother's are 9, so yeah probably don't need my help actually.

Actually, they probably DO need your help. If they've never been taught to retract their foreskins and wash, they need to be taught. And the earlier age the better.... lots of guys never do until they are teenagers, and have all kinds of issues. Best if they learn it the right way, before they start puberty. Boys dont just inherently know this stuff, they have to be taught, or at least told.

[ShibaWuffButt]

Actually, they probably DO need your help. If they've never been taught to retract their foreskins and wash, they need to be taught. And the earlier age the better.... lots of guys never do until they are teenagers, and have all kinds of issues. Best if they learn it the right way, before they start puberty. Boys dont just inherently know this stuff, they have to be taught, or at least told.

Aren't you supposed to leave it at the age though?

[Jaffe]

Aren't you supposed to leave it at the age though?

My mom taught me how to retract/clean under my foreskin when I was like 3 or 4 years old. The earlier you start retracting it to clean, the less likely you'll have a tight foreskin when you hit puberty. I think the idea is to start retracting it everyday, BEFORE puberty because once your dick starts to grow, if he foreskin isnt already stretched, it wont just naturally stretch and grow as fast as your penis does.

Plus, you get all kinds of stuff under your foreskin, even as a little kid. It gets a lot worse though, right as you hit puberty.

You probably know this stuff already... but seriously, get your bros started now, save them lots of trouble later. I am still amazed on VT at all the guys that never learned this as a kid.

[Mark2000]

You can do it. It's a challenge you can handle. Just be natural and tell what to do, if not circumcised then you have to tell or find a training video fir kids and show them. Good luck

[mychalo]

they're are both 9 years old and I'm unsure if they're uncut I don't really go around looking but I guess they are as my mum asked me to do this

They need to know, especially if they have a foreskin. They're your brothers, so even if it's a little embarrassing you should explain it to them. Important by that age to start pulling back their foreskin, and in the shower or bath helps.

[jockeyboy97]

Try not to be embarrassed. Their family, I'm cut and so is my brother. When we were younger my mom made me shower with him so that he could see how I cleaned my body. It worked I didn't say anything he automatically did what I did. My Mom didn't want to embarrass my brother by showing him how to wash.

[Bluebyrd]

Just bring it up jokingly

[Kjcj]

Just tell them to make sure they wash down there and clean the whole penis really well... thats all I had gotten as a kid...

[Olly2001]

My older brother taught me stuff like this as I was more comfortable talking to him about it compared to my dad. You'll be fine. Trust me they will be more embarrassed than you

[Colton8]

Teach them they're young so they won't find it awkward

[fandom_king]

Honestly, I just think you should show them because it could be difficult to understand when you're younger, but I don't think there's much as you can do

[SethfromMI]

even if it is awkward just do it man. they do have ot know to properly clean down there

[Andre 99]

I would still show them how to do it properly.
They may have figured it out themselves, but best to show them properly.

[Zerg]

If your mom can't help them, then you need to help them out. There is nothing wrong with teaching them how to stay healthy and clean down there.

[JavierDolan]

I think it's important for them to know, and to have an older brother teach them is great. I think if you're comforatable doing it, you should do it!

[Craig2000]

Yeah, they are family. I would simply ask whether they can pull it back and if they can then show them how to wash there.

[Harrier]

One more reason I'm glad I'm circumcised. My guess is that my parents (prolly my dad) gave me the lesson when I learned to bath alone, but I don't remember it. And being cut it prolly isn't a big deal that it's 100% clean always. I have a young bro tho and I think I could give him that lesson if my mom made me. It might be a bit weird, but 100% better than coming from mom!!!

[Gokingsgo12345]

Nothing wrong with that

[JustinG]

Try talking to him like you would a buddy or best friend if he asked.
Forget the family thing !

[sysrq]

I wish I had a brother to teach how to clean these things, instead I have a sister who is always angry and grumpy.