Crush on straight friend

[LoveDat]

hey!

I'm sorry if this is the wrong section..

Anyway I am 18 and gay but still closeted.. lately I've been considering coming out at least to my best friends..
Unfortunately I happen to have a crush on one of them. He is straight and I can't get him out of my head..
I know there is not much else to do but trying to get over it but I kinda wanna now what you guys think and if you have some advice :)

I am really close to him and I enjoy that and I am afraid a coming out will change that. the crush doesnt really make that decision easier :confused:

[Babs]

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[northy]

I'm sorry to say this, but telling him that you have a crush on him may ruin your friendship. On the other hand, he could be a closeted gay also, so it might be ok. I would recommend coming out first and seeing how he reacts to that. If all is well, then gradually drop hints about it, not in one go. Good luck. :)

[LoveDat]

thank you tho :)
telling him i have a rush on him wasnt really an option anyway I mean what are the chances that he is gay too :P

[Abhorrence]

Yeah, crushes on straight people are absolutely horrible and often quite inevitable but in most cases they are not going to happen. Even if you manage to get lucky, more often than not it is usually just due to a want to experiment and this can leave you with more feelings and no reciprocation. It's better to try to stop this crush sooner rather than later by trying to meet actual gay guys or whatever. Going on dates and stuff, not anything drastic.
I'd say coming out is a good option if you believe you'll get a good response, any sign of homophobia and I'd say don't do it.

[DoodleSnap]

Yeah, crushes on straight people are absolutely horrible and often quite inevitable but in most cases they are not going to happen. Even if you manage to get lucky, more often than not it is usually just due to a want to experiment and this can leave you with more feelings and no reciprocation. It's better to try to stop this crush sooner rather than later by trying to meet actual gay guys or whatever. Going on dates and stuff, not anything drastic.
I'd say coming out is a good option if you believe you'll get a good response, any sign of homophobia and I'd say don't do it.
^^^This is good advice.
Some people simply don't want a relationship with their own gender.
If you feel you have to come out, don't feel pressured to. If you want to come out to your friends, go ahead, but just be prepared for a wide range of responses. A lot of people aren't very educated on sexuality.

[RandAnonPers]

Dating while in the closet isn't always the best idea. You should make sure you are completely ready before you start dating. No need to rush anything.

[CosmicNoodle]

I thought my friends where straight till I came out to them, turns out most of my group is gay as fuck.

[ashdaniel]

This is the problem with us who still in the closet. I classified myself as bi eventhough I have only experience with guy. I did have crush with my str friends before but only momentary. I am afraid of coming out because I am afraid of ruining my friendship with my friends even though most of them are cool with LGBTQ community.

[LiamC]

Nothing good can really come of telling him I'm afraid. Unlees he's closeted too, there's nothing at all to gain (the best case scenario is "aw I'm flattered, it changes nothing") but perhaps so much to lose. It's just one of those things that sadly most of us suffer through and not a lot can be done about it :(